With modern dating apps such as Tinder it is now possible for someone to realistically find and go on a huge number of first dates. This was just not practical before the Internet. It would have taken a massive effort to just find and meet and then get a date with that number of people.
Surely this means people will become far more picky than they were in the past as they feel they have a larger possible pool to pick from. But if everyone becomes more picky does that mean the desirable people are getting many more offers than before and the less desirable then finding it impossible to develop long term partnerships?
As a 27 Yr old guy in SF, I agree with bot style dating.
I started out wanting to find a healthy relationship possibly leading to marriage and a happy life.
Then I realized that for women, dating is a hell lot easier today. They literally need to just swipe right because pretty much every man swipes right on every woman.
Poor women go in thinking these men want relationships.
So, even when they meet an above average guy, they think that this awesome guy really likes her(when the reality is he just wants a hookup)
As a result, women end up obsessing over the awesome guy and keep flaking on the genuine normal guy.
I ended up doing the same thing awesome guys do...meet a lot of women, and don't expect a good personality or anything good in return from women. Just hookup.
Am I happy? No. But at least I get laid.
TLDR:
Women put in zero effort I'm dating and flake a lot. Average women expect above average men. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
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[ 3.3 ms ] story [ 19.0 ms ] threadHas the love that was once been put into reproduction been "refined" into swiping left and right or writing bots?
Are the days gone of meeting someone, getting to know them, and saying "darn I like person"?
It's all so robotic, cold, and impersonal
Surely this means people will become far more picky than they were in the past as they feel they have a larger possible pool to pick from. But if everyone becomes more picky does that mean the desirable people are getting many more offers than before and the less desirable then finding it impossible to develop long term partnerships?
I started out wanting to find a healthy relationship possibly leading to marriage and a happy life.
Then I realized that for women, dating is a hell lot easier today. They literally need to just swipe right because pretty much every man swipes right on every woman.
Poor women go in thinking these men want relationships.
So, even when they meet an above average guy, they think that this awesome guy really likes her(when the reality is he just wants a hookup)
As a result, women end up obsessing over the awesome guy and keep flaking on the genuine normal guy.
I ended up doing the same thing awesome guys do...meet a lot of women, and don't expect a good personality or anything good in return from women. Just hookup.
Am I happy? No. But at least I get laid.
TLDR: Women put in zero effort I'm dating and flake a lot. Average women expect above average men. The juice is not worth the squeeze.