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This is horrifying to read. So if I'm not a breadwinner, my partner wont find me attractive is the takehome message.

I guess its true dont listen to what people say, watch what they do.

Im glad and sad, Im spending my sunday reviewing algorithms and new js frameworks for my career.

It's just one account though. Everyone is different and whilst some women might find it a problem, for other's it might not be one at all. Just like for some men it would be a problem not to be the breadwinner, whilst others might not care at all.

It's sunday and I have just enjoyed the day with my family. Whilst in the past I have often just spend my sundays coding, or catching up on the latest tech news, I _much_ prefer not to. Just do what makes you happy is what I'd say though :-)

Biology rears it's ugly head once again.
This happened to me. I left my wife. She stayed the same while I felt like I improved a lot. I'm sure I'll be told what a horrible person I am for making the immoral decision, but I'm happier, and that's all I care.
I have never believed that advice columns receive letters like this. I don't believe this one either.
I hate that I'm not confident enough in myself to have children because I don't think I can be the financial provider and a mother.

That's no small problem. The other thing is she kind of inadvertently experienced a bait-and-switch scenario. She married the man of her dreams, and then he turned into something else.

I did the full time mom thing. I did not marry for money, but the conflict between motherhood and career is very real and not just in her mind.