Ask HN: Tips to beat procrastination and lethargy?
A few weeks ago, I was getting no sleep. I was putting overtime every week working third shift and it was terrible for my mental health. Now I'm working three different jobs and going to school, all of which are flexible, but I still tend to oversleep during the day. I wake up at a decent time, but feel extremely sluggish and tired and often don't get up till early afternoon. On top of this, I'm a horrible procrastinator. Altogether this has cost me a good bit of money and is looking like it could cost me a job. What can I do to help remedy these issues?
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[ 4.2 ms ] story [ 18.4 ms ] threadOf course, there's some variation between individuals, but ultimately if you're oversleeping then your life will start to become a mess. Right now, I'm in one of those screwed-up timetables and I'm not getting anything done. I'm meant to be learning C++ and I've done nothing in ... what, three weeks now. I'm going to bed at 1, 2, or even 3am, getting up anywhere from 10am-12pm. By then, I've already lost the most productive part of my day. I really hate that I'm at my best during a morning, and it may be that you aren't. What really matters is the routine.
A few others have made comments about running or working out - it's not necessary to be that intensive. A 30 minute walk will do the same for you - do you have a dog? Does your neighbor or a friend? Do yourself (and it) a favor and take it for a walk. (I recommend against taking a beagle for a walk, though. As they're scent hounds, it'll lead you for hours when it's tracking something interesting.)
tl;dr on your day off, set your alarm for (say, not knowing your work schedule) 6am, and get up, regardless of how much sleep you've had. Live your life that day, then go to bed at ~10pm. Next day, get up at the sounding of your alarm. Do what you need to do, and sleep at 10pm that night. Keep it up, and try not to let it vary too much.
In fact, I might go and set my alarm right now...
I find meditating calms the mind and sets it up for the day. Try doing 10 minutes every morning. You can use the free sessions on the Headspace app to learn how to do it.
I find making lists helpful. Whether that would be what I need to do today or long-term goals which I review every week.
Also you might find the following book helpful: The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness
It really helped me! Amazon link: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Chimp-Paradox-Management-Programme-...
Having a terrible sleep schedule will predictably cause this.
> I wake up at a decent time
When do you go to sleep? How much sleep are you actually getting? Some people need 9 hours per night. If you are getting 7 hours per night and telling yourself that you're getting enough sleep, try getting 9 consistently. Then dial it back to 8.5 after a few weeks.
> don't get up til early afternoon
So your sleep schedule fluctuates by multiple hours day-to-day? That makes things a lot worse. Give yourself a consistent bedtime.
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Things that you can use to improve your sleep:
- The app Freedom, which you can use to block websites on your phone while you are working. You can also schedule it to auto-block starting at your bedtime.[1]
- The apps SelfControl and ColdTurkey, to do similar things.[2][3]
- The habit of running for a kilometer every day on a treadmill or sidewalk/pavement. You won't lose weight, but it will make your sleep and your focus better.
- The habit of repeating to yourself "this is uncomfortable but it is worth it and I am stronger than I think." When you have to do something you feel proctrastinatey about. For more on this, learn about Stoicism and Rational Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. Consider a therapist.
- The app Rainymood, which you can use as a cue to your body that it is time to sleep. Will also help you sleep through random noises.[4]
- Music that is up-tempo and mostly instrumental, such as taiko drumming, Lindsey Stirling, Natalie McMaster, or VNV Nation.[5]
- Amazon dot, which you can use to set a go-to-sleep alarm that you don't need to get out of bed to turn off for $50. [6]
- A physical alarm clock separate from your phone so you don't go from waking up to reading HN in bed.
- A sleeping mask to block the light out from your eyes for $9. [7]
- A better mattress for $190. [8]
Some of these things cost money. Losing your job costs more.
[1] https://freedom.to/
[2] https://selfcontrolapp.com/
[3] https://getcoldturkey.com/
[4] http://rainymood.com/
[5] https://music.amazon.com/user-playlists/a3d974e87a5b4c38b304...
[6] https://www.amazon.co.uk/Amazon-Echo-Dot-Generation-Black/dp...
[7] https://www.bedbathandbeyond.com/store/product/bucky-reg-40-...
[8] http://www.ikea.com/gb/en/products/mattresses/mattresses-top...
Just on this point (and your later point about running), I've found a Pebble Smartwatch to be helpful. It has built-in sleep tracking so you can measure your average sleep baseline, then see day to day if you've reached your baseline or not. I use the alarm features on the Pebble to remind me when I "should" be going to bed, and also to wake me up via vibration rather than audible alarm. I've found the built-in step counter to be extremely helpful too, and I did end up losing weight from it (but rather than 1km a day, I was doing 14km of walking).
Pebble has been discontinued unfortunately (FitBit Ionic is the supposed successor), but that means Pebbles are cheap on Amazon now, about $60.
> I wake up at a decent time, but feel extremely sluggish and tired and often don't get up till early afternoon.
Sounds like it still is.
Mental health can be a difficult juggling act. If you try and push too far, your physical limitations might not get in the way, but your mind might.
Sometimes you just need to care for yourself, and that can mean going without other things, or the opposite: treating yourself.
I don't know your nation or the situation there, but I'd recommend talking to a psychiatrist.
If it's overwork and no sleep, they can tell you to cut yourself some slack.
But, it could also be something like depression or anxiety, and they can diagnose and put you on the right track.
Don't try and push through on your own. There are experts, and their advice can be worth listening to.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/intrinsic-motivation-an...
Are you staring at a screen just before trying to sleep? Again, this may be impacting the quality of your sleep [2].
1: https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/alcohol-facts/health-effects-of...
2: http://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-sleep-smartphones/s...
Procrastination is a symptom of your burnout...
See if you can take on less work, but work that has higher pay. Rearrange your life so you don't have to kill yourself just to get by. Good luck!
Just five minutes a day concentrating to your breath helps me to stay alert.
This video might convince you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAcTIrA2Qhk
When you're procrastinating, do it by switching to a different important task (dishes, laundry, exercise, other work) rather than something like tv or reading the internet. You won't feel as demoralized that you accomplished nothing and it will help your overall well being.
When you're starting a task, break it into manageable chunks. A lot of procrastination for me is being overwhelmed by the scope of the work. Knock out a small chunk of it to feel like you've accomplished something and you'll remember that you actually like the work and overcome the initial dread.
Basically: Exercise, don't look at screens before you go to bed, go to bed at a regular time, make sure your sleeping place is just a place to sleep and a few other things.
https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-topics/sleep-hygiene
This book really helped me into stoping procastination and using my time in the things that I really wanted: "Self discipline in 10 days"
As stated above, the pomodoro technique is very useful. You can find a lot of webapps that you could use for that matter. In the beggining, I recommend you to use less work time if you struggle a lot (25 mins can be too much if you're not used to it)
For sleeping:
You can do a number of things, for example, excercising (also as stated above), it can range from running, swimming, playing a sport, weightlifting, etc, altough with your schedule it can be hard to fit in. Another resource that helped me at some point was drinking valerian extract (herb), some drops in a glass of water are pretty good. Also, you can try what in psychotherapy (more accurate in logotherapy) is called as paradoxical intention. Instead of trying to fall asleep by forcing it, just try to stay awake as long as you can. Eventually you will be so tired that you will fall asleep and have a good night.
Hope this helps.
What I found more useful:
1. Deep Work, by Cal Newport. This is much more applicable for software engineers.
2. anything by Jocko Wilink. This is sort of the Navy Seal route, build grit and so on. Jocko's stuff is not fun to read, but there's a lot of insights.
3. Peak performance, basically how to do really intense stuff in the long term. Spoiler: the secret is in working hard and resting hard, and often the rest is more difficult than the work.
2. How is your diet? Fast food, junk, might contribute to feeling sluggish. Drink enough water each day. Maybe some green tea.
3. Exercise! Make time for it.
4. Make a list for the next day of things you NEED to accomplish.
For me, I have found that eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep have done wonders for my energy, mental clarity and goals! I get up every day, drink some tea and then look at my list of tasks I MUST accomplish that day. This helps me hit the ground running.
I used to have an overnight job, 10pm - 8am and it killed my ability to do much of anything else. You are up all night while others are sleeping, then you get home and you need sleep. If you sleep to much then you can't run errands or even get much of anything done before you need to think about going back for the next 10pm - 8am shift. Stopping working this job was huge for me.
Are you really working 3 jobs and not able to guarantee making rent? I can't imagine what that must feel like.
2> I wake up at a decent time, but feel extremely sluggish and tired
3> I'm a horrible procrastinator
I think 2 and 3 are direct results of 1. It looks like you're already squeezing yourself as hard as possible, and I don't think any amount of discipline will force more productivity out of yourself without extremely bad consequences. You may as well ask how to save up for a house when you can only spare pennies every week!
Once you're not so atrociously overcommitted your sleep and execution will get much better. Having to work 3 jobs to keep a roof over your head while going to school is an environmental problem, not a personal one.
Sleep helps your body regulate stress including mood. The lack of sleep can be attributed to your procrastination, as well as other possible health issues such as a lack of focus and lack of self-discipline. You're not at your optimum best.
In addition, I noticed avoiding caffeine (or going decaf) is pretty helpful. Too much caffeine reduces the quality of sleep. I personally noticed sleeping upwards up to 8 hours and feeling like I only slept 3 hours -- because my body was over-caffeinated. Cutting-down caffeine (or going cold turkey) helps a lot in the quality of sleep.
For focus -- meditation will help greatly. Learning how to meditate and doing it daily even for 10 minutes will train/discipline your mind.
[1] http://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/should-statements/
I've been a night owl for most of my younger life, and only started going to bed earlier after 30. I've noticed that even if I sleep the same number of hours, I feel more energetic if my sleep hours are just earlier. For example if you're going to sleep 6~7 hours a night (which is minimum I'd say), doing a 10pm - 5pm sleep schedule would make you feel better than if you did say 2am - 9am.
I don't know the science behind why that is, probably something to do with natural human biological clocks.
You mentioned your 3 jobs and school are all flexible, so it shouldn't be too hard to adjust your sleep schedule.