Ask HN: I seem to suck at interviews. I don't want to. Please advise.

Start applying to lots of companies, especially companies where you do not or are not sure you want the job. Go with the goal of getting practice interviewing instead of getting the job. Not caring if you get the job will take the pressure off of the interview.

When you do not get the job, ask for feedback as to why. Ask questions about the feedback, drill in. If it is a recruiter giving you the news, ask them if you can speak with the hiring manager or if she can request more feedback from the hiring manager, or since you got the managers contact information in the interview, email them and tell them you are trying to get better at interviewing and ask them for some feedback and advice.

Then one day, you will start getting job offers. As for this Friday, while you cannot stop wanting it, look at it this way: It is either going to be good practice, or you will get the job. Either way win-win.

* Acknowledge your fear/unease up front, hopefully with a little bit of humor. "I get a bit nervous during interviews" and the accompanying "don't worry - relax, can I get you a drink?" sort of banter may help take the edge off. You've explained that you're a bit uncomfortable, but ideally they'll see you working through that.

* Bring code samples. You may be more at ease discussing something that's physically in front of both of you.

* References - it might help to bring some written references with you. Depending on how the interview is going, you may be able to point out something in writing that pertains to what you're discussing (previous projects, etc). "Sometimes I forget some of these things and need to have my notes with me" or some rationalization like that, done smoothly, won't seem out of place at all. Some may see it as the sign of someone who's sharp and on the ball, able to go beyond 'winging it' and prepare with extra material even when it's something which is difficult to do.

There's no universal way to deal with it - everyone's reasons are different. That said, make an effort to prepare even if you're not at ease with it.

How do you handle not knowing something in a trivia centered interview? For example; what datastructure does a database index use?

Is there a good way to say you don't know without looking unqualified?

Also what if you used a certain technology A LOT say 5 years ago and now you remember nothing about it off the top of your head. How do you say "Yeah, I can do that, but I can't tell you much about it"? This is assuming you didn't know about that requirement before the interview to refresh your memory.

The question 'is he good enough?' is just one among many - and at this stage it's the one you can do the least about, so try to let go of that. Sure, you can study long-term and increase your chances of passing certain types of technical interview. But if the job is really a good fit for you, you'll already be doing that kind of study because you're interested regardless of whether you need it for an interview.

Of course, practice is still useful. Don't just practice being interviewed, practice giving interviews - then you'll get an idea of what the interviewer is thinking. Will this guy fit in my team? Is he going to stay interested in the job?

One other tip- try and make sure you have other possibilities before you go into an interview so you don't have to feel like everything is riding on this moment.

A big part of the issue is most likely that you are making the interview and job opportunity to be a more significant thing than it really is in the grand scheme of things. Don't approach it with a completely careless attitude, but go in looking at it more like a casual first date where you are BOTH getting to know each other equally.

If you don't know something specifically, then say so, maybe describe how you would find the answer in real life. Be aware if you rely too much on "crutches", maybe you need to reassess your skills if you can't write 100 lines of code without finding half the answers on Google (just generalizing here).

Think about what type of narrative you want to tell. It needs to be...I am the best X for you. You know your own life, so you just plug in those experiences into your narrative and you have an awesome interview.

Basically, once you do this you only have to worry about your competency. Which you sound very competent, so that is less of a concern and you can now relax because you have both the job down both is skills and narrative department.

Apply to jobs above and below your current qualifications simply for the practice of interviewing. That way when you interview for a job you're excited about you'll have been in the same situation several times and can focus on the questions asked instead of being nervous.

Good luck.

Well, try preparing then. Try doing a "mock interview" with a couple of friends. Practice answers to the typical dumb interview questions ("What is your greatest strength?"). Bring along a nice looking "portfolio" folder with your resume, samples of work, that kind of thing, that way you have something to talk about and visually distract yourself from being nervous.

For example, instead of waiting for a question to test your knowledge about their language of choice, you could ask them whether they use it this or that way and mention your level of experience. If they still ask the question and you do not know the answer, you can at least say 'nope, no clue what you are talking about', without the feeling that they only know what you don't know.

If possible make some educated guesses about their infrastructure and ask questions that reflect that you did your homework.

Already said, but important enough to repeat: Be honest. If you are nervous, tell them. If you do not know an answer, admit it. If you are not sure if you understood something, ask again.

When they didn't get through, they just lost it. They completely lost every bit of confidence they had, lost interest in studies, and fucked up their college and careers for good.

I don't blame the parents. Every parent thinks his son/daughter is the next Einstein and instills this "get into IIT or you are an utter failure in life", and sadly this gets drilled into their heads pretty early in life.

What needs to be understood is that not every genius in India gets into IIT, because there just aren't enough seats, and there are too many really smart people around. At the end of it, only those who are smart AND work insanely hard get into. And I really don't think any less of anyone who doesn't, like the parents and the students themselves shouldn't.

Get this in your head: It doesn't matter if you got into IIT or not. At some point, no one cares. Hell, I don't even have a college degree yet because I keep dropping years, and there are still companies trying to lure me with good development jobs and attractive salaries, which freshers start earning only a few years down the line! (I am still a student in India by the way)

If you have a masters degree in CS in a good school and have got to the Google interviews, you must be a pretty smart programmer.

Get this in your head, and build some confidence.

Even if your technical knowledge is limited, concentrate on your strengths: practical experience, a positive attitude, fluent communication, a good fit with the company ethos, a positive contribution to the working environment, etc. That's two thirds of it right there; it's not all technical. Investigate the company and make sure you understand what distinguishes it from the competition in terms of company culture. Try to understand the company's vision statement and what it entails.

Also think that you have a broad choice of jobs on the market, that these guys have to convince you to work for them: they have to show they are offering a good working environment, decent career prospects, a competitive salary package. Be the opposite of desperate: you're in a strong position, you have all the choices, they have to entice you.

Even if I can't answer all their questions. I generally behave as if I were a very valuable potential asset for the company, which they will have to work hard to acquire. I certainly don't think they are doing me any kind of a favour by offering a job: how would their company function without decent workers?? If I have any doubts about the company, its training policy, its promotions, its financial viability, I ask them, I put the interviewers on the defensive, so they try to convince me that it is worth my while to work for them.

When you get to the financial part, don't sell yourself short, and don't look greedy either. I find that a 10% raise on my previous package usually strikes the right balance. Sometimes you can ask for 15%, and then let the guys negotiate it down to 10%, so they have the impression they got a bargain.

Usually this approach catches interviewers on the wrong foot and reverses the roles. I get a lot of offers, even though I don't have a degree in IT, and I'm an average programmer (I studied philosophy).

To sum up: - be empathic with the interviewer - be positive about your market prospects - have a deep understanding of this particular company's vision, why you want to work for them, what positive contribution you can make - be upfront if you have any qualms about the company or the role - be clear about your strengths and know that you are not being judged exclusively on your technical abilities - make the interviewers work to convince you to sign a contract

Almost risk free for them, and a win for you if you can deliver.

Also, it wouldn't hurt to have a previous employer on call that can vouch for your abilities. If the 'process' doesn't work well for you try to bend it to your liking.

This approach will not work with large companies by the way, they do things 'by the book' for fear of liability, but a sympathetic interviewer at a smaller company would be a good place to try this strategy.

If I were the interviewer and you'd approach me with such candour I would almost certainly give you the chance (the 'almost' is a caveat against some unknown quantity that would trigger my red flags).

The key to success in any interview is preparation. In the lead up to an interview it is imperative that you adequately research the company. I don't just mean reading the 'About Us' section on their website but detailed research. Look up previous press releases, media coverage etc. If you get an opportunity to talk to a past or present employee, regardless of whether they are in a similar role or not, take it.

Have a list of relevant questions prepared. Not questions you think may impress but questions that relate specifically to your role and questions based on the direction the company are heading always go down well. One ridiculous mistake I see people make time and again is bringing in a copy of their CV to the interview and referring to it for dates or specifics, this basic error tends to leave people thinking that they shouldn't bring in any material to an interview which isn't entirely true. I have had some outstanding feedback from various clients who were massively impressed with candidates who pulled out a concise, printed list of questions at the point of the interview where they asked them if they had any questions for them.

More and more companies (with the exception of Google) now acknowledge the fact that an important aspect of the interview is that it is an opportunity for the candidate to ensure that it is the right company for them.

If you go in to an interview thinking, I need this job, I need to impress then you will always be on the back foot. Take a consultative approach to an interview and you will blow them away. What I mean by consultative is that you need to acknowledge the fact that the company is already confident that on paper you have the skills that they are looking for, otherwise they wouldn't waste their time seeing you. The reason they want to speak to you face to face is to ensure that you were being truthful about the claims you make on your CV and to ensure you have a likeable, professional personality and to ensure you have a genuine interest in joining their company.

Unfortunately 'personality fit' is a huge factor in the recruitment process these days. I say unfortunately as it is almost impossible to quantify so the advice I give my candidates is to be honest and be yourself, that way, if they feel that your personality doesn't align with what they look for in an employee you have just avoided joining a company where you would have to suppress your personality and conform to what they feel is acceptable. In my opinion this would be a nightmare over a long period of time.

I know I would have done well at most of the jobs where I didn't get through the interviews At some point during an interview you will most likely be asked to point out some of your weaknesses. I would honestly recommend repeating the above quote from your original post verbatim. Let them know that you strengths shine through when you get your head down and get stuck into the actual job but you sometimes struggle to communicate that during an interview without sounding clichéd. Everyone says 'I'm a hard worker with a great work ethic' but how many of them fulfil that claim on the job? You know you're a hard worker, you know that you can prove it if given the opportunity and at this point I would turn it around on them, ask them: How long does it take you to figure out if someone is as good at the job as they claim to be during the interview? Honest employers will say anywhere between 2 to 6 weeks. I would then point out that you are not interested in telling them what they want to hear but you only want to be honest and you know full well that you can do this job and you can do it really well and that will become immediately evident when they hire you.

Once again, be prepared. I know you struggle with this but if you really want the job, put time aside to make sure you are prepared.

Feel free to ask any other questions & I'll do my best to give you honest answers.

Good luck.

The key is to basically stop caring what strangers think of you. You could try doing karaoke or amature night at like a standup club or poetry reading. Strike up conversations with complete strangers.

Another thing to keep in mind, if your personality doesn't mesh well with the interviewer, there is a good chance that you wouldn't have fit in well with the corporate culture.