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Ask HN: What brings you joy, without a relationship?

6 points by valueprop ↗ HN
Healthy male, 38, financially secure. Being depressed about not having a relationship/wife/family, doing counseling for 3 months already. Rather than focusing on what's missing, I'm working on focusing what I could do on my own.

What activities which don't depend on having a SO bring you joy?

Thanks for sharing.

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montrose
Learning new things. Making things. Making the world better in some way. Doing something I wasn't able to before. Exercise. Seeing things I've always wanted to see.
sharemywin
Do you have a friend(s) you can go do things with?
valueprop
Not really. I have 3 friends, all married with kids.
sharemywin
maybe join a cooking class or something like that.
taylodl
In my case it's playing guitar and practicing a martial art. I like these activities because I get some time away from my SO and it has nothing to do with programming or tech so I get a break from work as well.
Neowizard
Making/building stuff. Be it home improvement or just some gizmo, it makes me feel free
meric
Continue your journey and walk the path of becoming the best person you can be. The further you're on it, the more people want to join you for a ride. It's not uncommon for men to start a family at 45, you have time; Face your emotions and wants head on & keep going!