She can handle her own life -- she can turn a creep down, strike up a friendship, or start a romantic relationship. None of those are your business, unless one or the other initiates force.
As for the use of toilets -- isn't the US in the midst of a transgender-driven tumult to make every toilet available to any gender? if Americans built toilets that are individual instead of rows of see-through stalls this transition would be easier. You could direct your ire to that, instead of bad-mouthing someone who was tasked with making life easier for conference attendees.
If someone was making fun of an awkward, possibly autistic looking man, because he had long untrimmed fingernails (or whatever insecure insults bullies dish these days)... would it be your business? Would you step in? What if the person being ridiculed wasn’t a stranger but a friend, would you step in? What if it was your brother?
Everyone is allowed to defend themselves, but in big crowds, people put up with a lot more bullshit to keep the peace for those around them, even when it costs them a great deal of anguish.
..My point being that even though we wish these situations were black and white, our humanity should make us see the gray. So sometimes when we see someone considering jumping on a social grenade for us, we should consider doing the same for them.
No opinion on episode 2, however episode 1 — nice way to infantilize the woman. It wasn’t like she was drunk and not aware of her surroundings. Presumably she was an adult and should be trusted to take care of herself.
If some woman was creeping on some guy, would we have the same conversation? If not, then we are actually being sexist in our loud protest against sexism.
If it were some dark alley or similar locale and the woman would have had reasonable fear for her safety, this would be a different discussion. At WWDC, there is security all over the place, so any intervention in that circumstance is simply a signal that grown women ought to be treated as some kind of fragile child. It’s insulting in my opinion.
1st incident is understandable if you look at in a different light. I have 5 sisters and I’ve heard this often enough that it’s become a reflex of mine to pretend to be a stranger’s best gay friend in order to make it much easier for them to get out of an awkward situation without causing a scene.
(FYI - Not gay, it just makes it easier to give non-verbal queues to the girl, that I’m trying to be a ‘sista-from-anotha-mista’. Most girls understand I’m a stranger doing them a solid within a split second. Once the situation is defused, girls always thank me for saving them from having to punch a guy.
“No worries, I got 5 sisters, I know what it means when a girl is pissed yet politely smiling between clenching her teeth and fists”... they’re not defenseless, just in a position they hate being in because if they defend themselves they risk looking like an asshole.
The girl got up early to get good seats and she probably didn’t want to give them up to avoid the guy, as well as didn’t want to put her foot down and risk awkwardly standing next to the creep in line for a long ass time.
The first situation was something that was a tough call of whether or not to intervene, and she was upset she didn’t. Understandable.
Second was silly... A female staff member, doesn’t matter who she’s employed by, was trying to help fellow humans relieve the pain in their bladder by guiding them to the (mostly) empty women’s bathroom. I’ve literally done the same things for a long line at the women’s restroom when there was only a two person line at the men’s.
(I simply said: “Hey ladies, there are 5 empty stalls in here, I’ll hold the line out here... whoever feels like they’re going to piss and/or shit themselves, head in. Let’s see if we can knock down the size of your line.”)
Stop turning your disappointment in yourself onto others. You’re hurting not helping, unlike the nice female attendant at the overcrowded bathrooms.
People are upset now days on all the things even people doing shit.
"Any individual can’t single handedly fix what’s wrong with this industry but if we don’t each do our small part, how can we expect the cultural change this industry needs?"
Now he is blaming whole industry for this.
Please stop making issues at everything and do some good with your time.
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[ 2.7 ms ] story [ 30.9 ms ] threadAs for the use of toilets -- isn't the US in the midst of a transgender-driven tumult to make every toilet available to any gender? if Americans built toilets that are individual instead of rows of see-through stalls this transition would be easier. You could direct your ire to that, instead of bad-mouthing someone who was tasked with making life easier for conference attendees.
Spare us the unappealing, self-indulgent angst.
If someone was making fun of an awkward, possibly autistic looking man, because he had long untrimmed fingernails (or whatever insecure insults bullies dish these days)... would it be your business? Would you step in? What if the person being ridiculed wasn’t a stranger but a friend, would you step in? What if it was your brother?
Everyone is allowed to defend themselves, but in big crowds, people put up with a lot more bullshit to keep the peace for those around them, even when it costs them a great deal of anguish.
..My point being that even though we wish these situations were black and white, our humanity should make us see the gray. So sometimes when we see someone considering jumping on a social grenade for us, we should consider doing the same for them.
If some woman was creeping on some guy, would we have the same conversation? If not, then we are actually being sexist in our loud protest against sexism.
If it were some dark alley or similar locale and the woman would have had reasonable fear for her safety, this would be a different discussion. At WWDC, there is security all over the place, so any intervention in that circumstance is simply a signal that grown women ought to be treated as some kind of fragile child. It’s insulting in my opinion.
(I simply said: “Hey ladies, there are 5 empty stalls in here, I’ll hold the line out here... whoever feels like they’re going to piss and/or shit themselves, head in. Let’s see if we can knock down the size of your line.”)
Stop turning your disappointment in yourself onto others. You’re hurting not helping, unlike the nice female attendant at the overcrowded bathrooms.
"Any individual can’t single handedly fix what’s wrong with this industry but if we don’t each do our small part, how can we expect the cultural change this industry needs?"
Now he is blaming whole industry for this.
Please stop making issues at everything and do some good with your time.