Ask HN: How to get my “If in [contact list]” email rule applied from server?

Hey! My email is driving me crazy. On Mac—I have a beautiful inbox that just works. On iOS—I have a crazy inbox that dumps everything in my Inbox. Would love to apply my rules based framework at server-level. Oddly-Outlook, Gmail, among others don't have a "Apply rule to [Contact List]". Anyone know of a good server that can do this?