A simple "no, this has been discussed before" is plenty respectful. there's no need to spend any more words on it unless someone specifically challenges with new and relevant information.
Having a CoC doesn't mean you have to entertain crazy ideas, it just means your response should be a plain "no" instead of "no, you crazy fool" even if that's what you really think.
Is there some scientific data on things like this?
I'm really not sure if replacing the made-up imbalance stemming from individual confidence by a new made-up imbalance stemming from rule police is the less painful solution for a community as a whole.
Honestly, I'll just go ahead and call BULLSHIT on this.
If people keep on telling what is wrong firmly, in factual, non-personal and non insulting ways, I cannot imagine why things would go wrong.
Conflicts are needed and can be respectful.
I'm just a random person on the Internet, but I would trust Linus Torvalds and his experience on allowing these changes. He is clever.
From what I've heard from him, he is probably not quitting speaking up his disagreements as soon as possible in any way. And actually, from what I saw, most of his mails are actually kind, factual and respectful.
Insult me, or someone else, or show some disrespect, I'll just leave / not come or get in your way because I can't stand it. Simple. Problem is, I'm sure there are competent people out there who's contributions are / would be valuable who are like me. There is no way around it.
You can still tell me I am doing something (badly) wrong in an efficient way. You should not hide this fact to me if you feel like I should be made aware about it. Just don't take the time to write that I should be retroactively aborted (well, actually, I personally found this idea incredibly funny, but this is still unwarranted and harmful, especially when abortion is a sensitive subject for many people).
edit: Hurting people's feelings is probably unavoidable, but effort can be make to limit it.
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[ 2.1 ms ] story [ 25.5 ms ] threadLooking forward to future "respectful" responses to proposals for switching to modern C++ and using the STL.
Having a CoC doesn't mean you have to entertain crazy ideas, it just means your response should be a plain "no" instead of "no, you crazy fool" even if that's what you really think.
I'm really not sure if replacing the made-up imbalance stemming from individual confidence by a new made-up imbalance stemming from rule police is the less painful solution for a community as a whole.
Honestly, I'll just go ahead and call BULLSHIT on this.
Boooooooooooooo!
Conflicts are needed and can be respectful.
I'm just a random person on the Internet, but I would trust Linus Torvalds and his experience on allowing these changes. He is clever. From what I've heard from him, he is probably not quitting speaking up his disagreements as soon as possible in any way. And actually, from what I saw, most of his mails are actually kind, factual and respectful.
Insult me, or someone else, or show some disrespect, I'll just leave / not come or get in your way because I can't stand it. Simple. Problem is, I'm sure there are competent people out there who's contributions are / would be valuable who are like me. There is no way around it.
You can still tell me I am doing something (badly) wrong in an efficient way. You should not hide this fact to me if you feel like I should be made aware about it. Just don't take the time to write that I should be retroactively aborted (well, actually, I personally found this idea incredibly funny, but this is still unwarranted and harmful, especially when abortion is a sensitive subject for many people).
edit: Hurting people's feelings is probably unavoidable, but effort can be make to limit it.