#metoo. My first child just turned 10 and I always feel I did/am doing everything with her. Hiking, boating, ice skating... even though I don't know what I am getting into most of the time at my age. I am just dropping by to see if others have some awesome ideas.
As a guy, getting into fights to defend myself instead of keeping it under the lid and festering in anger. This keeps up your self esteem and cuts back years of therapy.
Consequences are much lower - a few cuts and bruises here and there from a schoolyard scuffle. Kids don’t really know how to fight and aren’t super buff yet. You also quickly learn to avoid them and talk your way out of problems. Or at least develop some good smack talk.
If you actually had a father, that is what he would tell you after your mother scolds you and tell you to avoid conflict. This helps in developing your masculinity.
Getting into fights as an adult is worse. You might get knifed and the fighters are stronger. It’s also a dumb thing to do.
I'm not a parent but I would encourage parents to try and challenge their children to do things beyond their comfort zone, whether that's academically, socially, physically or otherwise. Some of the most valuable lessons a parent can impart on a child is confidence and resilience and challenging kids to do things they are scared of helps impart this wisdom.
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[ 0.15 ms ] story [ 19.4 ms ] threadConsequences are much lower - a few cuts and bruises here and there from a schoolyard scuffle. Kids don’t really know how to fight and aren’t super buff yet. You also quickly learn to avoid them and talk your way out of problems. Or at least develop some good smack talk.
If you actually had a father, that is what he would tell you after your mother scolds you and tell you to avoid conflict. This helps in developing your masculinity.
Getting into fights as an adult is worse. You might get knifed and the fighters are stronger. It’s also a dumb thing to do.