Ask HN: What to do if i only manage to attract goldiggers?

Maybe try to meet people in non-professional contexts - I met my girlfriend via a language learning group, for example.

We were already friends before she knew what I did and certainly very good friends before she had any idea of my salary.

That said I'm not 'noveau-rich' just well-paid for my age and area.

Unless you're a celebrity, the only thing people know about you is what you tell them.

Stop acting like a 'nouveau rich' - that is like dead meat to gold digging flies... What kind of car do you drive etc ... Notice how the rich usually dress down in casually public places - shopping etc. Avoid live-in girls, amazing how soon them are common law wives after a while. Never allow a girl to change her address to yours because she moves so often. After 2 years she can point to her drivers licence etc as proof she lived with you for many years, and btw = half of what you have...

I would guess that you're spending a lot of time, angst and money on your 'image': flash watch, flash clothes, flash car, flash house. That's just normal for the "newly minted .... wealthy."

People who are born to money never need to display it. They have the quiet confidence that it's there when they want to use it, and never need to 'prove something'.

So their clothes are very often not flash, and maybe even a good brand that was picked up cheap at a Goodwill Store.

They might drive a good but quite old car that isn't/wasn't 'top of range' like maybe a 5-year-old Mercedes C-class. Why have an extra-expensive sports car? The C-Class is good enough for local driving up to say 300 miles. Anything further and you travel by air and very probably in Business Class.

What aspects of your personality would be appealing to a partner even if you were broke? Cultivate those.