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| In 20 years, my life has come full circle, 360 degrees for real. People often say 360 degrees when they mean 180. They say full circle when they’re really talking about a semicircle.
I've never experience this, is it common for some group of people to use 180 to mean "the same" vs "completely different"?
There was a joke when the XBox 360 came out: "it's called the 360 because your turn 360 degrees and walk away" but that doesn't answer your question, sorry.
That caught my eye too. Maybe it's a west coast thing.
In the midwest, to do a 180 is to go in a completely different direction, and to come full-circle is to return to where you were after some long journey.
No, I think she just poorly wrote it. "Coming full circle" always means to return to where you started. But sometimes people say "turned it around 360 degrees" when they really mean 180.
Isn't a full circle 360 degrees though? Coming back to where you started makes sense in a 180 degree turn, you're now looking back on your previous path and looking at the origin.
I'm incredibly confused. That's just a blatant disregard for math. I guess maybe if you change while turning you end up in the same place, changed, but different, and possibly dizzy?
Here (Australia) the phrase 'backflip' is sometimes used to deride a politician's change of mind. I guess if there's enough twisting and turning involved, we don't think too hard about the end result when creating these metaphors.
It depends on how old you are. Life is funny and never turns our how you thought it would. I do like going back and reading the article "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" by Mary Schmich (popularized by Baz Luhrmann in the song 'Everybody's Free') from time to time[1]
[1] (snippet)
> Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth
oh nevermind;
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded
> But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…
You are not as fat as you imagine
Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum
> The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday
Sadly not available in the EU, so I can't even confirm the link isn't broken. If it's not, that's the original column, titled "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" from 1997 by Mary Schmich, on which the song was based :)
I'm 47, a father of two, happily married to high school sweetheart, about to send first kid off to college. I also found the article very sad: not even a pet to cuddle. :-(
But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy.
So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.
Their life seems to be a journey and direction different from the norm, yet they seem to be fairly ok with it.
It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it.
Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)
>The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.
The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.
I read this article and saw only a wistful look back at the past, contrasting with her life now. I didn't detect any sort of sadness. I read her coming to the realization that she's happy as she is, a single woman in her forties.
This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.
I think there's more to life than settling into a fixed set point. Life is interactive: you can improve your experience by putting in the right kind of effort and getting lucky. For example, the author wrote this article and made a strong connection with a bunch of strangers on the internet. Even if the author doesn't feel that way, I do, and that's enough for me. Agency is a muscle, exercise it!
One of the things about getting older and divorced, people use to join organizations at higher rates, now we moved to online communities and an online/mobile life.
With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc.
I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least 20 years younger so I didn't ask to be sponsored. My friend in Ireland joined the Masons, he says the lodges are filled with younger people from 20s and up.
I read the "Starting over" and think, did you change your hobbies and activities too? There's so much to do now, how can one be bored. Even a trip to the library and parks is cheap and free.
I'm seriously considering something like odd fellows (thanks for reminding me of them) - exactly for the non-work social and community aspects - but with a secular flavor ( I have some family members who are in the Lions club).
A buddy of mine mentioned "mastermind" groups too.
Maybe a dumb questions, but what does a person do as a member of the Masons? Is it all dinners and connections? Is there community outreach? What do the Masons do?
Apparently an unpopular opinion. Anybody could have predicted this outcome because it keeps happening over and over again while a whole new generation of women line up to chase the wild goose.
Please explain your "wild goose" comment. The parent comment is unviewable now so I'm curious what you're talking about. As a guy near the author's age, I have had some interesting observations of my own about single women over the age of 35.
Very unpopular (flagged). It's a harsh world where we live, especially when there exists harsh data resulting from this type of glorification in rich countries.
I, on the other hand, found the article extremely interesting and well written, even so much so that I saved it to my meager list of articles I may want to reread later.
TLDR no children so she lives actually all the time same, note just without husband with updated technologies, glad i didn't waste my time with this ballast
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I did quit using Medium (content create) over that shit.
I've never experience this, is it common for some group of people to use 180 to mean "the same" vs "completely different"?
In the midwest, to do a 180 is to go in a completely different direction, and to come full-circle is to return to where you were after some long journey.
Well, they did just blow $77 billion dollars on a non existent high speed rail. So yeah, maybe it is a West coast thing.
I can imagine "360 degrees" being used by people who are bad at math or not thinking about it, though.
In the article the author really means 360, though, because she's back where she started.
[1]: https://youtu.be/g751-jjKXC0
https://youtu.be/g751-jjKXC0
Non expert doesn't have kids and finds that after her divorce, life(like eating, coffee, etc...) didn't change much.
Did anyone learn anything from this article?
[1] (snippet)
> Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded
> But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked… You are not as fat as you imagine Don't worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum
> The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday
Sadly not available in the EU, so I can't even confirm the link isn't broken. If it's not, that's the original column, titled "Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young" from 1997 by Mary Schmich, on which the song was based :)
But, the piece is well written and I don't think the author is sad, nor asking for sympathy.
So I'm conflicted in how I feel about it. The author also seems conflicted about whether she wants a man in her life.
It also seems like they'd be pretty unhappy if they'd had a life like yours (father of two ...), more because it's not suitable for them rather than there anything being wrong with it.
Overall, seems like an interesting - and potentially useful reminder that "it takes all kinds to make the world go around". ;)
The way I read it, it seemed very much like she was an independent woman who really didn't have any great yearning for a close relationship with a man. There's a lot of women out there like that, and honestly, we'd all be a lot better off if they would just admit this to themselves, and stop looking for boyfriends/husbands and just look for casual relationships instead. Someone like that isn't going to be a good relationship partner, and then is going to cause a lot of emotional devastation for some unlucky man.
This article actually made me feel really good but I am a divorced woman of 40. It's nice to see other women in the same situation enjoying life without feeling the need to partner up again. Some of us were just made to be solitary creatures.
With a fulltime job and you working till death, you don't have time to do much. The local eagles/lions/moose/etc club, you at least got to go out and have dinner, chat with people, make friends, etc.
I checked out the local Masons lodge, and I was at least 20 years younger so I didn't ask to be sponsored. My friend in Ireland joined the Masons, he says the lodges are filled with younger people from 20s and up.
I read the "Starting over" and think, did you change your hobbies and activities too? There's so much to do now, how can one be bored. Even a trip to the library and parks is cheap and free.
* There are standing meeting nights that I can go to for social contact
* It does good work in the community
* It lets you meet folks outside of work circles
* It lets you have an opportunity to build soft and leadership skills
* If I have to leave for a while because of work or other time commitments, I know I can rejoin in 1, 5 or 10 years and be welcomed back.
Highly recommend. Even easier if you can get a group of folks to join. And most of the older members I chatted with were thrilled to have new members.
(ps. fwiw - portland or)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sub-replacement_fertility
https://data.worldbank.org/indicator/SP.DYN.TFRT.IN?location...
Have a great day everybody.