Social Media Moderation without Banning
Let users choose their moderators.
Allow user created moderation groups.
Let users follow multiple moderation groups.
Hide posts or users moderated by group.
Show conflicts if two groups disagree on what or who to ban.
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[ 1.8 ms ] story [ 514 ms ] thread1. Moderation is a thankless task, and it's unclear why anyone would put in the effort to bootstrap a "moderation group" -- it could be a huge amount of work for zero members
2. Legal liability - the site administrators still need to moderate away illegal content that could get the site closed down
3. Fragmentation - users segregate into separate communities polarized by some conflict or other, which would probably lead to weird community dynamics
It's essentially the idea of having a few subreddits about the same topic, like r/btc and r/bitcoin. (Or something like that, I'm ignoring both.) Both are about the same topic and the difference is how they filter the post and interact with the community.
The alternative is to have both groups in a single big supersubreddit, and some users can choose to filters the users baned by the r/btc moderator, some users can chose to filter the users banned by the r/bitcoin moderators, some users can choose to filter both, and some users can choose to filter neither. (And there are a few more alternatives, the mods can add whitelist too and you can combine them.) I don't know if it may work, but the brigade wars would be amazing.
4chan.. 8chan.. Voat.. every community no matter how free and anarchic has a line somewhere that will get you banned if you cross it. Even "anything, as long as it's legal" means "anything illegal gets banned."
Users decide if they agree with the moderators.
If the user agrees, the bad users are hidden from the user.
The user decides where the line is.
User B will not follow moderators and see all users.
Rules.
You want as few as possible. Where there are rules, people will both press them to see where the boundary issues are, and they will game them to act against others from a position of relative impunity.
Rather than define how shitty people can be to one another, assign doing that a risk, and set the expectation of treating others right, with mutual respect as the ONLY safe thing.
Agency in conversation.
The hard truth is most people are either lazy, or unaware of the full set of options in dialog.
Example: getting called an ass by a clown
Weighting comes first. They are a clown. The weight here is modest on a good day.
Then comes options. The number one response is righteous indignation. "How dare you..." They are clowns, trolls, or just toxic. Of course they dare, and that response is exactly what they expect.
And you can bet your ass their weighting on whatever indignation you express is near zero too. They will not care and consider it all entertainment.
Other choices:
Rate the garbage. D -not feeling it, etc...
Ignore and redirect. "Dude, at least try, now back on topic..."
Humor. SPIN it and have fun.
You get the idea here.
Denying them the basic, standard response disincentivizes that behavior, leaves you in control of the overall dialog, and puts others on notice and you as the person having higher ground.
Conversations go bad when you let them go bad. Don't let them.
Super important: when a moderation even happens, and a user could have employed agency to recover and maintain a good dialog, tell them that and ask them to try next time.
Do this with a no blame, just building strength approach. Everyone can improve in how they employ agency and when they do the outcome is amazing. Model it for them, if need be.
The troll or abuser totally is out of bounds. But their impact has more to do with people being effective at managing dialog than it does whatever shit they said does.
Not everyone will play that ball. Fine. Perhaps they can go somewhere else too. No joke. (Without this, moderators end up baby sitters, and fuck that. Babies can be as much or more trouble than toxic people can be.
No blame, no fault. Just improve, seek better and it will happen for them, and everyone, next.
(I know, work and high controversy, but oh so effective.)
Norms vs rules
Most of what I just put here are norms. They get distributed among members of the community by modeling them successfully. The more they are seen and used, the more potent they are. Secondly, unlike rules, norms are much harder to game.
I have done this in communities to a degree where trolling all but goes away.
Why?
Risk reward. Someone trolling can do so at very modest cost. The rewards can be huge! Bans and other blunt instruments are expensive and inhibit real, even heated, but otherwise high value interactions. Chilling effects and ripple effects abound!
(Ban impacts people and others connected to them)
It is hard to raise the cost, but the reward can be impacted significantly. Low risk reward = low nefarious actor potential.
Cost to post.
Rather than ban, cost to contribute can be increased, and this can be done while leaving the discussion and potential for better all on the table. And it works well for everyone to see things are being done.
No four letter words, for example. If a post contains them, it is rejected. They try again. This is hard to do, expensive, but not crippling. When the norms are well placed, it also is fun, and the person who is needing help often gets it. When they improve, remove the no four letter words restriction, all forgiven.
Disemvoweling. No vowels for x number of posts, days. Do not just use one or the other. Both work well. 3 days and 10 posts works great.
"Sry ppl"
There are other tools along these lines that are not bans, that do not shut peop...
If you get any traction, a high percentage of banned users will be malicious actors who are trying to spam the forum for purposes of making money or similar. It won't actually be members trying to talk with people and failing to be understood or rubbing people the wrong way, which is basically what this question aims at addressing.
"Behave acceptably or be excluded in some manner" is the crux of all social control. Every utopian scheme to include "everyone" has only worked with a small, self-selected group of like-minded people. When they open it up to the broader public, freeloaders who refuse to meet expectations consistently ruin it and usually in short order.