On breaking past the "army of one" mentality

For the last few years, I have been working incessantly on my many projects. As time progresses, I'm noticing a dramatic increase in my enthusiasm and passion, necessarily leading to an increase in ideas. Unfortunately, and presently, I'm having a very hard time breaking out of the "do everything myself" mold and into the "have others assume roles." I've tried a number of techniques, with varied levels of success.

Over the last few months, I've invested over $50,000 in outsourcing my projects. I'd write detailed technical specifications about my projects, and put them up for bid on outsourcing web sites. I'd stage the level of disclosure such that I wouldn't reveal anything serious until a non-disclosure agreement was signed. I'd then take about a week paying the contractor to create their own detailed specifications on what they would do with the project. We'd go back and forth until reaching a final set of specifications, and I would let the contractor go ahead and begin programming.

While this model worked for a while, I began noticing a decrease in quality. As I began outsourcing more projects, I began getting bogged down by the level of quality control that I needed to do to assure that we were all on the same page. The modularized design process worked out alright, but without a sufficient system for cross-collaboration between members, I fear I was just paying for code that may or may not ultimately make it to the final project.

I'm now valuing actual real-life collaboration a lot more than virtual collaboration, but I'm at a complete loss on how to meet people in my relatively remote area (North Florida) who are like-minded, passionate individuals committed to bringing a viable product to life.

What have you guys done to break out of this army of one mentality?