Ask HN: How Do You Survive?

7 points by royletron ↗ HN
I have a job that costs me upwards of 50 hours a week. I have a partner I love dearly. I have two kids who I cherish. I technically have 119 hours a week where I am 'awake'. I just want to know how you all make it fit. I know I have it pretty good because my job allows me to work two days at home 9am-3pm where I then pick up the kids from school but the rest of the work days I'm completely dedicated to work. I feel pretty roasted by the end of the week.

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I have a job that costs me upwards of 50 hours a week.

I know I have it pretty good because my job allows me to work two days at home 9am-3pm where I then pick up the kids from school but the rest of the work days I'm completely dedicated to work. I feel pretty roasted by the end of the week.

These statements are in conflict with one another.

If you're working a 50 hour work week, you should strongly consider looking for a different job. There's plenty of research (and company testimonies) showing that human happiness, health and productivity increases when work weeks are smaller (lazy link that I've submitted to Hacker News before on roughly this topic: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2018/jul/19/work-less-get-... ), and 50 hours isn't healthy at all.

Look out for yourself, talk it out with your employer (and) or, if they're uncooperative, immediately go job hunting.

It's not required of me to do so and I'm happy doing it because of my investment in the work. I guess I just want it all - how do I get that please?
The reason why I put in more work is what's keeping me sane. Most times the stress that comes with the job can drive me to the edge of breaking down,but I just keep reminding myself why I even started.
Are you including commuting time?

Get hired help for mundane chores. Seriously. It’s so worth it.

Nice suggestion and something we have been looking into more and more.
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