It's probably telling that the correlation between this and hardcore programmers is so high! For me, all of my attractiveness to women has seemingly vanished when I turned 30. None of the things that used to work for me work at all (e.g. internet dating, speed dating, clubs and activities like singing and Salsa dancing.) I've experienced nothing but rejection in the last two years. I got down to 10% bodyfat for a while but lapsed on that when I figured out that this made no difference. Everybody I meet likes me, but my male friends all also tend to be men who are more than a little socially repulsive to women.
I'd almost do anything to get a woman to want to spend time with me and appreciate who I am, but the one thing I won't do is suppress my distaste for bullshit enough to try speed seduction techniques.
I guess the one thing I can pass on about this is don't take it for granted if you have an awesome girlfriend in your 20s. I just sort of assumed dating would be easier (or even possible) in my 30s but I would have lived my youth very differently if I would have known I'd basically be cruising for life alone now, and feeling so helpless about it.
As of now, all my experiences are telling me I have absolutely nothing to offer a woman except for money.
Sorry about the non-productive rant, as well, but I sometimes find them therapeutic!
> I'd almost do anything to get a woman to want to spend time with me and appreciate who I am, [...]
Anything? Like moving to another country? Or learning how to play and instrument or sing? (Lots of people learn to play to guitar to get laid. I don't know whether that works, though.)
> but the one thing I won't do is suppress my distaste for bullshit enough to try speed seduction techniques.
I'd give it a try---out of interest. But I'd probably not stay with it.
Please pardon my probing questions. If you want to answer, but not in public, you can find my email address in my profile.
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[ 3.7 ms ] story [ 24.2 ms ] threadI'd almost do anything to get a woman to want to spend time with me and appreciate who I am, but the one thing I won't do is suppress my distaste for bullshit enough to try speed seduction techniques.
I guess the one thing I can pass on about this is don't take it for granted if you have an awesome girlfriend in your 20s. I just sort of assumed dating would be easier (or even possible) in my 30s but I would have lived my youth very differently if I would have known I'd basically be cruising for life alone now, and feeling so helpless about it.
As of now, all my experiences are telling me I have absolutely nothing to offer a woman except for money.
Sorry about the non-productive rant, as well, but I sometimes find them therapeutic!
(I am currently in the 20s with women phase.)
> I'd almost do anything to get a woman to want to spend time with me and appreciate who I am, [...]
Anything? Like moving to another country? Or learning how to play and instrument or sing? (Lots of people learn to play to guitar to get laid. I don't know whether that works, though.)
> but the one thing I won't do is suppress my distaste for bullshit enough to try speed seduction techniques.
I'd give it a try---out of interest. But I'd probably not stay with it.
Please pardon my probing questions. If you want to answer, but not in public, you can find my email address in my profile.