Ask HN: Do you feel lonely as entrepreneur?

I don't say lonely, but I do say alientated.

It's a path that doesn't make a lot of sense unless you've gone down it. So I have a harder time connecting about work to careerist friends. But there are other things to connect on.

It's also lonely because you can't tell staff everything. If you are planning to fire someone, or you actually do, you have a responsibility to keep the reasons to yourself. It feels dishonest every time.

For connection on the topic of work I'm in an entrepreneur's group. We meet about every two months, about 8 of us at each meeting.

What you learn from hearing other people's real problems is that your own shitty problems aren't unique. In fact they're probably the norm.

Maybe consider doing something else with/for those people that you'd like to meet? What about teaching or volunteering maybe?

Also people just don't like to talk about things that they don't find interesting - so if you like to talk exclusively about entrepreneurship with your friends, then it might be boring to them.

I maintain contact with my oldest brother on a daily basis that helps me a lot.

It is a lonely path. It's a bit frustrating because others just won't relate to you. People often talk up to you -- I've had classmates I used to hang around at the school ditch call me Sir. Or another large group assumes you don't have problems because you have money. I've tried hanging out with other entrepreneurs, but many are either wantepreneurs or sociopaths, and it's just incredibly frustrating. A lot of people in actual entrepreneur mode are focusing on their business, and keep cofounders as social anchors.

And a lot of the time, it's because they sort of want to be where you are, but they aren't. A big part of it is their fault. And so they justify it by building a kind of disgust for wealth and the people who hold it. They say, well, being wealthy requires sacrifices to family life, health, and so on, and are happy to see you lonely.

It's also a bit depressing that you can't really "free" anyone. A lot of people seem to think that all they need is money, so they can hire staff and hit financial freedom, but it doesn't work that way.

I'd say the wife and kids keep me rooted somewhere because the relationship is the same. The ideal is Melinda Gates or Sharon Osbourne. The one who straight up will tell you your idea is wrong when you're surrounded by yes-men, now take out the trash. But also support you when you're messed up. And a lot of rockstar kids keep their parents rooted - a two year old will throw a tantrum no matter what, and to paraphrase Liz Tyler, she doesn't know what's different about being a rockstar kid because she never had any other dads. Internet and multiplayer games are nice too because nobody knows who you are.

Spirituality also helps to deal with this. Buddha and Muhammad were already incredibly wealthy. Both found different paths.

I picked up teaching. Institutions are bad but I love the students.

"nobody, especially your age, could relate to you!": How old are you?

Entrepreneur here. I finished uni in 2009 and started an agency when I was 25. 10 years after, I have only my confounder who I call a 3am friend.

It gets lonely because if you are in service business you start losing faith and trust in people. People lie on resumes, lie about their abilities, clients don't pay, clients lie on what was promised, people quit because they got 5k more somewhere.

My perspective about people changed significantly after having worked with and for people in the last 10 years. However, you build up resilience to a point where nothing can surprise you. You know exactly how to get the outcomes you want from every conversation. You get good at identifying good people and you get good at making money.

Yet, it is lonely. Yes, it is lonely. But it is all worth it.

Yes, Entrepreneurship is lonely. Have felt the same.

In this online world sharing knowledge is so much easier. Blogging, Professional forums can be used to share knowledge. It is baby steps but eventually can lead to teaching, workshops which could be fulfilling.

Helping, mentoring budding Entrepreneurs is one area. They would be glad to use all the wisdom.

Spending time with family. Connecting with old friends do help. I found, reaching out just to say hello opens the door.

Also meeting people with similar hobby or interests also helps. People are glad to share their knowledge.

I think when we are stuck, looking at avenues where we can give provides us the opportunity to connect with like minded people.

Elon, is that you?

It is a lonely path. It's a bit frustrating because others just won't relate to you. People often talk up to you -- I've had classmates I used to hang around at the school ditch call me Sir. Or another large group assumes you don't have problems because you have money. I've tried hanging out with other entrepreneurs, but many are either wantepreneurs or sociopaths, and it's just incredibly frustrating. A lot of people in actual entrepreneur mode are focusing on their business, and keep cofounders as social anchors.

Volunteering and being part of a completely different group altogether is what helped me. Working with young people of tomorrow to help them polish their skills and share some thoughts along the way while being a friend has done me wonders.

Meetups (or local events). I don't go much these days because I have friends that are also entrepreneurial but when you're just starting out, going to meetups to find like-minded folks locally is a great way to make new friends.

Loneliness is warranted on the entrepreneurial path. My DMs are open if you'd like to talk.

If you have made enough money, have you considered starting a non-profit? You seem good at starting new things and a non-profit just might give you the meaning that you are searching for.

Just thinking out loud here.

You didn't make enough contacts while building your businesses?

Most of the world is enslaved because thats the only way you can make them productive.

But there's a small subset of the population who have freed themselves from the burden of work, and we are the creative industrious. If you're as wealthy as you claim you would have come into contact with several of us already.

Who's managing your wealth? Which private clubs are you a member of?

If you're a coder I can give you a cryptographic shibboleth problem, if you solve it, then you are a candidate to join our members only club.

I know several other private clubs, depending on your interests, but again, you should have discovered these already, if you're awake.

By the way, your grammar and writing style is terrible. Fix your capitalisation and harmonize your thoughts so it's not just a steam of consciousness. Effective communication is important - it's NOT trivial and superficial, it's used as signalling!