How do you build emotional and social skills for work?
There seem to be countless books, online courses and bootcamps that teach programming and technical skills but nothing how do people learn the softer skills required for the workplace?
In my past few jobs I've felt completely overwhelmed dealing with people. I often got very upset by criticism as well as upsetting others without realising it.
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[ 3.8 ms ] story [ 16.9 ms ] threadI'm not saying that to be mean or make you feel bad: it's normal to have trouble dealing with some situations. But it means that just reading a book about workplace soft skills seems unlikely to help here. The sort of thing that helps might be more like exploring why this criticism is making you feel so bad, in what sense it threatens your self-esteem, that sort of thing.
It's hard to comment on the part about you upsetting people without knowing what you did, how they told you about it, and what you did when you found out. I guess my general comment would be that a quick and sincere apology when you do find out that you've hurt someone usually goes a long way.
Other option is to study about the topic
I would suggest you to watch on youtube Robert Sapolsky lectures human behavioral biology as well Jordan Peterson maps of meaning adding to that jim roth spechees these will give a chance to study about yourself
In the broader sense, there is no way to get good at something without doing it. My old boss used to use the "rock tumbler" analogy, in that a rock tumbler makes rocks smooth by rubbing them against each other a lot. If you want to be a smooth operator in a social sense, then you need to be around people and "rubbing up against them" in a social sense quite a bit. Most of the truly slick, very social people I know interact with others constantly, and have done so in many contexts since they were young. Older manager types have tact and grace because there were years when they didn't...