It’s not that every word you say will be memorable, it’s that a random sampling of what you say will be remembered by different people and you cannot control (well cannot is a perhaps to strong of a word, but saying you can control it is probably wrong) when and for whom it is memorable.
You build a thick layer of good memories with a person, that random sampling will be better, but it’s always possible some random bad memory will stick in someone’s mind, and that’s true no matter how careful you are. But being careful can help. So...
In a way the OP is right, but I think they push the point too far.
> Keep in mind that it’s not your place or your job to “police” family members and it serves no purpose. Don’t get caught up in this family game. It’s dysfunctional. Instead, just try being nice.
I don't agree. This is how you get families where grandma can spout the nastiest garbage on the planet to some other family member with no consequence.
I'm not going to initiate a bad exchange for no reason, but stepping in when someone is unfairly being targeted is absolutely required. I assure you, the targeted person will NOT consider everybody staying silent as being "nice".
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[ 2.5 ms ] story [ 16.9 ms ] threadYou build a thick layer of good memories with a person, that random sampling will be better, but it’s always possible some random bad memory will stick in someone’s mind, and that’s true no matter how careful you are. But being careful can help. So...
In a way the OP is right, but I think they push the point too far.
I don't agree. This is how you get families where grandma can spout the nastiest garbage on the planet to some other family member with no consequence.
I'm not going to initiate a bad exchange for no reason, but stepping in when someone is unfairly being targeted is absolutely required. I assure you, the targeted person will NOT consider everybody staying silent as being "nice".