Part of the issue with dating is that some people are wanting to date, while others are looking for other things. The only real purpose of dating during a pandemic is actually dating, all of those other purposes are stripped away.
It's been a couple years since I'd been in the dating pool, fortunately. One thing that consistently annoyed me back then, was the number of people on dating sites that "didn't have time" to actually meet/date. At the very least it's probably somewhat easier to figure out who is serious about dating and who isn't.
One has to actually take the time to make things happen. Most people have much more free time than they realize and it's a matter of priorities.
Some of the jokes were kinda cringy to me, but the reality is that dating hasn't changed too much on the whole, especially for first/second dates, just gotten cheaper due to restaurants/bars being off the menu.
On the bright side, the ability to vet people thru video calls reduces time wasted being stood up/ flaked on. Worst case, I am already at home with more free time on my hands. However, a big part of dating (at least for me) is the chemistry and body language, which is still best experienced in real life without masks. Its a pretty big commitment especially if either of us are living with other folks that we could possibly infect, so I take greater care before getting intimate with them.
App based dating in a nut shell - seriously recommend users ask your friends of both genders what tinder looks like for them and your jaw will drop. I (25M) was shocked at all the shirtless guys taking pictures in front of muscle cars. She was shocked at how rare matches were and how many first messages were ignored.
Tinder is just a toy. Though I actually met I’ve person IRL (angriest woman I have ever bought dinner for), and one other person who was visiting in MA and said we should meet when she comes down to NY. But as I texted trying to set up the day, I got the idea she was really fishing for a sugar daddy to put her up in a place in NYC—Brooklyn, and then the Bronx, and then she went to ‘LA’. Haha. After that, I resigned myself to just treating it like a tomaguchi where I pretend I’m looking for a date. And for the record all my clothes were on and no cars were present.
Yeah dating is unequivocally worse since the lockdown.
Where I live, some of these places are still open, but restricted numbers and may-or-may-not take bookings (and are usually full anyway), that's even assuming the other person feels comfortable travelling somewhere.
I think dating is better. My experience is that it's now more about in-depth conversation than attending events. I think this is a great step forward. It has also eliminated the really risk-adverse people which suits me fine.
This assumes that you can meet people on-line. And if you struggle expressing yourself verbally, your experience might not be great.
Comedy, on the other hand, is suffering, as illustrated by these jokes. Live standup is prohibited in a lot of places. I've listened to interviews with comedians that say they can't get inspired when performing virtually. Then, there are all the controversial topics that used to encourage actual dialog but now trigger rage in the snowflakes.
> And if you struggle expressing yourself verbally, your experience might not be great.
This implies there is a minority which has some inconveniences with expressing themselves verbally. In (some) reality it's the opposite - nobody has a tongue of gold, fingers-on-keyboard-which-sing-serenades-like-a-pro, except selected few - so, everybody feels pretty awkward, being unable to look, smile (oh, you have that 4K monitor, that really good camera and that gigabit link? What are you doing on an online dating scene?), turn... the whole shebang of body language, not to mention pauses, conversation switches - they are possible online, just that much less workable, and that's in the area when at least in part the conversers are trying to impress each other, maybe ever so slightly.
In-depth conversation can be good for thinking, planning or learning - but can be subpar for flirting or relaxing. Wonder if those hopefuls are looking for former or latter.
I met my current partner in February and honestly, the pandemic has been fantastic for us in getting to know each other quickly. Basically we could only hang out with each other and we couldn't go out, so it was like a relationship on fast forward. Also, being able to hang out during the day while we work from home is great.
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[ 2.7 ms ] story [ 38.9 ms ] threadPart of the issue with dating is that some people are wanting to date, while others are looking for other things. The only real purpose of dating during a pandemic is actually dating, all of those other purposes are stripped away.
One has to actually take the time to make things happen. Most people have much more free time than they realize and it's a matter of priorities.
On the bright side, the ability to vet people thru video calls reduces time wasted being stood up/ flaked on. Worst case, I am already at home with more free time on my hands. However, a big part of dating (at least for me) is the chemistry and body language, which is still best experienced in real life without masks. Its a pretty big commitment especially if either of us are living with other folks that we could possibly infect, so I take greater care before getting intimate with them.
so not sure what the heck this article is about
Where do people on Hacker News meet their future significant other or people they date?
Bars - gone
Cafes/Coffee Shops - mostly gone
Museums/Art Galleries - mostly closed
House Parties - gone
Friends of Friends - almost gone
Random Luck - almost completely gone
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Online dating - really sucks
I guess pandemic must be really good for people who specialize in online dating. For everyone else it sucks
Where I live, some of these places are still open, but restricted numbers and may-or-may-not take bookings (and are usually full anyway), that's even assuming the other person feels comfortable travelling somewhere.
This assumes that you can meet people on-line. And if you struggle expressing yourself verbally, your experience might not be great.
Comedy, on the other hand, is suffering, as illustrated by these jokes. Live standup is prohibited in a lot of places. I've listened to interviews with comedians that say they can't get inspired when performing virtually. Then, there are all the controversial topics that used to encourage actual dialog but now trigger rage in the snowflakes.
This implies there is a minority which has some inconveniences with expressing themselves verbally. In (some) reality it's the opposite - nobody has a tongue of gold, fingers-on-keyboard-which-sing-serenades-like-a-pro, except selected few - so, everybody feels pretty awkward, being unable to look, smile (oh, you have that 4K monitor, that really good camera and that gigabit link? What are you doing on an online dating scene?), turn... the whole shebang of body language, not to mention pauses, conversation switches - they are possible online, just that much less workable, and that's in the area when at least in part the conversers are trying to impress each other, maybe ever so slightly.
In-depth conversation can be good for thinking, planning or learning - but can be subpar for flirting or relaxing. Wonder if those hopefuls are looking for former or latter.
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/z3b9yj/almost-a-third-of-...
Doesn't sound very romantic to me. People's minds are going to be in a very different place right now.
Flagged the article. GTFO with this clickbait nonsense.