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Rents per square ft / tatami mat are not that reasonable in Tokyo. Westerners are generally treated with caution rather than friendly greets on the street too...
As a Tokyo resident I have to disagree with you on both points. Rent is cheap (just don't live right next to Shibuya crossing) and people are incredibly welcoming. Sure, they'll politely ignore you on the train, but that's the same as any big city in the states.
Yeah - I swear patio11 has written extensively about this, but on a quick search I couldn’t find it.

Basically Tokyo builds proper housing supply so it’s easily affordable, but as a result housing is not a good place to invest money.

In the US housing is seen as an investment which creates bad policy and perverse incentives to constrain supply in order to enrich existing owners.

Housing can be affordable or a good investment, but it can’t really be both.

Tokyo does this the right way and SF (along with the Bay Area and America generally) does it wrong. Housing in Tokyo is relatively cheap.

Somewhat unrelated I found this one while looking which I loved when I first read it. It’s about a super cool tax policy Japan implemented to help rural areas that people leave for the city, it incentivizes people to send some of that money back: https://www.kalzumeus.com/2018/10/19/japanese-hometown-tax/

I write about it on Twitter a bit, and should probably upgrade it to an essay at some point just so people who share my intersection of interests have a convenient entry point.
> not that reasonable in Tokyo

It depends on which part of the 23 wards of Tokyo you refer to. Central Tokyo, yes, it can be expensive, close to Manhattan rents. But farther outside of central Tokyo, you can get very reasonable rents. And there's a lot more options in Tokyo when you factor in reliable public transport and a much larger metro area than the 5 boroughs of NYC.

I would say, yeah people in SF can come across a bit cold, but so do people in most larger cities, especially now during COVID. I now go out of my way to avoid people in a way I never would have before. SF pales in comparison to the overall apathy of places like NYC or London though. I find the weird outgoingness to strangers off-putting (as a Brit) in the smaller towns and cities in the states. People are always asking invasive questions, and it can start to get grating after the first few dozen times.
I lived in London for a decade before moving to SF. SF is significantly more friendly, even now during COVID - walking along a random residential street, chances are > 1 in 4 that passersby will say "hi!" if you acknowledge them. This does not happen in London. Sure if you walk down Market you're unlikely to find a lot of folks wanting to pass the time of day but Market != SF
Londoners are famously brusque, no? Try holding up a queue and wait for the pleasant greetings.
Are there any megalopolises that don't have a culture of quick paces and impatience?
We're big on queuing
I have a Londoner friend I stay with there sometimes (I'm from the North of England).

I wind him up by threatening to walk around his neighbourhood being "weird and dangerous-looking" (his unnerved words) by using friendly eye contact and saying hello to people I walk by.

Noah addresses that in the second paragraph.
This might be more about covid and not so much about sf?
My understanding is that you move to SF to optimize for money/status, not for livability.
Other than the insane rents and housing prices (and obviously tempered this year by the pandemic), SF is a very livable city. Tons of stuff within walk distance, great weather all year, lots of interesting distinct neighborhoods, much better than average public transit for the US (still garbage by world standards), lots of restaurant choices, all sorts of "cultural" stuff happening all the time, plenty of neighborhood festivals of one kind of another, etc.

There are certainly some people very concerned about money/status (as you will find anywhere), but SF is also chock full of weird people doing their own thing, much more than most places in the USA.

Livability also includes traffic, how much space you have, cleanliness, and safety of public transit.

Is it really the city to start or raise a family in?

Well... livability for who then?

For someone who wants to have a large home workshop to build boats in, built on cheap land, yeah, it's not a great place. For someone who wants to live on a farm and grow all their own food, not so great. For a childless couple who needs a 5 bedroom house and professionally landscape-architected decorative garden to show their coworkers they have made it (I know several such people in the South Bay), not great. For a family of 7 who want each kid to have their own room, not so great.

However it is great for anyone who doesn't like making every trip by car, or who wants to live somewhere where there are constantly new things to do.

> Is it really the city to start or raise a family in?

I have a 1.5 year old and a 4 year old, have been living in SF for about 8 years and intend to stay indefinitely. So for me, yes.

But many middle class families have different criteria. e.g. there are many families who move out of SF because they feel they have run out of space in a small rent-controlled apartment and can't afford a bigger one; or they need childcare help from family who live elsewhere; or they don't want to send their children to public schools alongside working class children ('the average test scores are too low'), but can't afford expensive private schools. Etc.

In my personal opinion, for anyone under the age of 20 it is a much more fun place than almost anywhere in the USA, with a much wider variety of resources available. Suburbia sucks for young people (speaking from personal experience after growing up in a "nice" suburb). YMMV.

There is certainly a wide spectrum of livable cities between SF and suburbia.
You need to state what your criteria are. "Livable" is relative, and poorly defined.

Empirically, there is very high demand to live in SF, indicating that many people find it more "livable" by their own criteria than alternatives.

The context is given by the article we are discussing.

Sure you can find entertainment and enjoy nice things, but it won't really feel like a community.

In the pre-pandemic era I could walk all around the neighborhood with my then-2-year-old kid and make friendly smalltalk with all of the elderly dog walkers, retail/restaurant staffers, small business owners, city employees, other families from working class to super wealthy, high school students, retired musicians living in SROs, socially awkward genius engineer dudes, retired real estate moguls driving vintage cars around, cops and firefighters, skater kids, middle aged Mexicans playing cards, artists painting the scenery on portable easels, homeless veterans, people unironically dressed like wizards or cowboys, etc. etc., as well as chat with miscellaneous tourists from around the world and visitors from around the Bay Area.

I found almost everyone to be pretty friendly and welcoming. But it's true that walking with a child (or a dog) generally makes people more open to conversation, so YMMV.

I don't feel like I have a large tight-knit friend group, but the neighborhood feels plenty like a "community" to me, even though a substantial proportion of the people around are likely to only stay for a few yars. Maybe you have a different idea of what a community is.

Obviously the pandemic has radically changed everything; few people spend lots of time chatting with neighbors in close proximity anymore. There are also a lot of small businesses which have turned over or are likely to in the next year or two, based substantially on the lack of Federal financial support during this pandemic. We'll see how the neighborhood looks once things have settled down in a few years.

> There is certainly a wide spectrum of livable cities between SF and suburbia.

Not in the United States. And if you're someone "who doesn't like making every trip by car", the list of cities is rather short and can probably be counted on one hand. In fact, New York and San Francisco might be the only ones which can realistically offer something comparable to what can be found in other global cities in terms of daily walkability and household shopping. Washington, DC, Boston, and maybe Chicago come close, but it's not quite the same.

Chain stores are killing some of the walkability in San Francisco, though. A CVS, Wholefoods, or City Target can put convenience stores, toy stores, hardware stores, bakers, vegetable markets, meat markets, etc out of business across multiple neighborhoods, the same way a Wal-Mart can destroy entire downtowns in suburban and rural towns. And because transit sucks in SF (cheap and ubiquitous, but s-l-o-w), people often end up using their car to get to these higher traffic stores. This is a rather new phenomenon, though, because until about a decade or two ago San Francisco had extremely high barriers to chain stores.

I live in SF, and here's how it works:

- people are friendly, but weary of the homeless and corona issues

- gay people move to SF for obvious reasons

- young people move to SF instead of the Peninsula to date

- tech people move to SF instead of other regions for the jobs

- most families move out when they have children because of the school admission and location policies (if you have 2 kids in elementary grades, they might have to go to different schools, etc.)

- if you're Republican and mention Trump in the office, you will likely have to find a new job.

The downtown was not burned by Marxists (yet), but rents are still too high for all.

What is the peninsula people keep referring to? Sorry, I live on the east coast and have only been to CA a handful of times.
Yes yes, we get it, San Francisco bad.
Yes terrible place. In fact the whole state bad.
idk, depends on the neighborhood.

I've lived in North Beach for around a year. Both before and during Covid, I've found people to be super friendly and willing to have a short conversation if it makes sense to have one. A simple "hi" would be welcomed the majority of the time.

On the other hand, I used to love in lower polk, fairly close to the tenderloin (sutter st). No way would I talk to anyone on the street there, and I suspect most people would ignore or become fearful of a "hello".

My experience too. In Chicago, saying “hi” is super common. Took me a long time to lose the habit in the Bay Area, and I feel poorer for it.
That's the midwestern culture. Chicago is unique among the big American cities in that respect.
Only for a fairly restrictive definition of “big”.

Kansas City, St Louis, Twin Cities...easy to say hi or start up a conversation.

Unfriendliness only an issue in dense cities with a high quasi-transient population or maybe a boom town. Even there, if you look for the persistent villages beneath the city...which is the classic NYC response.

Intermountain West, Deep South sans south Florida, Appalachia, Desert Southwest (maybe not Las Vegas or Phoenix or the boutique tourist towns in high season, hard to say), New England sans Boston...not really a problem.

Right, Boston wasn’t great for it but not so discouraging that I gave up.
I say hi to people on San Francisco, but I don’t get discouraged if some don’t respond. There are all sorts of people with wildly divergent circumstances. I’m not or rushing to reach a conclusion about others (or about the overall fate of the city) just because some people don’t say “hi” back.
I lived in Manhattan for a decade and SF even longer.

I noticed no difference whatsoever between the two cities regarding how likely strangers on the street are to say hello.

I think this is the same for every major american city. I don't know how is Chicago, or LA, but in NYC for sure nobody is saying hi to random folks. The only time you say hi is to old neighbors (which are few, as people move in and out often), and to the coffee place/restaurant/bar you frequent often.

NYC does have plenty of homeless as well, but the cold clears them up pretty quick. By late November, NYC is too cold, and during the summer it can get too hot.

SF definitely has other major problems. It is just too lenient on crime. NYC has seen somme uptick as well, since last year (pre-covid), and the culprit might be the no-bail reform. While might seen progressive in nature, it is letting out folks that have done multiple crimes back to back, and they return doing the same. SF has implemented this earlier and the uptick in crime is reflecting it:

There was a guy that got arrested 14 times in the last 18 months for car theft. And he is still free: https://twitter.com/SFPDTenderloin/status/133728051660988416...

When you have car-thieves/robbers running free around, immagine all other lower level of criminals. They know they can operate with impunity and they act accordingly.

Ps. (I lived in SF for 7 years, and now in NYC for 6 years. NYC folks are less friendly in general, and more direct. SF-ers are more polite, but also more flakey).

"NYC does have plenty of homeless as well, but the cold clears them up pretty quick."

That comes off pretty cold-hearted...

Perhaps, but it's a practical observation. It's the same for most of the major Northern cities including Boston and Chicago.
I used to be pretty compassionate, but you can't deny a dense population of homeless do have a negative impact in a neighborhoods/street/block quality of life, especially if you have kids. Random fires in encampments, and drunk people passing out in front of your apt are not fun either.

Last time this happen (a drunk guy cracked his head in front of my building, bleeding all over) I called 911, and the ems came. They knew the guy as he did drunk pass out often, and this was not his first time.

Bet that it would surprise you that property crime in SF is 20% higher than in Detroit. Course violent crime is double in Detroit. But things are getting better in Detroit while they're getting worse in SF.

https://www.bestplaces.net/compare-cities/detroit_mi/san_fra...

Most of the violent crime in Detroit is confined to a few zip codes which definitely are not where you'd locate a tech company. There are lots of video cameras installed downtown and at places like gas stations and liquor stores which used to be crime magnets.

Here's the City of Detroit crime viewer. On the left check off all the crimes under violent crimes. Be sure to set the date range or you only get the past couple of weeks. It takes a while to pan but you can see that there are fewer crimes in the downtown area than say the East part of the city.

https://cityofdetroit.github.io/crime-viewer/

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> San Francisco is functionally divided into a set of groups that, as far as I can tell, rarely talk to each other. [...] SF has all the pieces of a kaleidoscopically diverse city, and yet the pieces don’t talk to each other. They walk the same streets but they live in parallel, non-interacting universes.

This reminds me of how LA is often described, to bring up a rival city that us NorCal denizens might bristle at being compared to. LA County is a hugely diverse area, but each distinct ethnic and immigrant group has its own enclave, its own self-sustaining community. So the need for them to intermingle is lessened.

I know this observation may infringe on the boundaries of good taste, but this line stuck out to me -

"I noticed that the group was one Black guy, one South Asian guy, one East Asian guy, one White girl, and one guy who might have been Hispanic. It was like some sort of promotional photo from an HR department. And suddenly I thought of the Axis powers, and their insane delusions of racial purity and supremacy, and I thought: 'How could you idiots ever hope to beat us?'"

The United States was ~90% white for World War 2 [1]. Other major allied powers, the USSR and the UK probably were even moreso. It doesn't make sense to suggest that modern diversity had anything to do with World War 2.

A better, modern example, might be comparing the modern US to modern China, which is 92% Han Chinese[2]. Only, I'm not sure US dominance against China will be as decisive as it was against Nazi Germany.

1 - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Historical_racial_and_ethnic...

2 - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_China

You may be wrong about the UK, which fought the war as the British Empire. I believe more than half the pilots that won the Battle of Britain came from the Commonwealth. The Battle of Monte Cassino included New Zealanders and Nepalis.
Fair point. I think I'm still right about the US though.
Regardless of racial diversity, WWII-era U.S. had far more cultural and ethnic diversity than Germany. The Soviet Union, with its own hodgepodge of non-Russian minorities, was also quite diverse.
The quote I excerpted is clearly referring to racial diversity.
Did diversity defeat the Axis powers? No, the industrial might of the two-oceans-guarded U.S. and the raw manpower of the Soviet Union did, among other factors, such as the atomic bomb. The author is putting the cart before the horse by attributing the diversity as the distinction that delivered victory to the Allies. But it's obviously in service of a rhetorical point, as inaccurate as it might have been- Nazi Germany and Imperial Japan was big on homogeneity and supremacy, and they lost; the U.S. is not, and we won.

Make a pedantic point, get pedantic replies. I think it's arguable that the racial diversity of the modern U.S. was a natural outgrowth of the cultural/ethnic diversity of WWII era U.S.; by then, this country was already a melting pot. So there is some truth, however garbled, to the article's point. And it was a minor rhetorical observation in any case.

I took a paragraph from the article and said why I thought it was wrong. I don't think it's pedantry to point out that the author's claim is wrong. I'm not saying it's wrong in some technical, hair splitting sense, but just completely wrong. The author observes modern diversity and suggests it helped in a past struggle, but the modern diversity actually didn't exist then.

If it's pedantry to point out this is wrong, then that's a greater criticism of the article because the author is including a paragraph that is so unimportant it apparently doesn't matter if it's true or false.

You mention that Nazi Germany was big on supremacy and homogeneity and the US isn't, but I think that's the same mistake I originally pointed out. You are conflating modern ideals (don't care about homogeneity or [racial] supremacy) with past ideals. America of the pre-war was actually concerned with those things. I could point to the power of the Klu Klux Klan or the fact that the Nazi eugenics movement was influenced by the American eugenics movement.

It's not the case that "We" won the second world war. Our forbears did, and in some ways they were similar to us and in some different.

My overarching point is that it doesn't really make sense to use the second world war as an example of the strength of modern diversity because modern diversity wasn't in place at that time.

It might not be equivalent to modern day diversity, but the Allies- at least the liberal democratic nations- clearly represented a certain level of tolerance of diversity whether nationality or ideological, contrasted with the totalitarianism of the Axis states. Consider that the cracking of the Enigma code was somewhat of a pan-European project:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=18070300

As I stated, the author is putting the cart before the horse in attributing the Allies’ diversity as part of the reason for why they won. But he isn’t completely far off in suggesting the Allies represented more open societies, the types that would lead to racial diversity later on. Precursors to modern diversity, if you will- at least closer to it than the fascist states were.

Looking back at your earlier point about China, it’s interesting to note that despite being 92% Han, that civilization has always been not entirely homogenous- indeed the Republic of China which was the major ally in WWII Asia portrayed itself as a multiethnic state:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_Races_Under_One_Union

Was Nationalist China a liberal democracy with modern conceptions of equality, let alone diversity? Of course not. But they were closer to it than Showa Japan, at least.

In pre-WWII USA, Irish, Italians, Poles, etc. were not considered part of the dominant "white" "American" group. Likewise Jews. (Not to mention Latinos, Chinese, Blacks, ...) A very significant proportion of the US military in WWII (maybe a third? I don't know the precise numbers) came from socially marginalized minority groups.

The war substantially changed the society: Common experience in the armed forces, people moving around the country after being uprooted by the war, subsidized college via the GI bill, etc.

But even so, many people were scandalized at the idea of a Catholic president even in the 1960s.

I wonder if that's true and how you would measure it. Germany, like the US, was an alliance of different states. If you read Buddenbrooks, there's lots of ethnic humour about the Bavarians and their strange accents. I don't think Germany had the same level of mass immigration - until the 1920s and 30s, when it led to the anti-semitic backlash.

The more important point is just that the Nazis were explicit, avowed racists, while the US and Britain had a stronger ideology of racial equality and tolerance - though there was still plenty of racism in both those countries.

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Modern diversity is about mixing up. They would not mix up in missisipy despite black population being massive.
My experience from a few years ago, most people were already engaged communicating with somebody.

So, it would be odd to ‘interrupt’ somebody while they are in conversation.

It was interesting to see lots of people communicating, but with somebody not physically present.

Anecdotal, of course.

Most of the comments here are hung up about the accuracy or lack thereof of the saying hi observation, which is just the article's title and hook. I'm more curious to see if anyone agrees with the author's point about the lack of intermixing in SF between people of different classes, and the seeming lack of urban social cohesion, unlike other cities such as NY or perhaps Boston ("Boston Strong").

Certainly, if one works in tech in SF, it's easy to get stuck in an industry bubble where the first questions strangers ask each other at social events is "oh who do you work for?" and it just becomes a parade of corporate logos, tech stack holy wars, weekend side projects, and comparing option offers.

I am not sure we have a ton of social cohesion in New York necessarily. Among the well-to-do, sure, we're not only working in tech, but there is still the discomfort with there being many classes of people. (The gig economy killed any hope of there ever being a middle class again.)

I think if you want people to say "hi" to you, you have to act the part. Some single 20-something walking around with headphones and a hoodie... nobody is going to talk to you. Get a dog and a partner, and people will talk to you while you're out walking the dog. They're walking their dog, and so you have something to talk about. (The dogs will break the ice!)

Granted, he's talking about something that's very subjective, but there does seem to be a popular conception of New Yorkers having a shared identity regardless of class-

> There is certainly class separation and racial division in New York, but there is an inherent camaraderie to the city itself, a shared feeling that everyone is in the belly of the same vast urban beast.

Of course, that could just be something unique after the collective trauma of 9/11 (and Hurricane Sandy, etc.). You see it in pop culture depictions- "this city sucks, but it's our city!"

Again, getting random city dwellers to say hi to you is the opener of this article, it shouldn't be the last word that everyone fixates upon.

The dog thing is so true.

Are they a nice dog owner? Do they pull the dog along their own preferred route, staring at a their phone, getting annoyed when the dog stops to sniff? Do they yank on the leash? Or do they patiently allow their dog to take in the smells of the neighborhood and leave their own messages in return, let the dog change direction in response to a smell or sound? Do they allow their dog to meet other dogs, with the other owner's permission? (As my wife says "this isn't your walk, this is the dog's walk")

Is this a responsible owner? How does their dog behaved around other dogs? If the dog misbehaves, how does the owner respond? Do they pick up after their dog?

Bottom line: a dog is an excellent asshole-o-meter.

Do they leave a bag of their dog's shit in my freshly-emptied trash can (or worse, recycling bin) for me to smell all week after I wheel it back to my house? (All signs point to yes)
I assume the downvotes are coming from people who do this? Help me out, cause there's something I've always been curious about:

If you are walking down the street drinking a Starbucks or eating a candy bar and you finish, do you leave the empty cup or wrapper in someone else's bin too?

Genuinely curious... I've always brought my own garbage home with me, or to the next public bin. What do you do when it's not trash day?

I think its also where the new transplants end up. They end up in the recently gentrified areas such as the Mission/Castro/Dolores due to affordability/closeness to the GBUS, etc. Being fairly adjacent to the Tenderloin/City Hall/Haight, people are generally going to have the guard up higher and you'll have more interaction with the folks who've been gentrified out.

YMMV but if the author was in the more residential areas such as Marina/Cow Hollow/Inner Sunset/Noe Valley and jogged the same routes regularly, perhaps he'd have had a more small town interactions.

>unlike other cities such as NY or perhaps Boston ("Boston Strong")

Yes, I do and I think it's as Noah mentions visible in transport, and unlike Noah I think it is closely related to the 'tech' mentality.

I've been in SF but I live in London. Like NY, in London everyone uses the tube. Doesn't matter if you're rich or a poor sob, there is still public life and shared public space.

SF feels, to use tech jargon, 'unbundled'. I have never met more classist people than Californian tech workers, who seem entirely unaware of their own classism to boot.

The ideal world of the SF tech worker I think is an individual driving around in a driverless car (because that means they don't need to talk to the driver), ordering their food on Uber eats, having chats on clubhouse. And what's weird is how distinct this is from the finance driven culture of NY or London. The SF tech scene is also where I for the first time encountered people talking about 'unschooling' frequently, which is basically affluent people separating their kids from everyone else but they seemed to be convinced that this is very progressive.

Despite folks in finance also making a lot of cash, I don't think I've ever met a trader in the city of London who unschooled their kid.

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We notice it here in Cornwall, UK. Most of the time everyone is super friendly, lots of hellos and smiles between people you see in the street, even strangers. Then it's holiday season and the place fills up with visitors - there's a palpable change in the interactions.

I make a special effort to say HI and smile very enthusiastically during these times, see if I can break people out of their misery :-)

I've never in my life have been in a city where it would be OK to just say "hi" to a person you don't know and are not planning to get to know. This sounds... like something out of pure fantasy. Where on Earth do people do that?
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I noticed a large decline in friendliness, and it was one of the reasons why I moved out of California; Chico to the SF Bay Area were basically the same. And, new mail people eventually wouldn't even acknowledge my presence.

It seems like most average people were struggling and near the boiling point of discontent.

Even worse, because so many people in the SF Bay Area are semi-temporary transplants, they are often in "vacation"-mode and don't care about the area or other people as much because they're uninvested.