What not to say to cancer patients (oppositeinvictus.blot.im)

There title submission is incorrect, it should be "What to say (and not to say) to someone who is sick"

The "things not to say" list is pretty good, but I strongly disagree with the "things to say" list. I appreciate it when people say "let me know if I can help", but offering specific help or even worse "helping" without asking just drains my energy. I've also noticed I like getting a postcard, but dislike getting a text message. A text message produces a desire to respond (which I often don't feel like) whereas a postcard can just be enjoyed without the need to reciprocate. Although I did send flowers to someone who sent me six postcards in as many months.