Ask HN: What are the personal rules you follow on your daily life? 7 points by xcubic 5y ago ↗ HN And why?
[–] jka 5y ago ↗ Some to aspire to: https://www.openculture.com/2018/02/the-25-principles-for-ad... [–] samstave 5y ago ↗ Yeah, these are good, FTA:1. Be patient. No matter what.2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.4. Expand your sense of the possible.5. Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.6. Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.7. Tolerate ambiguity.8. Laugh at yourself frequently.9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.11. Give up blood sports.12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.18. Admit your errors freely and soon.19. Become less suspicious of joy.20. Understand humility.21. Remember that love forgives everything.22. Foster dignity.23. Live memorably.24. Love yourself.25. Endure. [–] [deleted] 5y ago ↗ (comment deleted)
[–] samstave 5y ago ↗ Yeah, these are good, FTA:1. Be patient. No matter what.2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.4. Expand your sense of the possible.5. Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.6. Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.7. Tolerate ambiguity.8. Laugh at yourself frequently.9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.11. Give up blood sports.12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.18. Admit your errors freely and soon.19. Become less suspicious of joy.20. Understand humility.21. Remember that love forgives everything.22. Foster dignity.23. Live memorably.24. Love yourself.25. Endure. [–] [deleted] 5y ago ↗ (comment deleted)
[–] timdaub 5y ago ↗ - I try to avoid solving upcoming challenges before-hand. I try to wait until a horizont of certainty comes in sight.- I put personal routine above opportunity if they're in conflict.- I don't rush and I'm patient.
[–] simonblack 5y ago ↗ I don't do guilt-trips and I don't lay blame.Never argue seriously with your partner. You don't always need to win. If you did win, was it worth it?People get the benefit of the doubt the first time. After that, probably not. "Never ascribe to malice what can also be ascribed to incompetence."Reciprocity and fairness. Is the situation the same if you reverse it?There is a difference between 'Moral' and 'Legal'. It pays you to know that difference every time.Unnecessary cruelty to animals is a sign of a person with low self-esteem.Edify, edify, edify.Win-win is a thousand times better than zero-sum.
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[ 1.5 ms ] story [ 24.9 ms ] thread1. Be patient. No matter what.
2. Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him.
3. Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
4. Expand your sense of the possible.
5. Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
6. Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.
7. Tolerate ambiguity.
8. Laugh at yourself frequently.
9. Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
10. Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
11. Give up blood sports.
12. Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
13. Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
14. Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
15. Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
16. Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
17. Praise at least as often as you disparage.
18. Admit your errors freely and soon.
19. Become less suspicious of joy.
20. Understand humility.
21. Remember that love forgives everything.
22. Foster dignity.
23. Live memorably.
24. Love yourself.
25. Endure.
- I put personal routine above opportunity if they're in conflict.
- I don't rush and I'm patient.
Never argue seriously with your partner. You don't always need to win. If you did win, was it worth it?
People get the benefit of the doubt the first time. After that, probably not. "Never ascribe to malice what can also be ascribed to incompetence."
Reciprocity and fairness. Is the situation the same if you reverse it?
There is a difference between 'Moral' and 'Legal'. It pays you to know that difference every time.
Unnecessary cruelty to animals is a sign of a person with low self-esteem.
Edify, edify, edify.
Win-win is a thousand times better than zero-sum.