Some of those "red flags" on the check list are so incredibly grave, just two or maybe just one alone should be more than enough to set off the "psycho alarm". (cruelty towards animals and kids and bragging about it? Come on?)
> Still, people loved her
The more interesting point here would be: who and WHY??? Analyze how she did that. From what we learned about her before, almost everyone should have hated her guts.
> After she killed my professional advancement in that company
And it would be interesting how she did that and why the author could not counter it, obviously, AT ALL. He should learn from that experience and share it.
It is great and a first step being able to identify those psycho predators but even more satisfying would be ultimately turning their own torpedoes against them - this is all about politics and certain soft skills, typically things that the average hacker despises with a passion.
Also, when they attack you directly, it does not always pay off to become defensive and explain yourself in detail; instead give just as outrageous and short a reply or do not even acknowledge how they attacked you and instead as a "reply" shift focus onto other/important matters.
> Instead use it to know if you need to put special guard up
Instead of just raising shields and becoming defensive, you absolutely need to make friends and allies long before that, preferably but not only in high(er) positions. Those psychos know who they can fuck with, who is an easy target. Make yourself a very difficult target because you are well connected and people love you.
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[ 3.4 ms ] story [ 15.3 ms ] thread> Still, people loved her
The more interesting point here would be: who and WHY??? Analyze how she did that. From what we learned about her before, almost everyone should have hated her guts.
> After she killed my professional advancement in that company
And it would be interesting how she did that and why the author could not counter it, obviously, AT ALL. He should learn from that experience and share it.
It is great and a first step being able to identify those psycho predators but even more satisfying would be ultimately turning their own torpedoes against them - this is all about politics and certain soft skills, typically things that the average hacker despises with a passion.
Also, when they attack you directly, it does not always pay off to become defensive and explain yourself in detail; instead give just as outrageous and short a reply or do not even acknowledge how they attacked you and instead as a "reply" shift focus onto other/important matters.
> Instead use it to know if you need to put special guard up
Instead of just raising shields and becoming defensive, you absolutely need to make friends and allies long before that, preferably but not only in high(er) positions. Those psychos know who they can fuck with, who is an easy target. Make yourself a very difficult target because you are well connected and people love you.