I didn't expect to like this article based on the headline, and the fact that the site is basically there to push a product, but in particular these two points jumped out at me.
[Disclosure: we have three kids between 5 and 11...]
We have (only) three rules for our kids. The wording can vary every so slightly depending on the situation but it boils down to:
1. Be safe
2. Be kind
3. _Try and_ do what you're told/asked.
We've always tried to stress that there's a reason rule one _is_ rule one.
A close family friend in his 20s took his own life just before Christmas a couple of years ago. I was with him and his father in the pub one evening, he was telling jokes, less than 24h later his father sent me a message saying he was gone.
So: be safe, and be kind. Everything else is noise.
It was this fear that stopped me from learning to ski until I was in my 30s and finally past the stage where I cared about screwing up and looking silly. Since then the joy I've felt on the slopes has been indescribable.
No judgment at all for how you choose to parent. I just wanted to mention that I was raised with calculated risk taking valued over safety. The Ben Franklin quote "Those who would give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety." was often heard in my childhood, as well as the value of taking risks in pursuit of meaningful goals. Not that my family was reckless by any means. I was taught to be safe as a default, be aware of the risks I'm taking, and have the courage to take risks when I understand what they are. This mindset has greatly contributed to my sense of adventure and independence, and has led to some of the best successes of my life. I'm not an unsafe person, but I don't place safety super high on my list of values.
> I just wanted to mention that I was raised with calculated risk taking valued over safety
Just to clarify: we're really not talking about absolute safety, our five-year old seems to be routinely covered in bruises incurrent from falling while climbing on things. Last month she had a couple of slightly loose teeth due to landing on her face while falling from (adult) shoulder height at a playground :eek:
I'm not sure the kids can process "be safe enough" but that's the intention in the "rule"...
Parents brains change too, with the arrival of kids. Its not the same brain anymore. Unless they are going through some kind of trauma of their own, biologically speaking odds are high they are the last people who will give up on the kids. No matter what happens.
I wish posts like this had a disclaimer about content marketing. I usually end up being surprised by an ad at the end; I'm left wondering how much of what I've just read was an attempt to educate readers and how much of it was a sales pitch.
This blog post is low quality marketing/SEO copy and paste. But the topic itself is very interesting. High-quality lecture series around the same topic (Human Behavioral Biology)
I've seen some questions on why this is on HN so I thought I'd explain why I posted it.
Quite simple really: my wife sent me this link because she liked it. I read it and liked it. We have two kids, the oldest being eight, and we're often discussing topics related to the content on the page.
I've seen that there's quite a bit of interest on HN when it comes to parenting so I thought I'd post it. (I do realize it's for some product/service, but I have no clue what that is. No affiliation, I just liked the text.)
The SAT-I 800 pt math section was trivial. I didn't study for it and aced it. Big whoop. The written part is more difficult. The GRE is mostly easy too. I wouldn't brag about such things. Abstract math proofs covering nearly 20 pages and deriving time-dependent Schrödinger wave eq PDFs.. try that shit.
The JEE would be more of a challenge. JEE Computer Science PhDs with American MD, and astronauts, I think, are more of an accomplishment. The ones I've met talk about the stories of the JEE test process don't brag about nothingburgers.
On top of this, my mother always taught me to keep my friends safe as well. Every time she'd point out something stupid I had done, she would also point out that my friends were bound to make the same mistake. Helped me and my friends avoid some bad situations and highlighted what my mother was trying to teach me.
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[ 3.1 ms ] story [ 39.9 ms ] threadI don't think I've ever commented this before, but why is this on the front page?
Why are we on the front page?
I think it's important to bring feelings out.
The pandemic didn't affect me directly. The opening has played with my mind.
My life wasen't that great before the pandemic, and it's not any better now.
I see people on tv acting so happy, but when I go out I see a lot of anger, and frustration.
It almost feels like now what am I supose to do, or feel, now the virus is under control?
I didn't expect to like this article based on the headline, and the fact that the site is basically there to push a product, but in particular these two points jumped out at me.
[Disclosure: we have three kids between 5 and 11...]
We have (only) three rules for our kids. The wording can vary every so slightly depending on the situation but it boils down to:
1. Be safe 2. Be kind 3. _Try and_ do what you're told/asked.
We've always tried to stress that there's a reason rule one _is_ rule one.
A close family friend in his 20s took his own life just before Christmas a couple of years ago. I was with him and his father in the pub one evening, he was telling jokes, less than 24h later his father sent me a message saying he was gone.
So: be safe, and be kind. Everything else is noise.
I hate seeing kids get paralysed by fear of failure. I want my kids to try and fail, it's the fastest way to learn and succeed.
It was this fear that stopped me from learning to ski until I was in my 30s and finally past the stage where I cared about screwing up and looking silly. Since then the joy I've felt on the slopes has been indescribable.
So on behalf of those future adults, thank you!
Just to clarify: we're really not talking about absolute safety, our five-year old seems to be routinely covered in bruises incurrent from falling while climbing on things. Last month she had a couple of slightly loose teeth due to landing on her face while falling from (adult) shoulder height at a playground :eek:
I'm not sure the kids can process "be safe enough" but that's the intention in the "rule"...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNnIGh9g6fA
Quite simple really: my wife sent me this link because she liked it. I read it and liked it. We have two kids, the oldest being eight, and we're often discussing topics related to the content on the page.
I've seen that there's quite a bit of interest on HN when it comes to parenting so I thought I'd post it. (I do realize it's for some product/service, but I have no clue what that is. No affiliation, I just liked the text.)
That's it.
The JEE would be more of a challenge. JEE Computer Science PhDs with American MD, and astronauts, I think, are more of an accomplishment. The ones I've met talk about the stories of the JEE test process don't brag about nothingburgers.
On top of this, my mother always taught me to keep my friends safe as well. Every time she'd point out something stupid I had done, she would also point out that my friends were bound to make the same mistake. Helped me and my friends avoid some bad situations and highlighted what my mother was trying to teach me.