Ask HN: How do I move up my career/life?

I would say just enjoy the less stressful job. It's probably a good idea to learn newer technologies or have a hobby-level side project just in case you have to look for a new job. I became an expert in a system and got to that liw-stress zone, only to have my job outsourced. It's good to have other skills.

It seems many people believe a career is necessary and that a career means constantly moving up. It's possible that a step in your career might take years longer than someone else, or it might take a less traditional route.

I've come to the realization that I have a job, not a career. I'm a midlevel developer with "a lot of potential", but that will never translate to a promotion or real raise. I've become jaded by all the false promises and lack of progression, and that will create a viscous cycle. So for me, it's best to just see it as a job so I don't fall as deeply into that cycle as I would if viewing it as a career.

I've been involved in hiring at most companies I've worked at and I can assure that hiring is a complete disaster everywhere. In fact, you mentioned that you were introverted but if you volunteered to help out with interviewing at your current company you might find it to be an eye opening experience.

It does tend to be better at faang companies, but not that much better. Still lots of ego and superstition.

One option to consider would be to just keep applying to either faang companies or companies with generally higher prestige that might lead to faang companies.

You can also look into doing contract work for them which tends to be an easier onramp to working there full time (but still quite hard).

You can also take this time to poke around at what you find interesting. This will likely also help your career a lot in various ways.

I've been in your situation a lot of times in my career "well this is boring. Now what?" I don't want to say this is advice exactly because you never know where it goes - but for me I've always looked around to see what seems most interesting and worked on that. Mostly because I'm a very lazy person and if I'm not deeply in love with my work it feels like pulling teeth.

Selfishly I'd love to have you back in the US! We need all the developers of your caliber we can get. But I totally understand not wanting to mess with visas. I have some friends who are on H1-B's. I would go crazy with all the nonsense they have to do. I had no idea how long it took before talking with them about it.

One last thought, ycombinator has been doing a push towards becoming international lately. You could take some time to think of something the world needs and you could plausibly build with great effort and then apply to YC with just the idea. Perhaps something that could only be built with a deep knowledge of Laravel.

Getting into YC is a longshot but you may find the questions in the application and sketching out your startup idea illuminating in it's own way. You can also apply again with more than just an idea next time if you don't get in. Or seek other funding (though that road is probably more difficult in India than in the US. Who knows though, there must be parts of India with a startup scene.)

Good luck friend!

  I have more interest in type systems and programming language theory and things like that.

Good luck!

This sentence stood out to me. If you're comfortable you're not growing. Punch above your weight-class and get hungry! Light that fire within yourself!

Reminds me of a joke by standup comedian Vishnu Vaka, delivered in Indian accent: “As you can probably tell from my accent I am from . . . New Jersey.”

It is a truly difficult process. No wonder people end up in the wrong jobs, have regrets etc. In any case, strengthen your position financially, as there will always be a need for it, even if you don't need it now.

There are truly 1 or 2 things most people will be successful at. It is worth trying to figure out what those are, for being successful in the wrong thing is not worth it.

- You are young and skilled, apply for a Canadian PR under express entry and move to Canada. Better work/life balance, better pay and better opportunities.

- Keep learning new stuff everyday. If you stop learning in the technology space you become obsolete pretty quickly.

- Work in the blockchain space and by extension in open source software. You are good at Go, contribute to Go Ethereum Client.

You already know what to do here.

I just quit my job at MSFT sometime back, worked straight outta college for four years (in the MS-IDC office). I quit to actually pursue Research in "systems". As for you not getting a callback, add the right keywords/buzzwords in your resume and most importantly LC (considering where you are in your career LC is more than enough). Thats all there is to it. You have a Masters degree from US and you seem like a curious person, I have seen people with far less get into a FAANG job (in India at-least).

FAANG job would definitely be a step up in all aspects money, career etc, for a couple of years at-least. But I get a sense maybe you will grow out of it too (just like I did).

Good luck with whatever you do.

1. Getting into a more prestigious company is likely your next step. You only need to stay there 2-4 years but, since colleges are more corrupt, it's really the modern grad degree that proves your worth. FAANG or a reputable startup is your best option (LinkedIn Top 50 or Breakout List). The crazy hours you hear about are more self-imposed than you think, not mandatory.

2. If FAANG isn't calling you back, this means that you likely weren't even close on the interviews (Medium to Strong - No Hire). The interview algorithms are a heavily game-ified system and these companies expect you to study and game them so hard that answering the questions are second nature. I used to resent this, then I realized that it's actually a really good way to filter a large group of people with less class bias. If anyone can pass but they have to create their own 2-4 month gradual study plan to ace it, who is competent enough to pull that off? Often, in a larger org, you are encouraged to ignore your instincts and game-ify on arbitrary metrics to achieve larger-multistage company goals anyways. Adjusting my mindset this way helped me get the fortitude I needed to be better here.

3. Coding Competitions are another good way to get noticed by companies. The existing algo interviews started as NP-complete puzzles and Coding competitions and many people came to Facebook from that route (https://github.com/robertdimarco/puzzles/tree/master/faceboo...). Kaggle is the new equivalent for ML. It's a great time to get into ML via a non-traditional route and will likely turn into the existing algo interview frustration as it matures.

You need to first find some purpose or things that make you happy in general. Is it money/coding/learning/building something new?

If its money, you need to keep moving to newer jobs after every few years(2-3 experience) that pay higher. The market right now favors good developers and scaling money via offers is the best. New environment, people and work can be refreshing.

Save -> Invest and let it compound over long time to increase your net worth.

If its coding/learning - you can try joining a mid level company that's around 20 - 100 people where you would have freedom to pick and work on new things - keep learning/moving across teams.

If you job doesn't allow consulting - building something new on the side on your own should work out, try and find an interesting side project you can build or contribute to open source projects, join the community - many active channels on discord.

If you have any other questions, post on the thread - i will try my best to help you out.

I have been coding since the past ~12 years and kept myself busy in learning new technologies. Been building new products using latest technologies every few months, this kept me excited. I hated corporate jobs as they cap the learning and had to deal with incompetent/bad managers.

You are worthy and this random internet stranger cares. Imagine for a moment you have the opportunity to ask anyone you imagine to be on HN what they could give you. What would you ask for?

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I was really frustrated earlier this year, left my job, got a new one that I was really excited about. It's a remote software job in game dev. It's a good job and I'm excited, but what I realized is that it wasn't some magical bullet for all my frustrations. Life is complex and I think I'm starting to realize that it can't all be boiled down into one thing. I'm not just interested in doing one thing. I want to work on cool things, I want to become really good at my job and pick up skills and experience, I want to get married, I want to waste time playing games and doing other experiences I enjoy, I want to pick up random skills that won't really benefit me in any meaningful way but I would enjoy having. And the list goes on. I don't think I can distill what I want or who I am into one thing or one goal. That said I'm very aspirational, just like a lot of engineers/geeks/nerds. I think a common path for many engineers in life is to try and reach some technical peak. There's the idea that if I could just get good enough, if I could be really competent at my job or some skill then I would derive satisfaction from it. I think I would if I reached that peak. But I think reaching that peak would be a bit like this new job I got; it wouldn't be the answer for everything. That doesn't mean I'm not going to go for that peak, I am, it's just I no longer have the illusion that it will profoundly change who I am. So I think I maybe see some parallels with what you want. You're looking to get into FAANG, ML, or even looking into moving to a different city/country. I don't think any of these things are going to profoundly change who you are or how you feel. I'm not saying don't do them, pursuing those things could be some of the greatest things you do in your life.

Again not to try and be annoyingly profound, but try to find out who you are instead of defining yourself through your aspirations. Little things can end up having a large effect on you as well, not just huge life changing decisions, which I'm guessing you're hoping will get you out of this malaise. I don't think working at facebook or moving to London, will change your mindset. They might faciliate that change, but the change ultimately will be internal to you.

Just wanted to comment on this - Hasura is one of those rare venture funded startups whose stack is in Haskell and iirc they hire a lot of Haskell devs in Bangalore, India

1. Switch away from php to something modern, more universal, more looking into the future and more relevant for big tech these days ASAP.

I mean find better job on go, js, python, kotlin or whatever biggest companies use for new products these days — right away.

Some company or startup that is building complex product, rather than just reselling engineers’ work hours to customers with lookalike projects.

And continue to build your unique carrier capital on that.

2. Get prepared to motivate and push yourself to grow.

3. Find best place in your area or (if you decide you don’t really belong in your country either) find opportunities to move to Europe or Canada. There’re plenty of them currently.

4. Build some plan with end goal that you feel you really like.

And just f*ng execute.

Plan (and your feelings about it) may and will change dramatically along the way, it’s okay.

The only critical part is keep moving.

If this doesn’t help - find a therapist that will help you fix your mental barriers.

Good luck.

Also, I always had a strong passion for music, so I started a band as a "side-project" and it added a huge amount of fun to my life...plus it allowed me to meet interesting non-tech people and really put in perspective the "work" side of my life comparted to the "living" side.

It sounds like you need more "living" and less "work"...of course, music probably isn't your thing but anything that really interests you outside of IT could be considered as a way to get out of the rut you find yourself in.