Give it (say) 5 years, do the comparison again and note how many of those people have burned out, being unable to handle the fame/power/money. There's always an advantage to being "ordinary" and once someone's achieved a certain level it can be really difficult to sustain it.
That problem can be turned into a boon. You have a better chance that there's something interesting on the list you actually want to do. Or important ones, or whatever you care about.
What about the ones you don't care about as much? Well, you don't care about them, so not doing them is not a problem.
An overlong todo list is a nice tool to help prioritize the valuable things.
I have a rule. If something stays in my list for longer than a month, it's not that important. I would suggest you just remove it, but fear of missing out is a thing. So instead you can have a low priority todo list and move it there.
Have you tried accutane? I have a family history of adult acne, took accutane in my early 20's and after six months it was permanently gone. They used to call me "Pizza Face McGee" it was that bad.
30+ years of being the sole data-handling tech resource for a company that's expanded like crazy, just over 1 year to retirement and nobody, but nobody has even started talking about replacing me.
Yes, a lot of people outside the company have said that. I feel a degree of loyalty having been there right from the start, but I'm sure this will disappear in a year's time :)
The risk register is an interesting thought which I'll check out; thanks!
You don't have to do anything. You don't have to be anyone. You don't have to go anywhere. Life is not going to stop because you don't do something with your life. What are the 100 trillion lifeforms on earth, 8 billion of them human, doing that's so essential?
And there's a lot to being an Everyman. It's not a life lived unwell, or it doesn't have to be. One could well argue that unwellness is a function of doing. Read I. Berlin’s In Defense of Idleness.
Sorry to hear that. Having had a wife with medical issues I feel your pain. No matter what you do, you feel guilty or frustrated, which makes everything else frustrating too.
If financially able I would recommend hiring people to help. It can be from care, to cleaning the house, getting your groceries. Outsourcing costs money, but it will create time for yourself.
The apathy that accompanies depression. Most days, I can't complete simple chores let alone the important duties required of an adult with a house and family.
My dude, I have been here. I set my "baseline self care" to try and combat some of this.
1. eat enough
2. sleep enough (you're depressed, you need more sleep than normal)
3. read the Bible
That last one is for christian folks. My faith and dependence on God has been the thing that has allowed me to pull through. Self-care comes in close second.
Started a business with my dad, brother joined a few years later, it's been 13 years now, we've put our blood into it , same with every one in the family. We prioritised the business over everything, health, relationship, friends,all our life savings buying a house. Covid hit us pretty bad, missed some payments, 3 days from now I'm probably gonna throw the downpayment I've been saving at it, but the lawyers's have fucked up and it might go under and we'll lose everything. Might have to support them indefinitely. I think it's over with the girl i like. Smoking more than ever, getting high every day.
The thing with small businesses is that it's all-consuming. If you think you can squeeze work-life balance out of a business, then you are borderline delusional.
The (false) freedom, (unstable flow of) money, and (faux) independence of being a business owner can seem great, but the 24/7/365 grind isn't worth it for so many who try. I didn't have a weekend off for 9 years!
If your business fails, take the lessons and run, particularly with regard to whether you want to be owned again by your livelyhood in future endeavors.
Maybe failure is the door you've been looking for. Don't be afraid of it.
I’m almost 30 and I’m still chasing the career I want.
I’m in IT, but I want to be in software dev.
I want to build things, not just fix them.
When I was 17 a company poached my from my technical high school and put me in the field to learn by doing. It went great, but it’s not the career I want.
I need to find the same opportunity but in a software developer role. I’m confident that I’ll be a sponge and I’ll produce results quickly under someone’s wing, but it’s rare that someone wants that with such competitive market.
If someone here is curious about this, please reach out, I’m willing to take it as a second job part time if you can’t pay much, or even if you can’t pay. All I need is an opportunity to get my foot in the door.
I understand that and I’m ready to do that. But I see it as being part of the group that is building something. In IT, unless you are an architect, things are pretty much set. I understand that I romanticize it a bit, but I won’t settle until I try for myself.
I think this is what I want my career to be so I’m trying to go for it. If it’s not, then I’ll go for mechanical engineering and I’ll start all over. Mech eng would line up with my hobby of racing cars in part.
We malign China's social credit system, but the same systems exists in America, only worse. We have “credit systems” for everything: financial, criminal, employment, race, sex, social, etc. These systems forget nothing, and they can be used in perpetuity to support any decision needed for or against you: a job, a house, a life, etc.
We built these systems. We wrote every if/then/else reject algorithm out there, consequence: rejection. The algorithm does not love you; therefore, begone! And to see just how much it loves you (or doesn't), try pulling a comprehensive background check on yourself. Records you thought gone 20 years ago? Ha! As if.
Try applying for a job using an HR system like Taleo, ADP, etc. You have sins, financial problem, criminal record, hole in resumé? Your application will never see human eyes. It won't even be marked for review.
I hope for your sake that you never make even a modest mistake.
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[ 90.2 ms ] story [ 348 ms ] threadWhat about the ones you don't care about as much? Well, you don't care about them, so not doing them is not a problem.
An overlong todo list is a nice tool to help prioritize the valuable things.
2. Not enough energy and not great health (I get sick rather easily when I get outside during less than perfect weather).
Patella Femoral Syndrome
Arthritis in my back at age 27
You guys are wimps
If your company has a risk register, this is an important item to add, and if not it's time to make one.
Nadda.
If financially able I would recommend hiring people to help. It can be from care, to cleaning the house, getting your groceries. Outsourcing costs money, but it will create time for yourself.
1. eat enough 2. sleep enough (you're depressed, you need more sleep than normal) 3. read the Bible
That last one is for christian folks. My faith and dependence on God has been the thing that has allowed me to pull through. Self-care comes in close second.
The (false) freedom, (unstable flow of) money, and (faux) independence of being a business owner can seem great, but the 24/7/365 grind isn't worth it for so many who try. I didn't have a weekend off for 9 years!
If your business fails, take the lessons and run, particularly with regard to whether you want to be owned again by your livelyhood in future endeavors.
Maybe failure is the door you've been looking for. Don't be afraid of it.
Why are my sheltered retirement funds only available penalty-free at 60 and onward?
Can I survive and thrive in tech into my 50s?
Only if you are by then successful. If not, your career will stall late 30s when you realize tech is age-bound, however immoral or illegal.
They absolutely will hire 2 inexperienced college grads over paying for your 25 years of experience everytime.
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When I was 17 a company poached my from my technical high school and put me in the field to learn by doing. It went great, but it’s not the career I want. I need to find the same opportunity but in a software developer role. I’m confident that I’ll be a sponge and I’ll produce results quickly under someone’s wing, but it’s rare that someone wants that with such competitive market.
If someone here is curious about this, please reach out, I’m willing to take it as a second job part time if you can’t pay much, or even if you can’t pay. All I need is an opportunity to get my foot in the door.
Coming from someone who also said “I want to build things not fix them” when I picked CS when I was 18.
To be fair, I went to ODU though and didn’t have the best grades.
I think this is what I want my career to be so I’m trying to go for it. If it’s not, then I’ll go for mechanical engineering and I’ll start all over. Mech eng would line up with my hobby of racing cars in part.
We built these systems. We wrote every if/then/else reject algorithm out there, consequence: rejection. The algorithm does not love you; therefore, begone! And to see just how much it loves you (or doesn't), try pulling a comprehensive background check on yourself. Records you thought gone 20 years ago? Ha! As if.
Try applying for a job using an HR system like Taleo, ADP, etc. You have sins, financial problem, criminal record, hole in resumé? Your application will never see human eyes. It won't even be marked for review.
I hope for your sake that you never make even a modest mistake.