"We do not allow our children to have their own computers to prevent the risk of them being radicalized by alt-right websites, so our kids share a laptop that we monitor and control access to."
Is monitoring your kids for alt-right radicalization propaganda the new monitoring your kids for porn? Is this a common thing parents are worried about now?
...That's where you're wrong. I've been asked by my aunt to narc on the activity of their little girl whose computer I set up. This is disturbingly common to the point I consider it a public service to help kids find some private space to experiment and express themselves to help figure out who they are.
Amazingly, this makes you the first person kids who know you won't make a big deal of things reach out to.
"We do not allow our children to have their own computers to prevent the risk of them being radicalized by alt-right websites"
This is a sign of mental illness in parents. Shocking. I haven't seen the equivalent of since Christian parents weren't letting their kids read Harry Potter books in the early 2000s because they discussed witchcraft.
" We found an excel spreadsheet in Jack’s folder that listed the names of all of his classmates, as well as dates and descriptions of their problematic behavior. Some of the descriptions I saw include “has a mom who is a cop,” “no pronouns in insta bio,” “laughed at a fat joke,” “lists problematic show as one of their favorites,” “mimicked a foreign accent,” and “used cis-normative language.”"
He is simply mirroring his parents worrying mental illness.
The parents' letter is a little bonkers, but the response is totally reasonable. I feel like the responder was trying to politely say "this isn't OK no matter where you're coming from on it" without saying it.
When they say things like "Given the long history of white people policing Black existence, I question whether Jack is the right person to be taking on this task and whether it would be more appropriate coming from a BIPOC person." they're missing the point. It's not "appropriate" to keep annotated lists of every single behavior someone does that you don't like. This isn't adult men committing sexual harassment, it's teenagers with Instagram accounts.
Likewise, "On the other hand, I am proud of how committed he is to this cause and I don’t want to stop him from bearing witness to injustices within his own community." That's not what this is. It's a burn book.
The idea that they'd even consider support his doing if it weren't being concealed from them is absurd. This behavior shouldn't be normalized and will fix nothing.
I believe in and agree with most of the causes people consider to be under the umbrella of "social justice" (my post history will bear me out) and this is absolutely way past the mark of being OK.
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[ 2.7 ms ] story [ 23.5 ms ] threadIs monitoring your kids for alt-right radicalization propaganda the new monitoring your kids for porn? Is this a common thing parents are worried about now?
Amazingly, this makes you the first person kids who know you won't make a big deal of things reach out to.
This seems even worse. More like reading their diary than snooping for pornographic magazines.
Super creepy and I cannot help but see a parallel to the teenager's list. Cannot leave them alone, keeps tabs on everyone and all they might do wrong.
This is a sign of mental illness in parents. Shocking. I haven't seen the equivalent of since Christian parents weren't letting their kids read Harry Potter books in the early 2000s because they discussed witchcraft.
" We found an excel spreadsheet in Jack’s folder that listed the names of all of his classmates, as well as dates and descriptions of their problematic behavior. Some of the descriptions I saw include “has a mom who is a cop,” “no pronouns in insta bio,” “laughed at a fat joke,” “lists problematic show as one of their favorites,” “mimicked a foreign accent,” and “used cis-normative language.”"
He is simply mirroring his parents worrying mental illness.
When they say things like "Given the long history of white people policing Black existence, I question whether Jack is the right person to be taking on this task and whether it would be more appropriate coming from a BIPOC person." they're missing the point. It's not "appropriate" to keep annotated lists of every single behavior someone does that you don't like. This isn't adult men committing sexual harassment, it's teenagers with Instagram accounts.
Likewise, "On the other hand, I am proud of how committed he is to this cause and I don’t want to stop him from bearing witness to injustices within his own community." That's not what this is. It's a burn book.
The idea that they'd even consider support his doing if it weren't being concealed from them is absurd. This behavior shouldn't be normalized and will fix nothing.
I believe in and agree with most of the causes people consider to be under the umbrella of "social justice" (my post history will bear me out) and this is absolutely way past the mark of being OK.