Ask HN: How do you deal with being “nearly immensely successful”?

I don't know--but maybe the following ideas can help add some more pieces of the picture to what you're going through...or maybe add some perspective. But I'm sorry...this will probably come across as some self-indulgent, brow-beating, gonad-breaking, criticism--an easy chance for one person to take a pot shot at someone else vulnerable, in their moment of Ask HN need--just to make themselves feel better. So I'm sure you'll think it's better to take advice from an actual bona fide "immensely successful" person...than from some random unknown commenter on HN who is probably in a similar situation to you "success"-wise...but who perhaps simply feels differently than you about it.

Realize the importance of consistent, sustained, strategic execution, and that it's not where you start (in your case, your idea, your inspiration, your initial implementations) it's where you choose to go from there: in other words, the long trail of a constant succession of choices that generate those results. Almost goes without saying that persistence is a necessary condition of the above.

Correct your perspective: you weren't "inches from immense success", you were a long, and not-straight-line path, made up of hundreds of thousands of tiny choices, from what you merely imagine yourself to have been on the brink of being.

Also, realize the long tail, comprising two insights: 1) Your idea, or even implementations, did not make you unique, nor did it make you alike to the people who executed with a "completed" realized idea that was "very close" to yours; and 2) For every 1 human who succeeds "immensely" with an idea, there are a-to-the-n other humans on Earth who had the same idea (within some measure of "idea similarity"), for each n in 1..steps-away-from-completion and for some a (maybe related to the idea).

Finally, consider why you might be having this reaction...what would lead you to the compelling-yet-erroneous notion (and correlated emotional agony response) that success was as easy as a few steps from where you were (idea, and code), to where those you see are ("immense success")? Could it be maybe--possibly have--something to do with how the media, Tech Media in particular, lionizes and simplifies the lives of "The Founders" into easily digestible, almost-straight-line mythological narratives? Might it be that, somehow? This mythologization serves a purpose, no doubt--surely it inspires successive generations of founders to pursue those fleeting paper riches, like wise men pointing up at a star--but it's not tonic for the long road, nor for the long dark night of the soul, that presumably many on the Path so often face. On that path, there are deeper secrets to learn, but maybe the tech media does not have the strength to reveal them. So... maybe settle for your miracle (of inspiration, and experience) and learn for next time, for the road for you ahead.

And there is nothing wrong with that. I still make things. I pay my bills. And whether or not I have huge business success, I spend my time each evening with my wife and children in a home we love. I consider that a success no matter how uninspiring my career may be.

So don't look back. Your success in your work does not define whether you personally are a success or a loser. Look at the good of what you have now, not the ideal world that could have been if you had successfully min/maxed every possible decision in life.

Definitely dont spent today torturing yourself of the perceived failures of the past. If you can't learn a lesson from it, the time spent recalling it is wasted; and if you're upset about the episode you wont be learning the right lessons from it until the emotion fades anyway.

After a while, I come to realize that success isn't the inspirational idea, that's the precursor. It is the effort put into getting that idea as a product into the hands of the people that can use it. It's quite similar when someone with an idea wants to partner with some devs to implement it, but want most of the company, underestimating the development iterations and scaling needed. The same is also true if you already had the idea and the implementation, even with product-market-fit and need to get the word out and make sales.

You seem to have roughly two options: (1) feel that you were very close to success and failed, or (2) that you had an idea that could be successful with much action and effort. The feeling of failure comes from believing in being very very close to success. You have given no indication that you acted on the idea--the winning formula consists of the refined idea AND the implementation, iteration, sales and marketing. If you did do all those things and failed, you can feel good that you did the best you could and was outcompeted. If you didn't, the feeling of failure should only be focused toward inaction, which is regret. I have some of those but don't dwell on them and direct them at my own inaction rather than as something that happened to me. Maybe this is the way, let the feelings of failure become a regret and learn to move on, don't look back.

I would be a billionare today— How do I deal with it? Just move on. Ultimately it is our own fault for not doing what our gut was telling us. So just move on and do something else.