Probably needless to say but this only works as long as you don't care about the person in front of you. If your expectations of a dating life consist of "getting lucky" with random hot strangers this is a good strategy because there is an endless supply of random hot strangers available. Of course, women adore confidence above many other traits; so the good news is you can train for it, but I think it's foolish to forget that this is a fundamentally empty experience.
I also believe if there is something most people have too much of, it's confidence and a disproportional sense of superiority. We waste a lot of effort trying to seem exceptional instead of trying to become more exceptional.
Nothing illustrates this as well as people who consider themselves hot. Dealing with people who think they're hot is a grating experience, even later on during the relationship. Is it really a good idea to work on making yourself more accessible to them?
You shouldn't care about the person in front of you until they have proven their worth. "Hotness" is simply giving the women a chance to prove herself. If she does, then you can create a good connection. It doesn't have to end up as an empty experience. If she doesn't have a mind past that hotness, then walk away (or have an empty experience to learn). It would be wrong to say it's always empty.
Higher value is an overrated trait. It's definitely important but it isn't the end-all, be-all. Confidence/fun/etc. is.
"Hot" is subjective. Your hot could be average to me and vice versa. It depends on what your priorities are in a relationship. If you found a hot catch and you are willing to challenge other candidates, why not? That could be fun within itself. If you want a one night stand, that's you. If you want a long term relationship with a decent enough girl, that's cool too.
Nothing surprising here. Read anything else on being a pick up artist and you find the same results. What these sort of exercises ultimately achieve is confidence in approaching and engaging with complete strangers in conversation--male or female, hot or ugly. Social skills that most of us don't "naturally" possess--nerd or otherwise.
We all know it works, it's just easier said than done for most people.
Reminds of of HN frequenter Jason Shen's rejection therapy. It's all about getting over the initial reptilian fear, or resistance. Also see "Do The Work" by Steven Pressfield, dedicated fully to this "resistance".
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[ 3.9 ms ] story [ 19.6 ms ] threadI also believe if there is something most people have too much of, it's confidence and a disproportional sense of superiority. We waste a lot of effort trying to seem exceptional instead of trying to become more exceptional.
Nothing illustrates this as well as people who consider themselves hot. Dealing with people who think they're hot is a grating experience, even later on during the relationship. Is it really a good idea to work on making yourself more accessible to them?
Higher value is an overrated trait. It's definitely important but it isn't the end-all, be-all. Confidence/fun/etc. is.
"Hot" is subjective. Your hot could be average to me and vice versa. It depends on what your priorities are in a relationship. If you found a hot catch and you are willing to challenge other candidates, why not? That could be fun within itself. If you want a one night stand, that's you. If you want a long term relationship with a decent enough girl, that's cool too.
We all know it works, it's just easier said than done for most people.