For most Americans it's impossible to understand naturism. In their world a nipple must be covered. But gore and violence is accepted.
Luckily in Europe you still have many places where people have a different mindset.
Ummm, I can tell you straight away most people in Croatia don't like nudism or naked people walking around. There are places that allow that specifically - but if you walk around shirtless you'll likely get a fine.
Croatia is very socially conservative, so I don't get these contrasts with America. We can't even legalise weed - I'd say largely due to religious connotations/pushback.
Apparently those no shirtless walking signs were not based on any laws so they can't fine you, I just remember seeing that on news. Island cities did put up the signs, which was my point about the local attitude.
That's pure conjecture, you don't know that. Yes if you ask someone from continental part, on a typical central european estate, "do you like nudism" ofc the answer will be no. Ask people that live in the towns that have nudist zones under their jurisdiction, that's how you get relevant answers.
No, Croatia is not "very socially conservative". It is maybe a bit more conservative than typical EU state which is still way more progressive than American notion of "conservative" let alone "very conservative".
Then the thing is that places mentioned in the thread are not conservative at all. Coastal towns are not conservative.
I come from Split and I have never ever had any troubles or whatsoever of being shirtless. You know that we only have those fines because of uncultured tourists. Because they think they can enter museum or bank in their swimsuits.
Also there have always been undesignated nudist zones everywhere. There's one 20 minutes walk from Split downtown. On the islands, wherever urbanization stops, there could be naked people on the rocks of the shoreline. They just move a bit away, like 200-300m further from the last accessible beach in the area, and sun on the rocks. Every child that has spent more than 2-3 hours in a boat in Dalmatia was bound to see naked human genitalia up front or in the distance.
Just to add to this - I'm from Zagreb (Capital of Croatia, former Yugoslavia republic) - we literally have nudist beach a mile or two from strict center of the city (https://tourist.hr/place/nudist-beach-jarun).
>Then the thing is that places mentioned in the thread are not conservative at all. Coastal towns are not conservative.
Umm they are literally putting up boards that they will fine people walking shirtless on islands. Apparently they can't actually fine them because it's not based on any laws - but it's cities putting up these signs.
> Also there have always been undesignated nudist zones everywhere.
Designated or not is a technically, how many people out of general population actually go there ? This notion that it's generally acceptable - it's not. When I've wondered into to those places on Pag as a kid it was almost exclusively tourists and the locals would talk about it very judgementally.
>It is maybe a bit more conservative than typical EU state which is still way more progressive than American notion of "conservative" let alone "very conservative".
A country where we have like 50% of people vaccinated for COVID because of conspiracy theories fuelled by religious community ? Where 86% of population declared as Chatolic ? Where no doctor would perform an abortion on fetus with brain tumor because of call to consciousness (even when it was legal) and a woman had to go to Slovenia ?
Croatia is a religious and conservative country, comparing to US pointless, but pretending we're some progressive nudist friendly country is just counterfactual. We have nudist beaches, and people get naked on boats.
lol at this. generally former yugoslavia is only superficially conservative. i mean that in a good way. particularly we care about politeness manners and about our image and how we are percieved (again exceptions always exist). but trust me we also know how to have fun and enjoy life. nije prisa ;)
To me, naturist beaches fall under the same category as saunas, when you go naked. In most cases there's virtually zero sexuality going on. Sure, there's always exceptions, where people see tits and go crazy about it, but in most cases it's completely different. I'm quite glad my country also has nudist beaches for those who want to be naked there.
on a nudist beach or a nude sauna, i would have a permanent 3erktion--until it were to be resolved. as it is, the models on the ads along streets are already troublesome enough. isn't it my right to live in a world where semi-nude women are not shoved into my face wherever i look???
i dont know what kind of disfunctions niydists have but as a normal and healthy man, i can't NOT feel anything even in the presence of a naked flabby sea-lion of a woman.
It’s surprising actually, with normal people, nudism/naturism is generally super non-sexy, especially compared to the kind of models you see partially clothed in ads. Firstly, because most people don’t look like models, but even when you see more attractive people, the context is very different and you get used to it pretty quickly and the weirdness and novelty wears off. Anyone going hoping for sexual satisfaction will probably be disappointed.
I think this sort of thing becomes far less arousing once it is no longer taboo and uncommon. I'm gay and that probably means I've been in situations where I've been naked around people I might be attracted to more often than most straight men are (locker rooms, saunas, doctors visits, etc.). My experience has been that on its own nudity outside of a sexual situation isn't enough to be arousing, it's not something that even crosses my mind anymore.
> when you go naked. In most cases there's virtually zero sexuality going on
I definitely helps that most attendees are not particularly attractive. But as soon as an actually attractive girl/woman is present - I do have to manage my attention to avoid ... ahem ... drawing unwanted attention. Happens very rarely, though. And I'm saying that as someone having gone to the sauna for many years.
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just to be clearer - I never go to the sauna with sexual intentions and never ever made anybody feel uncomfortable for sure. I just don't find this often proclaimed "saunas are asexual" credible. they can be very sexual and many people go there with that mindest - as far as I can tell (as a man) mostly from the gay community. and for me as a man who very well can admire a firm female body I simply have to say that indeed it helps that there are very few of that kind. most people are old and wrinkled and I just keep my eyes everywhere else.
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also this "naked is cool" but "sexuality is inappropriate" attitude is not fitting the lifestyle and mindest described in the article. it's a prude and artificial take on human life and desires.
> I do have to manage my attention to avoid ... ahem ... drawing unwanted attention
> I [. . .] never ever made anybody feel uncomfortable for sure
Really doubt both of these things are true. It's very obvious if someone has to intentionally avoid looking around a place naturally. The people around you will notice and they will know why, and that will make them uncomfortable.
I really don't understand this impulse either. As someone who has frequently hung out with friends of my age naked, and I consider many of them very attractive, I just do not get aroused in this situation. If it's clear that it's not a sexual situation what is there to get excited about? Are you so sexually repressed that any attractive person in the nude causes such an involuntary reaction?
> As someone who has frequently hung out with friends of my age naked, and I consider many of them very attractive, I just do not get aroused in this situation
> Are you [and certainly not me] so sexually repressed that any attractive person in the nude causes such an involuntary reaction?
both of these things can't be true either :D
A sauna is usally small with seats arranged around an oven. If an attractive woman with ample bosom is sitting at right angles to me then it can be optically impossible not to constantly notice ... and yes, there are women who are seeking attention and optimize for it actively.
One of my favorite stories is seeing a pair of naked Men walking down the sidewalk in the Castro. They had matching prince Albert's, with shiny chains ganging off their penises. They would chastise people on the sidewalk for looking at them. I like to think they were doing it tongue in cheek, a kind of performance art.
In my experience, the gay male community has a pretty good culture of noticing bodies and then moving on.
First, a huge a mount of people are sexually repressed in the west. Second, is a double standard where looking around naturally is upsetting to some in a nude setting. This causes a lot of issues with people trying to behave in ways that were never natural to them.
When I meet someone at a work or a coffee shop, I will look at them and notice what shit, pants, and shoes they are wearing. What their body type is and if they work out. It isn't a sexual thing, just part of being an observant and curious person.
This level of attention is generally regarded as impolite for some nudists. They want to be naked but they also want their bodies to be invisible to others, which causes some serious conflicts with reality.
> Are you so sexually repressed that any attractive person in the nude causes such an involuntary reaction?
That's the opposite of sexual repression isn't it? (Taking the term literally). If you are getting more aroused in a situation than is socially acceptable, then it seems you are insufficiently repressed.
Can't one bring a towel and cover ones thighs, if need arise? And thereafter, no longer any need to worry about reacting to beautiful women, because if I've does, no one would notice anyway?
Or maybe it can look suspicious if suddenly one reaches for one's towel?
I've never been in a nude sauna though, not common around here. Seems as if could be good, anyway, with a "safety plan" to avoid getting embarrassed
> Can't one bring a towel and cover ones thighs, if need arise? And thereafter, no longer any need to worry about reacting to beautiful women, because if I've does, no one would notice anyway?
all a boy needs to bring for such a situation is fond memories of your grandma :D
I like to think I am a sauna and bath house afficianto.
I think this reaction is entirely normal. Humans have emotions but should be judged on their actions, not thoughts.
If someone takes issue with you averting your gaze, they have an issue with reality.
It unreasonable to expect others to simultaneously pay attention to your genitals and but also not notice them.
That said, I think there is a lot less cognitive dissonance in taking a polite look and moving on than trying to pretend people are disembodied heads floating around.
Well... I would agree with you when it comes to well known and well used public nude beaches. But truth is that here in Sweden at least there are often oglers, and people just walking up and down the beach proposing sex.
Never experienced that as a tourist at nude beaches in Croatia but then again they were never as crowded as here.
I’m currently on a camping in Croatia, it’s so hot even swimming trousers feel sticky and irritating. It would be more comfortable just to be nude.
FKK still seems to be booming here, I noticed huge campings, 2000 or more spots, lots of facilities, all FKK.
Also spend many holidays as a kid on an FKK camping in Yugoslavia, wasn’t always easy, especially as a adolescent (always bring a towel), but it always felt like a normal family camping.
I actually got my backside pretty badly sunburnt nude on a beach and I quickly, and painfully, learnt how you pretty much use it constantly.
Also, I've yet to work out the correct edicate for the (very necessary) process of applying sunscreen to your genitals on the beach, especially in mixed company.
Given that on a US beach you will see people 95%+ naked I don't see how the extra 5% makes a difference to getting burnt. Just follow Mary Schmich (and thus Baz Luhrmann)'s advise - Wear Sunscreen.
The recommendation is to use clothes, sunscreen is for the parts the clothes don't cover. At least for us swedes with sensitive skin from the long winters :-)
I did try wearing more clothes, but due to the high temperatures everything is soaking wet in no time, and starts to cause rashes. No clothing is more comfortable.
Sadly, the FKK seems to be in decline in Croatia. According to Slovenian newspapers the formerly FKK camping sites are slowly transitioning to clothed ones.
I think you're misunderstanding here. From what I've seen of ads like this, it shows a woman in the shower using the product. Any body part shown is incidental and not exploitative.
I've seen "Crazy European commercial" type videos and they were things like two people having fairly aggressive sex and in the very background a crumpled pair of jeans or socks or something was the product being advertised. IIRC it was French or Belgian commercial. Then there were several other commercials in that presentation from various European countries that were on either side of that level of "sell it with sex".
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>, I remember being stuck for half an hour in a traffic jam in east Beirut with my husband and kids on the way to a mountain picnic. Right in front of us were two giant billboards (both the same) advertising jeans with a man and woman in a sexy pose, and the woman (of course) without a top. I guess by then I was not shocked but did feel it was gratuitous (to sell jeans? or to sell sex?).
the mix of whatever is left of victorian prudishness with decades of agressively commercialized porn sure makes for a complex and unhealthy relationship to the human body
My favourite was 50 Shades of Gray playing at 6PM on public tv (ie: everyone gets this channel).
Was a basic enough movie that I could follow along with the French subtitles. Then it was just playing in the background and only the un-translated parts stood out. Either French doesn’t have a term for “fisting” or it gets by the censors if they don’t dub it?
as a result, the best location in ex-jugo cost are now still those naturist (mostly belonging to F.K.K.) campings: there is a say: "do you want the best location in the cost, go into a FKK campings"
I feel like there was this great period from about 1950 to the mid 70s (I wasnt born until mid 80s) where people tried new and different things. Everything from nudism to environmentalism to living in communes to drugs and sex.
And now we're all back to doing the same BS things as the next guy and trying to be 1% more efficient than the next guy. Make sure you fit in. Join an HOA because you want your property price to rise as much as possible even though you don't care about lawns and picket fences. Don't have a hole in your CV, how will you explain taking 6m off to backpack Europe in your 30s!?
>the world has never been as encouraging of trying different things as now
Weed was the counterculture of 50 years ago. Teens exploring drugs in that era are literal boomers.
It's just normalized now. I don't think it has anything to do with tolerance of engaging in the abnormal.
Kink is sorta becoming normalized, but you point to an article about using a hookup app. Wake me up when they publish an article that covers cruising for an understall tugjob positively.
People claim full support for gender equality, etc. At the same time, they find it OK to ban female nipples (but not male nipples), also it's not OK to not wear a bra in offices, etc. Horrible.
We are coy about the parts of human anatomy involved in child creation and care, especially those that change with puberty. People are sexually interested in female breasts from an "ultimate cause" perspective because they feed babies, and grow when a woman is sexually mature. I'm not saying that they should be covered up; but I don't buy the argument that there's no difference between male and female breasts.
I don't think the OP is saying there is no difference between male and female breasts just that restrictions based on those differences are inane.
In particular these restrictions are broadly a cultural thing rather than innate and part of the taboo about being naked in some cultures is because they sexualize some body parts to the point of fetish. This isn't universally true, even historically within cultures where it is true now and is often lopsided based on power relationships. For example women often bear the brunt of more restrictive dress codes because they stem from patriarchal societies.
I'm a Slovene with fond memories going to FKK camps in Croatia. Koversada is like a small city where everyone is naked all the time except visiting the shop or restaurant. I feel that FKK culture has a lot to offer to children especially as they see all the varieties of naked bodies which probably helps with self-image in later years.
While I don't go to FKKs anymore due to my wife, we still hunt beaches where we can be naked all day.
That's also my view, although I never had an opportunity to use such a beach. When my outlook on nudity changed I was already married. My wife wouldn't go to a beach like that for example. However I did enjoy far simpler and less fussy changing on Berlin beaches.
Do you mean that you are not going to FKK beaches because your wife doesn't want to? At the same time do you mean you go to baches where you can be naked privately?
What I always loved about Yugoslavia was the freedom.
You couldn't criticize the party but everything else was free.
I was 13, at 11am I watched TV and saw a music clip where the content was 2 people fucking and smiling while doing so. They were having fun.
You could drive a light motorbike, no helm, no license.
The food was natural. You could sleep anywhere without anyone bothering you or having to be afraid that someone would steal from you.
I just can't explain the freedom by mere examples.
Likewise if you try to tell the young Croats about the freedom, they don't believe you. They're indoctrinated in school with hate for Serbs.
How can you tell a blind man the beauty of colors? You had to experience it to understand it.
> I was 13, at 11am I watched TV and saw a music clip where the content was 2 people fucking and smiling while doing so. They were having fun.
I hope we can have a civil disagreement on this, without personal resentments.
This is indeed freedom, and I don't approve of violent and repressive regimes to change people's behavior.
Yet, this is not positive from my point of view. Doing this makes me closer to animals, farther from human.
Humans have the freedom to live different from animals.
A tiger simply don't think whether the way it lives and kills prey is ethical. Humans can and do.
Animals don't have intimacy. They just do their stuff wherever they are.
Humans have the freedom to look for and build intimacy.
So, although what you described is indeed freedom, it's not the behavior I want for myself. I wouldn't promote it, because it goes against the direction I would be happy to see other humans moving. And I wouldn't like to live in places that go against it as well.
That's just my personal freedom of thinking and judging what I see, not that I'll negate it by forcing others to live my way.
First, the notion that someone somewhere in society doing porn is bad for the society itself. The desire to shave off societies' "stray hairs" is deeply immoral. It has always has been, but that does not make it right.
Second, I strongly disagree that carefree attitudes towards sex/nudity is automatically
dehumanising, animalistic or objectifying. Sexuality, the human body, etc. This stuff is deeply human. See: 100 thousand years of art history.
Last... what is this animal-human dichotomy anyway. Humans are animals. Is childbirth or breastfeeding "farther from human and closer to animal?" These are as viscerally mammalian as key parties on a Wednesday.
Hey, thanks for adding more perspective to the discussion. I think these are points to meditate on.
Clarifying, I didn't mean to express animal/human as a dichotomy. I see it more as a spectrum.
We surely have a LOT in common with animals, but it's also evident that we have the freedom to face everything we do in a different way.
Some animals will stop feeding their cubs to concentrate only on the strongest one. They will also stop feeding a cub if it's anomalous (i.e. physiological malformation).
On this matter, humans used to behave exactly as animals in ancient Greece (i.e. in Sparta). But we chose to live in a better way. We chose it is superior to use our faculties and ingenuity to be able to feed typical babies without sacrificing the atypical ones.
So, yes, for sure, we feed our babies. But we don't have to do it the same way as animals. Animals evolve slowly, pushed by nature. Humans can decide to evolve by their own volition.
That's where I draw a line between humans and other animals.
Perhaps one day we will have evolved to deserve our own kingdom. As we behave right now, I agree with you that we're still much closer to the animal kingdom than anything superior...
Your argument is fine as advocacy for contraception, abortion and sexual health in general, but I don’t see how it’s related to nudity.
Especially given that the problems with nudity often correlate with problems with remaining sexual health aspects, ie are being promoted by institutions that equate human sexuality with that of cattle, namely the Catholic Church.
How do you decide to designate something as more animalistic or human. Is is caring for children animal or human? Being socially pleasant? What makes attending a naturist summer camp animalistic?
FWIW, the majority of recent, western naturist subcultures came from rationalist origins... a sort of late enlightenment movement. They pondered why we behave as we do, and rejected rote knowledge. IE, they thought we culturally avoid nudity today just because we avoided it yesterday. It's a thoughtless, irrational habit.
Being rational, thoughtful and highly evolved beings, naturalists decided they don't have to keep up pointless habits. Humans can decide to evolve by their own volition, their own rational conclusions. This is pretty closely related to humanist thought broadly.
So, why is naturism more animal than human? More importantly (to me), how can mindless adherence to tradition, custom, religion or habit possibly represent "choosing to use our superior faculties and ingenuity" or "evolving by our own volition." it seems to me that conscious, and free choice represents those things much better.
fwiw, here is how I loosely think about the problem:
Humans are both 100% animal and 100% human.
There is no dichotomy.
A human acting "as an animal" is doing a maximally human thing.
A human acting as a "civilized" person is also maximally human.
Choosing not to play the game via "suicide" and choosing to stay in the game to see where it leads via "not suiciding" are both maximally human decisions.
The most fucked up but also a maximally human expression is to try to enforce your chosen / memetically inculcated views of "acting human" on other humans. Forcing others whom you have never met into your is/ought for "reasons".
It's fucked up because the coda one chooses to enforce shaves the weirdness of humanity off (being bullied for liking computers in the 80s slowed the rate of human computer adoption) in an attempt to socially decrease the range of acceptable expressions thus narrowing the global tree of human exploration and expression.
And I think the responder is arguing that some media censorship is consistent with the concept of freedom.
My freedom to swing my fist ends where your nose begins, the saying goes.
I don't like to turn on the TV and get porn content, and especially I don't like my children to be exposed to that content. I'm not opposed to porn content to exist, as long as it is somehow ringfenced from the access of minors. A majority of the population in the US agrees with this stance. Putting porn out in the open is like swinging a fist in their nose. It's not freedom, it's aggression.
If this argument feels unconvincing to you, just replace "porn" with "Holocaust denying propaganda", and read it again.
I do feel 'porn' as it is understood now is vastly different than what was talked about in the og comment. I've seen porn and I've seen videos of people faking sex on tv as a teenager (erotic movement and nudity, not allow under 16 in my country at the time). The original comment was probably talking about the second one, where the erotism come from the touch, eyes and behavior (and genitalia and boobs, tbh). I agree that most pornography I've seen was too violent and/or disturbing to be on tv(I'm not a consumer, never was really, but i think in my group of friends, Rick roll included porn gif/videos). Erotica however, i wouldn't bat an eye even if showed during the day.
Although lacking nuance, your point is clear and there was no need for that dubious holocaust switcheroo you did at did the end.
Keep in mind that there is a vast zone between showing a couple holding hand and random people straight out fucking. What's missing on TV and the Internet these days are tasteful and varying depiction of people expressing their love in wholesome ways. People need references as to what is normal and not shameful. Banning _every_ depiction of physical emotional engagement is certainly not the way to go.
I did not found that convincing argument. It amounted to "I find porn disgusting and animalistic, therefore it is good if it is censored". But, none of that suggests freedom in any way.
Also, there is difference between broadcasting something that leads to huge loss of freedom and life ... vs broadcasting something disgusting.
You need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.
What's right from a human's point of view may not necessarily be right from nature's point of view.
> A tiger simply don't think whether the way it lives and kills prey is ethical.
Even thinking about whether a tigers' behavior is ethical is missing the point. Tigers do what they do. Accept it. It's not "wrong".
> Animals don't have intimacy. They just do their stuff wherever they are.
Depends on the animal. Elephants tend to live in close-knit families. You should go observe a bird (such as a crow) feeding its young one. Such a lovely sight.
> it's not the behavior I want for myself. I wouldn't promote it, because it goes against the direction I would be happy to see other humans moving
You've been conditioned to think that that's a better way to live. It may not be.
Here's what we "civilized" humans have collectively done:
1. Wrecked nature and have already caused much damage.
2. Kill animals for sport/entertainment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (Tigers hunt for survival!)
3. Colonized and plundered places and were brutal to the natives of those places.
4. Wars.
5. Even if not a colonialist — some humans have killed other humans, and many others have hatched plans to make others' lives miserable. You see this across the world.
Wearing a tuxedo doesn't mean they're good for the world.
Think about it this way — the world would be a better place (combined, for the entire life on Earth) if there were no humans at all.
> Likewise if you try to tell the young Croats about the freedom, they don't believe you. They're indoctrinated in school with hate for Serbs
i will happily disagree with you. actually just right now my friends from belgrade have come to visit me. in the last period there have been growing number of interactions between serbs and croats, particularly amongst the youngest adult generation
correct me if im wrong but from personal experience i believe you no longer live here and base your perception on the diaspora. i find people in the diaspora to be way more nationalistic than people here (here = ex-yugand exceptions always exist) and perhaps thats why you are saying that. but its too simplistic and very incorrect to say that about younger generations here
also dont forget that many croats have grandparents who were in the partizans ;) we know quite a bit about yugoslavia (positives and negatives)
I know what you mean, when I go to Bulgaria I still get this strange sense of freedom. I remember when I was a kid, completely normal TV channels turning to a porn channel exactly at 00:00. I think it is not happening anymore, the last time I witnessed this was maybe 5 years ago.
The life feels natural, undesigned and unengineered. You don't feel like you have a mission, you can do whatever you want to do or not do anything or do the bere minimum if that's your thing.
If you don't want to see nudity on TV, don't look. If you think that kids shouldn't see nudity on TV, don't let them. The state is not responsible for rising you or your kids.
An argument against this lifestyle is that it makes people unambitious. I don't agree, the passionate people can follow their passion. Sedentary lifestyle is not the norm at all.
For contrast, in UK it feels like you have to do something productive and reap the opportunities but be very careful(life is work). It Turkey it feels like you have very little wiggle room and have not much say in the flow of life(you are a visitor and the hosts have a plan). In Germany it feels like you need to fulfil your duties then find your place in the world(you are at school).
> If you think that kids shouldn't see nudity on TV, don't let them. The state is not responsible for rising you or your kids.
The switch to porn at midnight happened because state was actually restricting content. Kids entertainment was also controlled a lot.
> An argument against this lifestyle is that it makes people unambitious
But it does. Communism made people more passive in non private areas of life. Post communist setup less so, but still too due to corruption and criminality that endangered active people.
This doesn't have anything to do with communism and the not showing porn when kids are typically around is about accommodating the parents. The difference is that the state doesn't try to control it(like UK where the state tries to implement ID verification for porn) but accommodate it. The society is not alarmist and absolutist, though the general consensus is that kids shouldn't be exposed to porn.
It's a subtle difference, hard to explain of you don't have the experience. It's not something in the laws, it's the attitude.
> The difference is that the state doesn't try to control it(like UK where the state tries to implement ID verification for porn) but accommodate it.
Who do you think restricted channels from showing sex/erotics/porn before midnight? It was the state. The overall attitudes are different and that reflects in the restrictions state puts on. But the idea that this is about responsibility being expected more from parents is not correct.
The state is absolutely trying to control all of this. The overall society however does not see sexuality as traumatizing or as disgusting as Americans or UK do.
> This doesn't have anything to do with communism and the not showing porn when kids are typically around is about accommodating the parents.
It is not just about that. In communism, the state or party had its own ideas about what kids should or should not seen - and restricted based on that. It is about society itself and impact on society itseft, not so much about what parents think.
Some of that attitude is residual. State controls and regulates things, but based on own ideas/perceived interests.
Nope, that's not how things in Bulgaria or even the Balkans in general work. The state definitely has ideas how things are supposed to work but on the ground often it does not work as expected.
This is a problem for things like making roads safe or corruption, but on the other hand it also means the state does not have the power to control the daily lives of the citizens, which yields the sense of freedom that we are talking about.
The problem(or feature, if you like) in the west is that the governments do function well and some attempt to design every aspect of life. In Bulgaria the government doesn't have that power and the people actively tend to push back.
This is both nice and problematic. It's problematic, for example, when you need to vaccinate people. During the pandemic, Bulgaria had access to the same vaccines as the west but ended up to be the has some of the lowest vaccination rates and the highest death rate per capita.
We are talking about TV channels switching to erotics exactly at midnight. That is state regulation. They are not allowed to show it before, are allowed to show it later and thus all switch in sync.
Balkans have a lot of corruption. But this one seems to he followed.
But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about people not making it a big deal.
Besides, I'm not sure at all of it was state regulations. Up until not too long ago there were no private TV channels or cable operators. The cable company I'm talking about was run by a few guys who got the idea of wiring cables in the city. Later they did internet services as well and included a server where you can simply connect via FTP and download DivX films for free. I don't recall even having a formal contract, you call them and they come and connect and if you don't pay the monthly fee, they come and cut the wire. I think they shut it down 2010 or something like that. Anyway that's not the point.
I don't think you understand the kind of freedom I'm talking about, it's not really about the laws but about the lack of moral panic and lack of discussions over how we should live our lives.
As a result, the sense of freedom comes from the society not caring you watch porn and the restrictions come from the parents of the kids. It's considered a trashy behaviour to let kids be exposed to that kind of stuff but no one demands the government do something about it. In the west, the discussion always revolves around government allowing or denying stuff.
I had no idea, probably no one has. As it is stated in the wikipedia article, authorities tolerate porn on TV after 23:00. On our TV cable network it was 00:00 but on others apparently it starts earlier.
As you can see, things don't work according to the laws in Bulgaria and the switch to porn at 00:00 has nothing to do with the laws.
The attitude is, this is not governments job - no matter what the laws say.
When some (in this case Communist) party controls all of the aspects of public life and you cannot criticize it ... I wouldn't call that freedom. In fact, Yugoslavia was a one party dictatorship. Some soft porn on TV (probably in the 1980s) or ability to 'sleep anywhere' doesn't really change that.
Let's say that freedom is too big of a word and mean a lot of different things, so let's adjective it.
Let's call it political freedom.
Do having almost no political freedom in the society you live in prevent you from enjoying other freedom?
Well, asking myself the question makes me believe my first thought was wrong and that you are right.
Which is weird because I also still believe GP is right too about his feeling of freedom.
I'll escape with this maybe you agree: as a kid, you are not really a part of the society yet, your parents handle this for you(taxes, responsibility in case of crime, but also voting). So the lack of political freedom, as long as it didn't came with a lack of mean, didn't impact GP as much as it would an adult. The policed society can then allows you more 'freedom' (which i cannot really define).
> They're indoctrinated in school with hate for Serbs
It seems like you are betraying a personal bias here. Do you have anything to support this comment? Isn't it more likely that their parents, whether Serb or Croat, have shared their personal experiences/perspectives of the Bosnian War [0] in the mid-nineties.
I work in California but we have a good sized team (~100) in the former Yugoslavia. The lead person in CA is Bosnian, most of the people we work with are in Serbia, but one team is in North Macedonia.
The way the head Bosnian guy explains it to me is that it’s all about money. People want to be able to eat, buy a car, take a vacation. If they paid well, everyone gets along, there’s no politics involved.
This was really surprising for me to hear. My best friend growing up was Serbian, one of my best friends in college was Croatian. It seemed all they did was talk politics. The Serbian would claim they were being bullied by the world for pushing unity, the Croatian about atrocities.
Here, in Silicon Valley, an actual refugee from the minority group, was looking above it all. I wouldn’t believe it if I didn’t see it in the daily interactions of these different ethnic groups. It’s strange but also amazing. My colleague should figure out how to apply his work hard, get paid friendly attitude to create world peace.
What is he going to say to you? That the Serb committed mass genocide etc. The guy is here and has to make a living and not create enemies above his pay grade. Saying as someone who has met many Bosnians with severe PTSD who were there at that time.
Ya, he could say that. Or he could just not talk about it. He could also not go on trips and recruit Serbians to work for him. Before I got to know him, I assumed that he was the same ethnicity/religion as the huge teams he was overseeing, but that wasn't the case.
We have talked about how hard it was for him as a refugee to come to the US when he was a child, and now he's explaining to his 9 year old the Ukrainian refugees remind him of his own experience growing up. It seems like he genuinely doesn't care for identity politics and is looking for good people to work with. Most likely he's in the minority and maybe left at a young enough age where he didn't see and experience some of the things that the Bosnians with PTSD did.
I can confirm what you are saying, it is hard to explain with examples, but we were just free unlike most other places.
One thing about naturist beaches and how that resonated, there is/was a belief that especially for the kids, you should allow them to run naked and swim naked in the sea. When they get older, once they learn to be shy, they would be clothed, but when they are kids and innocent, they should be free to go how they want ie. naked.
My family visited the area almost every summer. The campsite just a few miles away (funtana) we used to go to is now a textile glamping site. I remember that it was more camping with basic facilities, dust paths and few paved roads. Now they have landscaping, a water park and much nicer facilities.
That's the sad case for most camping sites nowadays. I don't get the appeal of this hotel theme park thing where instead of rooms you sleep in a caravan or tent. Fond memories of fantastic simple camping at the south French border.
I went to Dubrovnik a few years back and did a boat trip around the bay. We went past a (gay?) naturist island and a guy was standing on a headland completely naked like the Colussus of Rhodes.
Funny how FKK is also synonymous with brothels in Austrian and Germany.
Also, this article have me a flashback of when I was very young and in Dubrovnik, passing by a nudist beach and seeing naked people all around. Was a shock at that age.
In Slovenia the most beautiful beach in my opinion is a designated FKK spot. I just go there clothed and so do 99% of other people. My feeling is that even topless sunbathing is slowly dying out.
Almost every beach has a remote FKK spot that is out of view.
Tangentially related, but I’ve always found Washington state laws around nudity to be surprisingly (for the US) reasonable. The gist of it is that nudity is fine as long as it’s expected/not in the intent to cause distress (i.e. flashing is still illegal).
Seattle even has a clothing optional beach! It’s not officially one, but it’s fully normal take your clothes off over there. This article [0] has more about the subject.
I went to FKK camps in croatia in the 80s when it was still yugoslavia - in my memory they were mostly for German/Dutch/Swiss tourists, were way more expensive than the state campsites, had much nicer amenities (toilets and showers maintained to german standard of cleanliness) and were much less crowded.
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Bolje da budemo goli.
Nude beaches are mostly asexual. Sure, there is some fucky-fucky going on at times but in the bushes not in the open.
> There is certainly little evidence of sex orgies or swinging at Yugoslavia’s nudist resorts.
Croatia is very socially conservative, so I don't get these contrasts with America. We can't even legalise weed - I'd say largely due to religious connotations/pushback.
Hell people even get on busses topless.
No, Croatia is not "very socially conservative". It is maybe a bit more conservative than typical EU state which is still way more progressive than American notion of "conservative" let alone "very conservative".
Then the thing is that places mentioned in the thread are not conservative at all. Coastal towns are not conservative.
I come from Split and I have never ever had any troubles or whatsoever of being shirtless. You know that we only have those fines because of uncultured tourists. Because they think they can enter museum or bank in their swimsuits.
Also there have always been undesignated nudist zones everywhere. There's one 20 minutes walk from Split downtown. On the islands, wherever urbanization stops, there could be naked people on the rocks of the shoreline. They just move a bit away, like 200-300m further from the last accessible beach in the area, and sun on the rocks. Every child that has spent more than 2-3 hours in a boat in Dalmatia was bound to see naked human genitalia up front or in the distance.
Umm they are literally putting up boards that they will fine people walking shirtless on islands. Apparently they can't actually fine them because it's not based on any laws - but it's cities putting up these signs.
> Also there have always been undesignated nudist zones everywhere.
Designated or not is a technically, how many people out of general population actually go there ? This notion that it's generally acceptable - it's not. When I've wondered into to those places on Pag as a kid it was almost exclusively tourists and the locals would talk about it very judgementally.
>It is maybe a bit more conservative than typical EU state which is still way more progressive than American notion of "conservative" let alone "very conservative".
A country where we have like 50% of people vaccinated for COVID because of conspiracy theories fuelled by religious community ? Where 86% of population declared as Chatolic ? Where no doctor would perform an abortion on fetus with brain tumor because of call to consciousness (even when it was legal) and a woman had to go to Slovenia ?
Croatia is a religious and conservative country, comparing to US pointless, but pretending we're some progressive nudist friendly country is just counterfactual. We have nudist beaches, and people get naked on boats.
lol at this. generally former yugoslavia is only superficially conservative. i mean that in a good way. particularly we care about politeness manners and about our image and how we are percieved (again exceptions always exist). but trust me we also know how to have fun and enjoy life. nije prisa ;)
someone apparently also living in Croatia (maybe another city? other social circles?)
I haven't noticed (although in Europe, northern)
(I run without a shirt :-))
A female nipple
Ljepše je biti gol
I definitely helps that most attendees are not particularly attractive. But as soon as an actually attractive girl/woman is present - I do have to manage my attention to avoid ... ahem ... drawing unwanted attention. Happens very rarely, though. And I'm saying that as someone having gone to the sauna for many years.
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just to be clearer - I never go to the sauna with sexual intentions and never ever made anybody feel uncomfortable for sure. I just don't find this often proclaimed "saunas are asexual" credible. they can be very sexual and many people go there with that mindest - as far as I can tell (as a man) mostly from the gay community. and for me as a man who very well can admire a firm female body I simply have to say that indeed it helps that there are very few of that kind. most people are old and wrinkled and I just keep my eyes everywhere else.
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also this "naked is cool" but "sexuality is inappropriate" attitude is not fitting the lifestyle and mindest described in the article. it's a prude and artificial take on human life and desires.
> I [. . .] never ever made anybody feel uncomfortable for sure
Really doubt both of these things are true. It's very obvious if someone has to intentionally avoid looking around a place naturally. The people around you will notice and they will know why, and that will make them uncomfortable.
I really don't understand this impulse either. As someone who has frequently hung out with friends of my age naked, and I consider many of them very attractive, I just do not get aroused in this situation. If it's clear that it's not a sexual situation what is there to get excited about? Are you so sexually repressed that any attractive person in the nude causes such an involuntary reaction?
> Are you [and certainly not me] so sexually repressed that any attractive person in the nude causes such an involuntary reaction?
both of these things can't be true either :D
A sauna is usally small with seats arranged around an oven. If an attractive woman with ample bosom is sitting at right angles to me then it can be optically impossible not to constantly notice ... and yes, there are women who are seeking attention and optimize for it actively.
In my experience, the gay male community has a pretty good culture of noticing bodies and then moving on.
First, a huge a mount of people are sexually repressed in the west. Second, is a double standard where looking around naturally is upsetting to some in a nude setting. This causes a lot of issues with people trying to behave in ways that were never natural to them.
When I meet someone at a work or a coffee shop, I will look at them and notice what shit, pants, and shoes they are wearing. What their body type is and if they work out. It isn't a sexual thing, just part of being an observant and curious person.
This level of attention is generally regarded as impolite for some nudists. They want to be naked but they also want their bodies to be invisible to others, which causes some serious conflicts with reality.
That's the opposite of sexual repression isn't it? (Taking the term literally). If you are getting more aroused in a situation than is socially acceptable, then it seems you are insufficiently repressed.
Or maybe it can look suspicious if suddenly one reaches for one's towel?
I've never been in a nude sauna though, not common around here. Seems as if could be good, anyway, with a "safety plan" to avoid getting embarrassed
all a boy needs to bring for such a situation is fond memories of your grandma :D
There are times I can watch an orgy disinterestedly. Then there are times someone wears a slightly tight shirt and I need to go hide behind a counter.
I think this reaction is entirely normal. Humans have emotions but should be judged on their actions, not thoughts.
If someone takes issue with you averting your gaze, they have an issue with reality.
It unreasonable to expect others to simultaneously pay attention to your genitals and but also not notice them.
That said, I think there is a lot less cognitive dissonance in taking a polite look and moving on than trying to pretend people are disembodied heads floating around.
Never experienced that as a tourist at nude beaches in Croatia but then again they were never as crowded as here.
FKK still seems to be booming here, I noticed huge campings, 2000 or more spots, lots of facilities, all FKK.
Also spend many holidays as a kid on an FKK camping in Yugoslavia, wasn’t always easy, especially as a adolescent (always bring a towel), but it always felt like a normal family camping.
Also, I've yet to work out the correct edicate for the (very necessary) process of applying sunscreen to your genitals on the beach, especially in mixed company.
https://www.agefotostock.com/age/en/details-photo/crowded-be...
https://photos1.blogger.com/blogger/1318/1785/1600/IMG_6196....
shows that people often do not cover or have shade, as such I don't see any difference
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8oJzfmWO3CU
- Gunninson Beach in Sandy Hook, NJ
- Haulover Beach in Northern Miami
- Black's Beach in San Diego (anything goes there)
I'm sure there are more! America isnt totally prudish!
In France you get shampoo ads that just casually show a boob, in the day time. And topless sunbathing is common around a lot of Europe.
>In France you get shampoo ads that just casually show a boob
If you have to show a breast to sell shampoo, there's something wrong with your culture.
A quick Google query didn't find it but this comment came up that is similar
>, I remember being stuck for half an hour in a traffic jam in east Beirut with my husband and kids on the way to a mountain picnic. Right in front of us were two giant billboards (both the same) advertising jeans with a man and woman in a sexy pose, and the woman (of course) without a top. I guess by then I was not shocked but did feel it was gratuitous (to sell jeans? or to sell sex?).
NSFW WARNING FOR FOLLOWING LINK
NSFW WARNING FOR FOLLOWING LINK!
https://youlookfab.com/2010/04/09/nudity-and-sexuality-in-eu...
And the article that comment is for has comparable still image ads.
And frontal male nudity in childrens movies (Ronja Räubertochter): https://www.schnittberichte.com/www/SBs/4581/r41.jpg
Also, that advert is just "sex sells" style objectification. Not sure I'm sad too see that gone.
Was a basic enough movie that I could follow along with the French subtitles. Then it was just playing in the background and only the un-translated parts stood out. Either French doesn’t have a term for “fisting” or it gets by the censors if they don’t dub it?
Or did you mean the opposite, that there are eg more nudist beaches there
(Did you reply to "more open to nudism" or to "The west is prude")
yes, no doubt: very few goes to church, but catholic background is really strong.
I think the Italian youths are most conservative then their parents
(Or both?)
The anglosphere most certainly is.
If you need convincing, just look at the pics in the article: not a single full frontal.
Prudishness gives us mental super powers so we can do things like the Industrial Revolution.
You think we could have made those steam engines if we were looking at nipples all day?!
btw, they have the cleanest bathrooms ever (!)
I feel like there was this great period from about 1950 to the mid 70s (I wasnt born until mid 80s) where people tried new and different things. Everything from nudism to environmentalism to living in communes to drugs and sex.
And now we're all back to doing the same BS things as the next guy and trying to be 1% more efficient than the next guy. Make sure you fit in. Join an HOA because you want your property price to rise as much as possible even though you don't care about lawns and picket fences. Don't have a hole in your CV, how will you explain taking 6m off to backpack Europe in your 30s!?
And I just think fuck all this shit.
Yup. Fuck it. Totally agree.
Cannibals is legal in parts of the US, and the richest person on earth is as famous for doing interviews high as the number of companies he runs.
And Feeld makes the NewYorker as in a story about how it lets you easily organise threesomes or find a fetish partner.
Open your eyes a bit - the world has never been as encouraging of trying different things as now.
>the world has never been as encouraging of trying different things as now
In some ways yes, but in general no - at least in USA
Weed was the counterculture of 50 years ago. Teens exploring drugs in that era are literal boomers.
It's just normalized now. I don't think it has anything to do with tolerance of engaging in the abnormal.
Kink is sorta becoming normalized, but you point to an article about using a hookup app. Wake me up when they publish an article that covers cruising for an understall tugjob positively.
Maybe you just need to hang out with weirder people?
In particular these restrictions are broadly a cultural thing rather than innate and part of the taboo about being naked in some cultures is because they sexualize some body parts to the point of fetish. This isn't universally true, even historically within cultures where it is true now and is often lopsided based on power relationships. For example women often bear the brunt of more restrictive dress codes because they stem from patriarchal societies.
I'm a Slovene with fond memories going to FKK camps in Croatia. Koversada is like a small city where everyone is naked all the time except visiting the shop or restaurant. I feel that FKK culture has a lot to offer to children especially as they see all the varieties of naked bodies which probably helps with self-image in later years.
While I don't go to FKKs anymore due to my wife, we still hunt beaches where we can be naked all day.
Do you mean that you are not going to FKK beaches because your wife doesn't want to? At the same time do you mean you go to baches where you can be naked privately?
You couldn't criticize the party but everything else was free.
I was 13, at 11am I watched TV and saw a music clip where the content was 2 people fucking and smiling while doing so. They were having fun.
You could drive a light motorbike, no helm, no license.
The food was natural. You could sleep anywhere without anyone bothering you or having to be afraid that someone would steal from you.
I just can't explain the freedom by mere examples. Likewise if you try to tell the young Croats about the freedom, they don't believe you. They're indoctrinated in school with hate for Serbs.
How can you tell a blind man the beauty of colors? You had to experience it to understand it.
I hope we can have a civil disagreement on this, without personal resentments.
This is indeed freedom, and I don't approve of violent and repressive regimes to change people's behavior.
Yet, this is not positive from my point of view. Doing this makes me closer to animals, farther from human.
Humans have the freedom to live different from animals.
A tiger simply don't think whether the way it lives and kills prey is ethical. Humans can and do.
Animals don't have intimacy. They just do their stuff wherever they are.
Humans have the freedom to look for and build intimacy.
So, although what you described is indeed freedom, it's not the behavior I want for myself. I wouldn't promote it, because it goes against the direction I would be happy to see other humans moving. And I wouldn't like to live in places that go against it as well.
That's just my personal freedom of thinking and judging what I see, not that I'll negate it by forcing others to live my way.
First, the notion that someone somewhere in society doing porn is bad for the society itself. The desire to shave off societies' "stray hairs" is deeply immoral. It has always has been, but that does not make it right.
Second, I strongly disagree that carefree attitudes towards sex/nudity is automatically dehumanising, animalistic or objectifying. Sexuality, the human body, etc. This stuff is deeply human. See: 100 thousand years of art history.
Last... what is this animal-human dichotomy anyway. Humans are animals. Is childbirth or breastfeeding "farther from human and closer to animal?" These are as viscerally mammalian as key parties on a Wednesday.
Clarifying, I didn't mean to express animal/human as a dichotomy. I see it more as a spectrum.
We surely have a LOT in common with animals, but it's also evident that we have the freedom to face everything we do in a different way.
Some animals will stop feeding their cubs to concentrate only on the strongest one. They will also stop feeding a cub if it's anomalous (i.e. physiological malformation).
On this matter, humans used to behave exactly as animals in ancient Greece (i.e. in Sparta). But we chose to live in a better way. We chose it is superior to use our faculties and ingenuity to be able to feed typical babies without sacrificing the atypical ones.
So, yes, for sure, we feed our babies. But we don't have to do it the same way as animals. Animals evolve slowly, pushed by nature. Humans can decide to evolve by their own volition.
That's where I draw a line between humans and other animals.
Perhaps one day we will have evolved to deserve our own kingdom. As we behave right now, I agree with you that we're still much closer to the animal kingdom than anything superior...
Especially given that the problems with nudity often correlate with problems with remaining sexual health aspects, ie are being promoted by institutions that equate human sexuality with that of cattle, namely the Catholic Church.
FWIW, the majority of recent, western naturist subcultures came from rationalist origins... a sort of late enlightenment movement. They pondered why we behave as we do, and rejected rote knowledge. IE, they thought we culturally avoid nudity today just because we avoided it yesterday. It's a thoughtless, irrational habit.
Being rational, thoughtful and highly evolved beings, naturalists decided they don't have to keep up pointless habits. Humans can decide to evolve by their own volition, their own rational conclusions. This is pretty closely related to humanist thought broadly.
So, why is naturism more animal than human? More importantly (to me), how can mindless adherence to tradition, custom, religion or habit possibly represent "choosing to use our superior faculties and ingenuity" or "evolving by our own volition." it seems to me that conscious, and free choice represents those things much better.
That is actually quite a good question.
I haven't thought about it thoroughly to reduce into an objective way.
Will work on doing that in the future.
This makes me think that the differences I perceive today are more of an intuition or an unconscious mental process.
Thanks for engaging in the discussion! ;)
Humans are both 100% animal and 100% human.
There is no dichotomy.
A human acting "as an animal" is doing a maximally human thing.
A human acting as a "civilized" person is also maximally human.
Choosing not to play the game via "suicide" and choosing to stay in the game to see where it leads via "not suiciding" are both maximally human decisions.
The most fucked up but also a maximally human expression is to try to enforce your chosen / memetically inculcated views of "acting human" on other humans. Forcing others whom you have never met into your is/ought for "reasons".
It's fucked up because the coda one chooses to enforce shaves the weirdness of humanity off (being bullied for liking computers in the 80s slowed the rate of human computer adoption) in an attempt to socially decrease the range of acceptable expressions thus narrowing the global tree of human exploration and expression.
To be clear, I'm not enforcing anything. Just expressing, which is quite different.
I think both of us can agree that expressing points of view through words is a human thing. It's also a human thing to do that even with strangers.
That being said, I will certainly review my views in the future and hope to improve them. I expressed what is my current view on those topics.
You can obviously disagree, discard them, or anything else your judgement indicates.
My freedom to swing my fist ends where your nose begins, the saying goes.
I don't like to turn on the TV and get porn content, and especially I don't like my children to be exposed to that content. I'm not opposed to porn content to exist, as long as it is somehow ringfenced from the access of minors. A majority of the population in the US agrees with this stance. Putting porn out in the open is like swinging a fist in their nose. It's not freedom, it's aggression.
If this argument feels unconvincing to you, just replace "porn" with "Holocaust denying propaganda", and read it again.
Keep in mind that there is a vast zone between showing a couple holding hand and random people straight out fucking. What's missing on TV and the Internet these days are tasteful and varying depiction of people expressing their love in wholesome ways. People need references as to what is normal and not shameful. Banning _every_ depiction of physical emotional engagement is certainly not the way to go.
Also, there is difference between broadcasting something that leads to huge loss of freedom and life ... vs broadcasting something disgusting.
You need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture.
What's right from a human's point of view may not necessarily be right from nature's point of view.
> A tiger simply don't think whether the way it lives and kills prey is ethical.
Even thinking about whether a tigers' behavior is ethical is missing the point. Tigers do what they do. Accept it. It's not "wrong".
> Animals don't have intimacy. They just do their stuff wherever they are.
Depends on the animal. Elephants tend to live in close-knit families. You should go observe a bird (such as a crow) feeding its young one. Such a lovely sight.
> it's not the behavior I want for myself. I wouldn't promote it, because it goes against the direction I would be happy to see other humans moving
You've been conditioned to think that that's a better way to live. It may not be.
Here's what we "civilized" humans have collectively done:
1. Wrecked nature and have already caused much damage.
2. Kill animals for sport/entertainment ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (Tigers hunt for survival!)
3. Colonized and plundered places and were brutal to the natives of those places.
4. Wars.
5. Even if not a colonialist — some humans have killed other humans, and many others have hatched plans to make others' lives miserable. You see this across the world.
Wearing a tuxedo doesn't mean they're good for the world.
Think about it this way — the world would be a better place (combined, for the entire life on Earth) if there were no humans at all.
Naturists are the least of the world's problems.
Once upon a time there was a country"
(wish I could find the full transcript)
i will happily disagree with you. actually just right now my friends from belgrade have come to visit me. in the last period there have been growing number of interactions between serbs and croats, particularly amongst the youngest adult generation
correct me if im wrong but from personal experience i believe you no longer live here and base your perception on the diaspora. i find people in the diaspora to be way more nationalistic than people here (here = ex-yugand exceptions always exist) and perhaps thats why you are saying that. but its too simplistic and very incorrect to say that about younger generations here
also dont forget that many croats have grandparents who were in the partizans ;) we know quite a bit about yugoslavia (positives and negatives)
The life feels natural, undesigned and unengineered. You don't feel like you have a mission, you can do whatever you want to do or not do anything or do the bere minimum if that's your thing.
If you don't want to see nudity on TV, don't look. If you think that kids shouldn't see nudity on TV, don't let them. The state is not responsible for rising you or your kids.
An argument against this lifestyle is that it makes people unambitious. I don't agree, the passionate people can follow their passion. Sedentary lifestyle is not the norm at all.
For contrast, in UK it feels like you have to do something productive and reap the opportunities but be very careful(life is work). It Turkey it feels like you have very little wiggle room and have not much say in the flow of life(you are a visitor and the hosts have a plan). In Germany it feels like you need to fulfil your duties then find your place in the world(you are at school).
The switch to porn at midnight happened because state was actually restricting content. Kids entertainment was also controlled a lot.
> An argument against this lifestyle is that it makes people unambitious
But it does. Communism made people more passive in non private areas of life. Post communist setup less so, but still too due to corruption and criminality that endangered active people.
It's a subtle difference, hard to explain of you don't have the experience. It's not something in the laws, it's the attitude.
Who do you think restricted channels from showing sex/erotics/porn before midnight? It was the state. The overall attitudes are different and that reflects in the restrictions state puts on. But the idea that this is about responsibility being expected more from parents is not correct.
The state is absolutely trying to control all of this. The overall society however does not see sexuality as traumatizing or as disgusting as Americans or UK do.
> This doesn't have anything to do with communism and the not showing porn when kids are typically around is about accommodating the parents.
It is not just about that. In communism, the state or party had its own ideas about what kids should or should not seen - and restricted based on that. It is about society itself and impact on society itseft, not so much about what parents think.
Some of that attitude is residual. State controls and regulates things, but based on own ideas/perceived interests.
This is a problem for things like making roads safe or corruption, but on the other hand it also means the state does not have the power to control the daily lives of the citizens, which yields the sense of freedom that we are talking about.
The problem(or feature, if you like) in the west is that the governments do function well and some attempt to design every aspect of life. In Bulgaria the government doesn't have that power and the people actively tend to push back.
This is both nice and problematic. It's problematic, for example, when you need to vaccinate people. During the pandemic, Bulgaria had access to the same vaccines as the west but ended up to be the has some of the lowest vaccination rates and the highest death rate per capita.
Balkans have a lot of corruption. But this one seems to he followed.
Besides, I'm not sure at all of it was state regulations. Up until not too long ago there were no private TV channels or cable operators. The cable company I'm talking about was run by a few guys who got the idea of wiring cables in the city. Later they did internet services as well and included a server where you can simply connect via FTP and download DivX films for free. I don't recall even having a formal contract, you call them and they come and connect and if you don't pay the monthly fee, they come and cut the wire. I think they shut it down 2010 or something like that. Anyway that's not the point.
I don't think you understand the kind of freedom I'm talking about, it's not really about the laws but about the lack of moral panic and lack of discussions over how we should live our lives.
As a result, the sense of freedom comes from the society not caring you watch porn and the restrictions come from the parents of the kids. It's considered a trashy behaviour to let kids be exposed to that kind of stuff but no one demands the government do something about it. In the west, the discussion always revolves around government allowing or denying stuff.
I had no idea, probably no one has. As it is stated in the wikipedia article, authorities tolerate porn on TV after 23:00. On our TV cable network it was 00:00 but on others apparently it starts earlier.
As you can see, things don't work according to the laws in Bulgaria and the switch to porn at 00:00 has nothing to do with the laws.
The attitude is, this is not governments job - no matter what the laws say.
Let's call it political freedom.
Do having almost no political freedom in the society you live in prevent you from enjoying other freedom?
Well, asking myself the question makes me believe my first thought was wrong and that you are right.
Which is weird because I also still believe GP is right too about his feeling of freedom.
I'll escape with this maybe you agree: as a kid, you are not really a part of the society yet, your parents handle this for you(taxes, responsibility in case of crime, but also voting). So the lack of political freedom, as long as it didn't came with a lack of mean, didn't impact GP as much as it would an adult. The policed society can then allows you more 'freedom' (which i cannot really define).
Politics wasn't free nor was there economic freedom. There's a reason why this Island had temporary visitors :) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Goli_Otok
Among them, not just political dissidents, people who touched on subjects they weren't supposed to touch on be it in social sciences, economics, art.
>You could drive a light motorbike, no helm, no license.
>The food was natural. You could sleep anywhere without anyone bothering you or having to be afraid that someone would steal from you.
Seems like you're just rendering a nostalgic view of the past common just about everywhere.
It seems like you are betraying a personal bias here. Do you have anything to support this comment? Isn't it more likely that their parents, whether Serb or Croat, have shared their personal experiences/perspectives of the Bosnian War [0] in the mid-nineties.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bosnian_War
The way the head Bosnian guy explains it to me is that it’s all about money. People want to be able to eat, buy a car, take a vacation. If they paid well, everyone gets along, there’s no politics involved.
This was really surprising for me to hear. My best friend growing up was Serbian, one of my best friends in college was Croatian. It seemed all they did was talk politics. The Serbian would claim they were being bullied by the world for pushing unity, the Croatian about atrocities.
Here, in Silicon Valley, an actual refugee from the minority group, was looking above it all. I wouldn’t believe it if I didn’t see it in the daily interactions of these different ethnic groups. It’s strange but also amazing. My colleague should figure out how to apply his work hard, get paid friendly attitude to create world peace.
We have talked about how hard it was for him as a refugee to come to the US when he was a child, and now he's explaining to his 9 year old the Ukrainian refugees remind him of his own experience growing up. It seems like he genuinely doesn't care for identity politics and is looking for good people to work with. Most likely he's in the minority and maybe left at a young enough age where he didn't see and experience some of the things that the Bosnians with PTSD did.
One thing about naturist beaches and how that resonated, there is/was a belief that especially for the kids, you should allow them to run naked and swim naked in the sea. When they get older, once they learn to be shy, they would be clothed, but when they are kids and innocent, they should be free to go how they want ie. naked.
And also I don't see what does not wearing a helmet have to do with hating Serbs, but I don't get the rest of it either.
Also, this article have me a flashback of when I was very young and in Dubrovnik, passing by a nudist beach and seeing naked people all around. Was a shock at that age.
"Yugoslavia meets Silicon Valley in post-apocalyptic video game"
https://www.calvertjournal.com/articles/show/13034/yugoslavi...
Almost every beach has a remote FKK spot that is out of view.
Seattle even has a clothing optional beach! It’s not officially one, but it’s fully normal take your clothes off over there. This article [0] has more about the subject.
[0] https://www.kuow.org/stories/it-s-totally-legal-to-be-naked-...