Ask HN: Have you ever considered leaving tech because you didn’t feel fulfilled?

62 points by silent_cal ↗ HN
Hi all - I’ve been thinking about this lately. In tech we generally have the ability to find “cushy” jobs. However, sometimes it seems like other industries might be more fulfilling, even if the hours are longer and the pay is less. Have you ever left tech to pursue something like this? If so how did it go? If not why not?

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I personally have not, but I've seen many posts on here over the years of people leaving for woodworking specifically. In general, I find being able to make something physical that you can touch is very satisfying. I imagine that's part of it.
Most of these people seem to be the ones who have done their FAANG stint and vested mid-6, low-7 figures so they can just hop off and start dallying in woodwork without a major loss in income.
I'm probably off-base here because I'm told i conflate woodworking and carpentry a lot, but isn't it a fairly well-paying profession?
I mean “fairly” well paid is still a far cry for most people from FAANG salaries. For example, I have a number of educated friends who have said things like “I’d kill for $70k”.
It pays better than retail, but nowhere near as well as tech.
Pay to quality of life at work ratio is more informative than nominal pay.

Tough to beat income earned by doing something with near zero chance of morbidity/mortality and bodily harm, the option to work from home, much higher demand in a much bigger market reducing volatility of at least a certain level of income, low personal liabilities, and vast opportunities for upward movement.

In my head "Woodworking" is what you do at your basement/garage shop, building small furniture and fancy end-grain cutting boards.

"Carpentry" is "I built a garage/house/cabin".

The first one is where people gravitate, because there are no regulations on cabinet making or woodturning. If you move to carpentry, you need to know what you're doing and build to code.

I know of a guy who makes kitchens. Works three or four days a week, clears 300-500k a year.

But he’s a business - decades of experience and contacts and happy referring customers, a lot of money invested in equipment, and big upfront investment in materials for each job.

Looking at the current trend of completely unacceptably shitty work in new construction, if you do quality work on time and on budget you'll have infinite amounts of work just by word of mouth advertising.

The old adage over here goes "If you find a reliable electrician/plumber/handyman, hold on to them and take care of them. You can always find a new partner, but a reliable construction person is a rare find."

That’s probably not a new trend. All shoddy old builds will be gone by definition
This is why I picked up gardening as a hobby!
Why would you want to work longer hours with low pay?

There are a ton of different "tech" jobs, even when just staying within software development.

You can go from writing code for the ICs in industrial machinery to controlling said machinery with OPC-UA to doing different kinds of process software for industrial use. They're all mostly 9-5 jobs with mediocre pay, but looooong careers.

I myself spent a bit over half a decade developing software for smart metering, both the meters themselves and the software that reads them. No matter how old a meter was, the person who did the software was still working there and I could just walk to their office for the inside scoop on how to wrangle it.

The pace is completely different from startups and (mobile) gaming "tech" jobs.

I'm pretty sure your current employer will love it if you go to them and say "I want to work longer hours and be paid less" if the cushiness is what's bothering you specifically =)

It's important to understand that "tech" is mostly a "horizontal" part of the economy. Meaning it cuts across multiple "vertical" industries. You can do tech for retail, tech for finance, tech for media. Finding a new vertical to be part of can make a big difference. As can finding the right cohort of people to work with. But otherwise, the lack of fulfillment will likely follow you to whatever job you take.
That goes both ways: for a tech company in a given "vertical", it helps if you can find developers that are at least somewhat knowledgeable in (or interested enough to learn something about) the vertical. Not doing that can lead to a lot of friction and wasted time.
the horizontal aspect of software has samey caricatures that get boring as well. Most of it is web development. If you switch verticals but stay in the same horizontal zone of back end web development you're mostly doing the same stuff if it's web dev.

Need to switch lanes both vertically and horizontally.

I guess it's not true for everyone, but I derive more satisfaction from the value of my end products rather than the code I write. Writing sexy code to help some Fortune 100 extract more rents doesn't do it for me. Updating legacy code for a product that creates actual value for human beings makes me feel pretty good.
Considering switching towards tech because finance isn’t fulfilling. Seems like a grass greener problem frankly
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I think the hard thing about mental work is you never feel like you've finished something. There's always more work to do and new features to build. The appeal of something like woodworking is it has a finish, and you have a tangible thing at the end. I think lifting and running scratch the physical exertion itch that the desk job leaves me with.

At the end of the day, if you have a pretty easy going role that pays well enough you can always take the big pay and fill your time with hobbies and what not that do bring you joy and fulfillment.

It really depends what you're working on. If you go to a one product company you'll be stuck forever improving it. In other niches, for example embedded-ish, you can have multiple solutions churning the customer's bits in production in just a couple years.
And then component changes and interop issues force you to recall in excruciating detail that project you were “done with.”
Yea but with a bit of luck it will feel like a new project ;)
This is the killer for me. I've never found tech work fulfilling, personally, and I never expected to. But what has burned me out is the sense of being perpetually behind because there's no finish line; infinitely marching onward without ever feeling you've accomplished something. Every morning I open the same files.

My friends outside tech often talk about the satisfaction and relief they feel after completing a big project, and the relatively peaceful lull between such projects, and it just sounds so nice. Doesn't matter whether it's a big event they planned, a tour they went on, or a structure they welded. When something is done it's done. They get to move on personally and professionally.

It used to feel like a job change would provide that sense of momentum, but even that's disappearing now that every product (at least from my designer's perspective) feels more or less identical these days.

The exact reason I like cooking. It has a start and a finish with a tangible result.
Yes you can do that, but on the other hand, can hobbies really balance it out, considering the amount of time you spend working? 40 hours per week for 2-3 decades is a very long time to be feeling unfulfilled, even if you get the twilight hours and a few weeks a year to do something interesting. And by the time you retire you've lost your creative energy.
Hmm. I've had friends stating they feel like going into something agricultural.

But consider that on that idyllic countryside farm, you need to wake up at 5 to feed the cows on a fine summer day. Also on that stormy day when you have to wade through half a food of mud to the barn * . And also when the snow is up to your waist * .

Another solution is using that income from your cushy tech job to get some fulfilling hobbies?

* I have waded through half a foot of mud and waist high snow, but recreationally. That was fun, but it's a different thing when you have to do it every day because you must.

The cow farmers of Bavaria (and Austria, and probably some other places too) had this figured out centuries ago already: they simply built the cow stable back-to-back with the main farm house, so no need to go outdoors to look after the cows and other livestock anymore. But you still have to get up in the wee hours of morning of course...
Of course, now your house stinks to high heaven, but at least you don't have to walk too far.
Even so I wonder if for you the farm will come out on top when a coworker tells you "shards are the secret ingredient in the web scale sauce".

For those who haven't seen it, welcome to the lucky 10,000: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HdnDXsqiPYo

I don't speak web corporatese so I doubt I'll work in an organization like that any time soon...
> it's a different thing when you have to do it every day because you must

It's amazing how few people think of this when they look at the idyllic landscape and dream.

source: I live on a horse farm.

Yes I have noticed this too. There is a small but significant homesteading movement. Ironically, working from home in IT, or making videos about homesteading and using the views to sell products, is often the way these people make it financially possible.
Inb4 "No way I am just sooo fulfilled by improving ad targeting on a social media website."
Are you possibly projecting...? I have so many options in tech that I've never had to consider anything even close to ad targeting and/or social media work.
Not even a little. Never worked on that crap and never intend to. Just making fun of the typical HN Google/Meta/Twitter/etc sycophants.
Having left that slice of ad tech/market research: no one is fulfilled by it. Those who project the image that they are, are the most self-deceiving and self-hating.
I mostly did, and it saved it as a passion and hobby to me. If your heart lies elsewhere, go, but dont dare ignore where and how tech increasingly steers the world.
Posting here because I’m worried about personal burnout leading to an increase in OP’s sentiments. I welcome any advice from experienced folk on how to avoid taking on too much responsibility or otherwise setting myself up for burnout. So far I’ve had a very nice time as a programmer, and I find the work fulfilling and fun (based on feeling like I’m truly generating value that gets consumed to the benefit of others’ wellbeing).
Fulfilment is found by some people by improving spiritual health.

So cut out unwholesome bad things and replace them with good, love, kindness and beauty.

People find solace in God and meditation.

I don't think it's a coincidence I run into so many software engineers turn woodworker.
Could be any craft so long as you're coming up with the requirements yourself
i suppose, depends on the person and their interests. i found that woodworking is unique in that the builder benefits from building tools just like in software.

machining seems to be similar but i wonder if it's just more expensive.

You may find that you don't have to leave tech in order to find more fulfilling work. "Tech" spans so many industries that you can likely find a position at a company that's more aligned with your interests than whatever it is you're working on now.

In other words, I think you can have it both ways—fulfilling job while utilizing the technical skillset you've built up over years of professional life.

That being said, if you want to leave by all means go for it. One of the benefits of cushy jobs is that you can try something else for a while and come back if it doesn't suite you.

Only problem is whenever I see a job in a domain that interests me, the only people they seem to hire are new grads from university pipelines or established domain experts that have been at it for a decade or two.
I did, but then I realize it isn't technology that fulfills me. It's my sense of accomplishment because I build (at least a few) things and I like to learn new things. Even if those things have no day-to-day value in my work. That taught me that if I want to have a job that's fulfilling, it needs to have impact.

I had my lowest sense of fulfillment working for contracting companies where my work was as likely shelved due to whole programs being cancelled and I'm just one of many projects. No matter what I did, it did not feel like I had an impact in the world. I also felt like I had little agency to change things, after a while. Months of wasted effort, weekends in the office, etc. go up in smoke.

I considered ditching software development because it was fun, but brought me no sense of accomplishment. I looked at opening a store, going back to school to get a Masters in Tax Accounting (I used to be an accountant), or even law school. My sense of accomplishment came from actually doing side projects. It took me 10 or 15 years to connect those dots.

For the last 5 years I've been working for a cloud/product company where I do feel my work directly impacts people. And that is fulfilling. I've watched the result of my efforts unblock numerous lines of revenue. I wasn't some kind of sole hero, but part of a team. But my contribution had a real, positive impact. The difference is my work actually had an impact.

I currently program in bare metal C - a language I've known for the better part of 30 years. I live in an environment no more sophisticated than Visual Studio Code, CMake, and C. It is enjoyable. More than when I worked on cutting edge frameworks with all the 'best' tools. So it's obviously not the technology - it's the job.

I could probably find that same sense of fulfillment doing any one of a dozen things. It's just that I'm probably undiagnosed something or other and I'm pathologically obsessed about all things related to computers. So probably a good alignment between my interest and my job. What I've learned is that I think I could go dig ditches, and as long as it had an impact, I would have a sense of accomplishment.

Yep. I even went as far as getting my real estate license.

Getting a peek into another field makes you quickly appreciate how good we have it and I readjusted to try to focus on what I really love doing in this field.

It turns out, I like teaching and helping people work together more effectively so I've gotten into consulting over the last couple of years. Really enjoying it so far too. I get to work with a wide variety of people, look into how companies are operating to diagnose pain points, areas of inefficiency between teams, bottlenecks and help to solve them. I help with DMARC deployments because so many companies still haven't rolled that out properly yet. I assist dev teams with fixing application and database performance issues too. If asked I also teach official training courses on Gitlab or Scaled Agile Framework.

Essentially, I help with the areas where I have a deep amount of experience and try to make sure people at the company know how to make sure the problems don't come back long term. For somebody like me who deep dives into everything before moving onto the next problem, it's nice to be able to share with more people.

I get the most enjoyment from helping to improve the management structure for developers though. In many cases it's very unbalanced.

Engineers weren’t paid until 2000. Early in my career, I switched to marketing (1983). The problem was, it was repetitive, and ultimately boring. But it paid the bills way better 1983-2000. I switched back to engineering in 2000. It had the same EXACT difficulties as in 1983: assholes who felt contempt for “the details” and were invited to meetings you weren’t. It was actually even worse! Now the assholes were 20 years younger than me and had the same misapprehensions about people I had back then. Yet it didn’t really bother me. Houses were paid off and I could screw around with LabView, Solidworks, and LTSpice all at once and get paid for it.
TBH, I don't feel we really got paid until about 2012 or so- or at least it did not reach me (on the east coast around NYC) until then. I spent the first ten years of my career lamenting my choice, for the amount of effort, both mental and number of hours, it took to do the job, while my business-oriented peers in college were doing well but seemed to never have to work on a weekend or miss a happy hour/dinner. Until around that time I was always considered a second class citizen in just about any company I worked at.

Two things happened around 2012- the "startups" became "tech giants" and started competing with each other for talent with real money or RSUs, not just options that may pan out one day in the future. And tbh the work became easier- its hard to really understate how important the ability to just "stack overflow" a problem is, and the modern stacks developed to a point where it was really hard to make a case to roll your own libs instead of just pulling one off the shelf. As an example, I used to do C/C++, and until boost came along and started getting adoption in the mid 2000s, each time I changed jobs, I had to learn about a whole new "stl" that each company had built and all its quirks and fumble around for at least a month or two while I figured out how to do basic things like string manipulation Their Way. Web went from straight DOM manipulation and fighting with IE6, to toolkits and later frameworks that smoothed over all of these issues and let you focus on building apps, not UI.

Even without having worked for a tech giant, I am very grateful for them lifting all tech salaries, and I get to live in a very nice comfortable house that is almost paid off. I am glad I stuck it out- I was actually starting to study to become an actuary because I was so fed up with being treated like a peon around 2011 by people whose job I could easily do, but wouldn't have the slightest idea on how to do mine.

It's 2022, and we're still not getting paid. For any engineer you can find an executive in marketing or sales who is paid better.
I did, took a year off to backpack around the world. Didn’t think I’d come back to tech but I did with much renewed interest.
I totally understand the impulse, but if you can find a way to get a tech or tech-adjacent job in a fulfilling industry, you'll probably be able to have a bigger impact and sacrifice less in terms of pay and work life balance.

I spent two years working in civic tech, and I've known others who have left big tech jobs for non-profits.

Eh, tech jobs are not always cushy without long hours. If you are lucky enough to find such a job, consider keeping the job and use your free time to find your missing fulfillment.
I had a base-hit acquisition and probably could have turned around and done another VC- or self-funded startup. The burnout was too much. After a hiatus I opened a bike shop this year. I can't imagine going back to writing software for money again (I still do it on the side).

Every bike industry vet I've talked to feels about bikes the way I feel about software. Broken industry, yada yada. Anything can wear you down.

After my first burn-out, I spent a year building bikes, going to frame welding classes. Then went back to software.
Yes, specially now

The new de-facto is to have an over politicsed and heavily dishonest employer.

My work is also seen as a quick commodity to turn around, thanks to Amazon's hire-to-fire schemes

I love programming but working as a software engineer is terrible. I'm becoming a small shop owner asap

Only every morning.

I'd love to be working/owning a bakery/coffeeshop/bookstore. Then I remember my salary as a level of my effort and what it affords me and my family and how much time I can spend with me kids.

And then I also remember that anything I like to do for fun now that I'd decide to turn into a job would likely become NOT fun as soon as it's a job.

I love tech, but I am less-than-thrilled with the tech industry.

Best thing that ever happened to me, was being forced into early retirement, by reaching the doddering old age of 55.

I now write the software I want, and it has been working well for the last five years.

Exactly me. I’ve been scheming to “get out” of the tech industry for 15 years… but for me that means still doing tech without the horrible finance/techbro culture that made so many of my tech jobs unbearable.
In my experience (of observing others) - "wherever you go, there you are." Meaning, you are either in position to find meaning in what you do, or you aren't - and changing your environment isn't likely to help.

Easy example - used to work in finance. Some folks looked at the job as "shit I don't care about but do for money" - others looked at the same exact job and recognized that their work was having meaningful impact on bringing stability to the markets and helping retirees having cumulatively billions more dollars to spend in retirement than they would otherwise.

Also, if you're involved in charitable work or have a family, it's very easy to feel fulfilled because the high income from your work enables you to very meaningfully support those things.

Not to mention working with great people, having access to a ton of opportunity, etc.

On the flip side, if you don't have family/community/causes you care about, and you aren't able to "see" the meaning that's present in the work you're doing, then chances are switching jobs or industries isn't going to help.

What I've learned over the years is that X can be fun but X industry can be less fun and sometimes mindless, boring, or even soul crushing.

Early in my life I was very into fashion and so I opened a store. Fashion was fun and interesting to me. The fashion industry was less so.

Next I tried food. Making and consuming food was fun. The restaurant industry, again, was less so.

Today I'm a software engineer. I always wrote code as a hobby (started when was about 11). I love technology and software. Again however, the technology industry leaves me unfulfilled.

I have no plans to leave tech now though. My life is very different. I'm 37. I have a wife and a child. I have other hobbies that I like a lot and so my career in the tech industry is a means to an end. The end being financial support for my family and hobbies. I don't mean to say that I get to gratification from my work. I do really love working on some of the technical problems I encounter at work and I really like the people on my team. Overall it's a positive experience if I can put out of my mind the larger system that I'm in and how I feel about that.

I did but then I realized it’s better to find something else that gives me fulfillment. In this case it’s 3D printing hobby.