I'm not a researcher but anecdotally, I found that there is less sex when:
* Income inequality (very high around the world and in US)
* Struggling financially (no mood, less likely to go out on dates which can cost a lot, males with less money feel less worthy)
* Stress at work (no separation between home and work for WFH people, anxiety due to various reasons for office workers, long work hours)
* Can't afford to move out of parents' house or can't afford to live alone
As the title suggests, being able to have sex is the result of the above being in a good place. Telling people to have more sex is like telling people to ignore all their problems.
I have, and actually in one right now because Midwest winters suck. On one hand they're not wrong but they're also not right.
I'm my experience in poor countries there are the girls, guys, and guys who pretend to be girls that use prostitution to earn money. Then there's others who work 18 hour days in jobs that barely earn enough to live on, generally because the employer takes 80-90% of the money.
So the first group is having a lot of sex but as a means of work. Not as a means of enjoyment and pair bonding. The second never has time for it, not even to date and find a husband. They do nothing but work so their parents can live.
We talk about the social security collapse in the USA but that's not going to happen. The US will just print its way out of it. In poor countries there is a coming bigger collapse. Younger people aren't having kids, aren't getting married aren't even looking. They're just working to pay for their aging parents. While this has been the norm to have a large family for this kind of support these people are now delaying marriage thinking they'll have kids later. By the time later comes around it will be too late. They'll have no family to support them.
This is very different from first world countries where people delay marriage and kids. That is done to build their own financial base so because paying for parents is much less of a thing. These are devastating times ahead for many of the poorest countries.
I am still studying because "no one will marry their daughter off to me unless i have either a family business or a good degree" so i am "waiting" for one.
It is normal for 35-40 year olds to 'start' looking for a match because they've had to spend these years either earning their ass off to build some sort of "fund" or to keep their family from poverty.
physical contact is seen as "child making recipe", why would you need anything else? devil perhaps?
The society is also a problem. Dare to have a relationship unless you are married. You will be shunned from the society the same as criminals. Forget if you had sex. Then all bets are off. This one time a kid ran away with a girl, he was returned a week later but everyone knew "he is done. No good family will marry their daughter to him".
The guys are expected to care for their parents meaning not all the children get to move. If there are two or more sons, well someone has to stay behind. if you are just one, Well tough luck. Your wife is supposed to care for her "inlaws" so unless the couple cuts off their relationship with the parents, you HAVE to stay and care for them. This means for the most part, careers take a hit.
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[ 4.2 ms ] story [ 28.4 ms ] thread* Income inequality (very high around the world and in US)
* Struggling financially (no mood, less likely to go out on dates which can cost a lot, males with less money feel less worthy)
* Stress at work (no separation between home and work for WFH people, anxiety due to various reasons for office workers, long work hours)
* Can't afford to move out of parents' house or can't afford to live alone
As the title suggests, being able to have sex is the result of the above being in a good place. Telling people to have more sex is like telling people to ignore all their problems.
I'm my experience in poor countries there are the girls, guys, and guys who pretend to be girls that use prostitution to earn money. Then there's others who work 18 hour days in jobs that barely earn enough to live on, generally because the employer takes 80-90% of the money.
So the first group is having a lot of sex but as a means of work. Not as a means of enjoyment and pair bonding. The second never has time for it, not even to date and find a husband. They do nothing but work so their parents can live.
We talk about the social security collapse in the USA but that's not going to happen. The US will just print its way out of it. In poor countries there is a coming bigger collapse. Younger people aren't having kids, aren't getting married aren't even looking. They're just working to pay for their aging parents. While this has been the norm to have a large family for this kind of support these people are now delaying marriage thinking they'll have kids later. By the time later comes around it will be too late. They'll have no family to support them.
This is very different from first world countries where people delay marriage and kids. That is done to build their own financial base so because paying for parents is much less of a thing. These are devastating times ahead for many of the poorest countries.
i am 28. a guy. virgin.
I am still studying because "no one will marry their daughter off to me unless i have either a family business or a good degree" so i am "waiting" for one.
It is normal for 35-40 year olds to 'start' looking for a match because they've had to spend these years either earning their ass off to build some sort of "fund" or to keep their family from poverty.
physical contact is seen as "child making recipe", why would you need anything else? devil perhaps?
The society is also a problem. Dare to have a relationship unless you are married. You will be shunned from the society the same as criminals. Forget if you had sex. Then all bets are off. This one time a kid ran away with a girl, he was returned a week later but everyone knew "he is done. No good family will marry their daughter to him".
The guys are expected to care for their parents meaning not all the children get to move. If there are two or more sons, well someone has to stay behind. if you are just one, Well tough luck. Your wife is supposed to care for her "inlaws" so unless the couple cuts off their relationship with the parents, you HAVE to stay and care for them. This means for the most part, careers take a hit.
Can't have the mood if you spend 12-14 hours a day trying to survive.