Don’t let people steal your time. There is power in saying “no.” And it’s ok to say it.
Try this. Next time someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, respond with “How am I supposed to do that?” It flips it on them and makes them solve the problem they created.
Credit Chris Voss for this. He helped me realize no is fine, and a great way to fulfill a defensive time position. Time is money, but time is also life, so don’t let others steal it from you.
But why is someone's time more worth than someone else's? Why are people being paid an amount they cannot even live from (i.e. their time investment is net negative from an economical point of view)? Looks like this value replacement for time has some major flaws and issues ...
This! At first I felt uncomfortable saying that to people (and, more or less, all other things about which Chris wrote in his masterpiece) but oh boy it works like a charm every time.
That is exactly the point of such a question! Your counterpart wants you to spend time and energy to solve their problem, while concurrently you'll think the whole time you have control over situation. If your counterpart is any good, they'll gently push you towards the solution they want implemented. In the end you'll be under impression it's your solution and your relationship with the counterpart was excellent.
For centuries, people have advocated for systems where workers keep the fruits of their labors rather than have them appropriated by those with the ownership. They're called "communists" and "socialists".
This is such a pointless discussion. If the economic and political atrocities that occurred under capitalism were listed out it would make the book on communism look like a pamphlet.
Shitty people doing shitty things can and will happen under every economic and political system. If you let people convince you that trying to break the cycle of worker exploitation by changing our literally feudalist corporate structure in any way is a one way ticket to the gulag then the only thing that will happen is you’ll be happier with the lot in life that’s been decided for you.
Yes, history remembers well the efforts of those people, and their results.
And if you define who counts as "workers" and who the "owners" are just so, you can also add "fascist" to the list of people who advocate for a similar system (national socialists).
It's almost as if rhetoric that promises "workers" a way to take back the fruits of their labor from evil "owners" is a really great way for populist demagogues (on either side) to whip up a Revolution that installs a new groups of oligarchs as a central Party apparatus that effectively owns everything... on behalf of the Workers, of course.
"I can always make more money, I can't make more time."
This was something a mentor told me, but then described with a lot more nuance around what that means.
That money is something you can save or borrow, but time is a much harder thing to borrow or save. That when you are young time feels endless and money cramps you up. Instead of chasing money as a goal from that perspective, to chase the ownership of your time which you are going to exchange for money right now.
Not to retire and then chase your passion, but to exercise your passions when you have "young time" instead.
Sure, this advice has only been relevant to me after I got past all my debt.
After that point, you can turn money into time in interesting ways - you can hire a cook, you can live closer to work for more rent, have a babysitter for sunday morning.
But that the purpose of work is not to make money, but to spend your other time well.
Freedom is freedom given to others. Freedom is often misunderstood as personal/egoistical freedom, but that is not how it works if you want everyone to be as free as possible. For years I include that this means occupying the least amount of time of others with your own agenda, which clearly includes the usual paid work relationship, but also all sorts of other dependencies, most often artificially created ones to actually limit the freedom, like debt for good education etc. These self-proclaimed "free societies" we live in are a lot, but free? There is tons of spare room to the top, while the bottom is much closer than many think.
As software developers we are uniquely positioned to build products or services that can practically run on it's own, freeing up time to do more meaningful things in life. The hard part is coming up with the right idea and sticking to it long enough to bear fruit.
>to build products or services that can practically run on it's own
No web service/app that is in the business of making money can just "run on its own", but needs constant development and maintenance. That's why the demand for web devs is so high. If every SW project would be a "fire and forget" experience as you claim, the career wouldn't be nearly as well paid as it is right now.
Even phone apps need to be updated or Apple/Google will remove them from the store.
SW in the '90's was more or less "fire and forget", but salaries and the demand then were nowhere near as high as they were to day.
If you choose the right niche and use stable libraries there is no need to constantly chase the latest framework or software architecture. A lot of the endless development cycle is self induced work.
You're not wrong, it is almost the default to end up with a high maintenance stack and the (perceived) need to churn out new features.
I've done a few hype driven migrations myself.
But if you set out with the primary goal to reduce the amount of time required to run and maintain a software/SaaS/paas/you name it business you can make huge wins in the time department.
Maybe I'm just lucky with a niche subscription based platform that doesn't need much tuning and perhaps 10 support emails a day. It doesn't return a FAANG salary but does net me €90k with minimal operational costs.
The key is not build that app you don't really need (and indeed requires constant baby sitting to please Apple/Google) not rewrite everything to the latest fad eg Svelte + CockroachDB using edge compute on fly.io.
I.e., it's all made-up resume-driven development funded by woo-huffers with too much money that needs to be thrown somewhere.
There are enterprise B2B niches where a single small shop can service hundreds of clients, without needing uber-scale (see: you will never exceed 1mil concurrent users).
You can run everything on a single bare metal server if your dev team knows how to not waste resources (see: no ORM/toy databases, sane/strong-typed and compiled back-end language, use a mature package environment and tools, etc.).
Give a decade, and you can then cash-out when a bigger enterprise B2B shop buys you out. It's not an adderall-fueled manic-depressive roller coaster of a time; but it's honest work.
Best part: the only problem I've ever hit with scaling was people being stupid with their databases.
>For the select few, including the one percent, we are compensated differently. We are paid for the solution, not for the effort. If a solution takes a day or a year, we are compensated the same amount. This difference means that time does not equal money, since the compensation is the same but time investment is differential.
But if you do X and win Y money, there's a difference between doing 365 * X in a year and win 365 * Y money and do X in a year and win Y money, so time IS money.
I don't get what the article means by "owning". Buying and owning stock? Starting and owning your own business? Taking part in cooperatives? How does one own time and equity?
> This is a crucial difference between the 1% and the 99%: understanding that you must own your time and the output from it. That you must be able to invest it. That you must be able to define your own world through it.
Another reason why "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" or similar titles are best sellers. Because people don't fundamentally grasp the concept of ownership of assets and the leverage that gives you.
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[ 4.8 ms ] story [ 73.9 ms ] threadTry this. Next time someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do, respond with “How am I supposed to do that?” It flips it on them and makes them solve the problem they created.
Credit Chris Voss for this. He helped me realize no is fine, and a great way to fulfill a defensive time position. Time is money, but time is also life, so don’t let others steal it from you.
Shitty people doing shitty things can and will happen under every economic and political system. If you let people convince you that trying to break the cycle of worker exploitation by changing our literally feudalist corporate structure in any way is a one way ticket to the gulag then the only thing that will happen is you’ll be happier with the lot in life that’s been decided for you.
Second: list famines
And if you define who counts as "workers" and who the "owners" are just so, you can also add "fascist" to the list of people who advocate for a similar system (national socialists).
It's almost as if rhetoric that promises "workers" a way to take back the fruits of their labor from evil "owners" is a really great way for populist demagogues (on either side) to whip up a Revolution that installs a new groups of oligarchs as a central Party apparatus that effectively owns everything... on behalf of the Workers, of course.
This was something a mentor told me, but then described with a lot more nuance around what that means.
That money is something you can save or borrow, but time is a much harder thing to borrow or save. That when you are young time feels endless and money cramps you up. Instead of chasing money as a goal from that perspective, to chase the ownership of your time which you are going to exchange for money right now.
Not to retire and then chase your passion, but to exercise your passions when you have "young time" instead.
Sure, this advice has only been relevant to me after I got past all my debt.
After that point, you can turn money into time in interesting ways - you can hire a cook, you can live closer to work for more rent, have a babysitter for sunday morning.
But that the purpose of work is not to make money, but to spend your other time well.
True. But with money you can buy other people's time and free your time to do other things instead.
No web service/app that is in the business of making money can just "run on its own", but needs constant development and maintenance. That's why the demand for web devs is so high. If every SW project would be a "fire and forget" experience as you claim, the career wouldn't be nearly as well paid as it is right now.
Even phone apps need to be updated or Apple/Google will remove them from the store.
SW in the '90's was more or less "fire and forget", but salaries and the demand then were nowhere near as high as they were to day.
Even in old cobol codebases coders are still needed to keep up with the changing environment.
The big money in SW is always made in apps and services that are scalable, and that needs constanrt engineering effort.
SW apps that aren't scalable, are a race to the bottom with low margins and low pay that has been offshored or replaced by the services of SW giants.
I've done a few hype driven migrations myself. But if you set out with the primary goal to reduce the amount of time required to run and maintain a software/SaaS/paas/you name it business you can make huge wins in the time department.
Maybe I'm just lucky with a niche subscription based platform that doesn't need much tuning and perhaps 10 support emails a day. It doesn't return a FAANG salary but does net me €90k with minimal operational costs.
The key is not build that app you don't really need (and indeed requires constant baby sitting to please Apple/Google) not rewrite everything to the latest fad eg Svelte + CockroachDB using edge compute on fly.io.
There are enterprise B2B niches where a single small shop can service hundreds of clients, without needing uber-scale (see: you will never exceed 1mil concurrent users).
You can run everything on a single bare metal server if your dev team knows how to not waste resources (see: no ORM/toy databases, sane/strong-typed and compiled back-end language, use a mature package environment and tools, etc.).
Give a decade, and you can then cash-out when a bigger enterprise B2B shop buys you out. It's not an adderall-fueled manic-depressive roller coaster of a time; but it's honest work.
Best part: the only problem I've ever hit with scaling was people being stupid with their databases.
But if you do X and win Y money, there's a difference between doing 365 * X in a year and win 365 * Y money and do X in a year and win Y money, so time IS money.
Another reason why "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" or similar titles are best sellers. Because people don't fundamentally grasp the concept of ownership of assets and the leverage that gives you.