Ask HN: Which book do you keep asking people to read?

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You can often get bulk discounts on books from the publisher.

My Dad was very fond of Richard Bach's "Illusions" when it came out, So he bought several cases over the next couple years, to give out copies to people.

I've never bought cases, but I've given away "spare" copies of numerous titles I'm fond of. There's several titles I'll buy used if I see them so as to have backups for giving away or damage to shelved books. NFI how many copies of "Illuminatus! Trilogy" and "Lord of the Rings" I've given away... dozen or more in each case.

Have thought of seeding that, JLS or God’s Debris at Waffle Houses where the kids congregate before and after school.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry’s Wind, Sand and Stars would probably be too long for skater kids.

how to win friends and influence people
Came here to write this. Is a wealth of “common sense” that is anything but common nowadays
Since most people get psychology exactly wrong:

First, Life Strategies by Dr. Phil (the ONLY book by Dr. Phil that I recommend)

Particularly, Law #3: People Do What Works

quote:

"By “works for you,” I mean you get some kind of payoff for performing the seemingly undesirable acts. And as you will see, this formula holds true even if at some other, perhaps more conscious or apparent level, you recognize that the behavior in question isn’t working for you; you may even see that it creates pain. Yet based on results, you are getting some sort of payoff, or you wouldn’t do what you do or accept what you accept. A simple example is overeating. At a conscious, rational level, you know it is counterproductive, but at some other level, it is rewarding you enough to maintain the overeating. So, based on results, since people only do what works, overeating must work for you in some way."

Second: "If Life is a Game, These are the Rules" by Cherie Carter-Scott.

particularly, Rule 7:

quote:

"OTHERS ARE ONLY MIRRORS OF YOU

You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself."

Projection is a big deal. "Every Accusation is a Confession" is everywhere.

Third, works by Anne Wilson Schaef: "The Addictive Organization" and "When Society Becomes an Addict"

These describe addictive behaviors and patterns in organizations and in society, and one can see them in cults (unfortunately, we deal with such behavior these days a lot) and even in "the mob".

The point is that outside of addiction itself, the appeal of "Don't Make Me Think" and the cult's legitimization of truly vile behavior such as hate, prejudice, theft and violence is the reward or payoff that lures people, even if membership is self-defeating.

As I read about some of the traits: Crisis orientation, denial, projection, lying, perfection (demanding it from others), ethical deterioration and so on, bells started ringing ... this is what I saw going on at some jobs, and in society.

Similar thread here:

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36262466

This maybe a controversial comment, but I think Dr. Phil gets psychology exactly wrong. Anyone who exploits people’s mental health issues, relationship drama’s, or compounds stereotypes about these issues for the sake of a television show isn’t practicing any kind of ethical psychology, and if you can’t get something as basic as ethical psychological practice right - you’re exactly wrong. You can raise awareness, educate or have a discussion about mental health issues etc without exploiting people’s personal struggles.
That's a thoughtful comment. I don't recommend anything else by him, and since I read the book long ago, and outlined it, perhaps I forgot some insensitive material which didn't make it into the outline.

I wouldn't go near, nor recommend anything else he wrote or said on TV.

Dr Phil seems to defy his own insights on overeating. It clearly does not work for him. As a fat guy it tells me not to read the rest of his book.
A Wizard of Earthsea, Ursula K LeGuin. Never has gotten the game it deserves.
I love the Earthsea series and so much more that Ursula has written
"windhaven", a very underrated SF novel that most people I recommend it to have loved
The Country School of Tomorrow
A Secular Age by Charles Taylor. So much of contemporary conflicts / culture / etc. have been illuminated to me by understanding this book. It’s super long, however, so you may want to read How Not to Be Secular by James K. A. Smith first, which is a summary of the larger book.
The Art of War - Sun Tzu. One of my favourite books ever. Everyone should read it.
Disagree, I'd rather be the only one knowing about it, to destroy all my ennemies...
“Behave” by Sapolsky
The Wandering Inn, you will not be able to read anything else while reading this, if you get hooked.
I agree it's so good. Either the audiobook or run through text to speech and it's still ongoing
Nabokov ends one of the most captivating fragments of Pale Fire with a sentence "I trust the reader has enjoyed this note."

He totally got me.

It is not the book I would recommend most often, it just came to my mind.

What I would recommend the most are psychological books. 'Mind and Nature' by Gregory Bateson is one of my favorites.

Posts like this one are awesome, always happy to sieve through.

War and War by Laszlo Kraznahorkai - an obsessive old Hungarian bureaucrat finds a mysterious text, and travels to New York City to transcribe it onto the internet before he dies. Fascinating story.
"Permutation City": Greg Egan

"Godel Escher Bach" : Douglas Hofstadter

"The Library at Mount Char" by Scott Hawkins.

His first novel. Very original, not quite sci-fi, not quite fantasy. Some rough edges. Excellent.

“Rich dad, Poor dad”. It changed my understanding of money and has put me on a path to financial security I would otherwise not have enjoyed.
When I was at uni I was buying and reading everything by Robert Kiyosaki, I got his 'rat race' game with extension, and spent time contemplating how to implement what he writes about. Sadly, I realized his advice is tuned towards US and not applicable to poor students like I was. I wonder if that book really influenced your decisions so now you can truly say your wealth would not exist if you had not bought this book?
Yes I can truly say that reading the book directly lead to the wealth I have today. I just wish I had read the book 10 years earlier.

However you are right you need some (modest) level of income to apply the ideas in the book. It is not for “poor students” :)

It was “Thinking Fast & Slow” until much of it was discredited. I do believe awareness of Behavioral Economics can be good, but be wary of its cynical anti humanism.

48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene.

The 4 Gospels of the Bible, which you can get free on the App Store.

Nonviolent Communication.

Hard stop.

How often can a $10 purchase have such a drastic effect on your mentality and life for the better?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/189200528X

(Fear not, I do not personally profit off this link in any way, <3, only want the best for you bb)

“Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It” by Chris Voss
1984 by George Orwell. Helps underestand the world we are living in.