You know, it's totally logical. Reputation matters for a lot in dating, and on your typical social sites you can put up a front of whatever you want. Facebook can check your ID and perhaps verify your legal name and birthdate, but that's all they really care about; the rest can be a pack of lies.
On LinkedIn, people are often positive to a fault, and focus on business-oriented content, but it seems that they typically feel quite compelled to be open and honest, at least about their CV, because their past, current and future employers are all watching, and it's a cardinal sin to falsify your CV.
Now I've already heard about men making LI advances, and seen women who post about how repulsive this practice is; they're disgusted that men see them as something other than a girlboss. You might as well be sexually harassing them in their workplace when you DM someone on LI to ask them out for a drink, I suppose. So it would require circumspection and some careful negotiation before going in for the romance angle. But I don't see anything inherently wrong with it.
It has taken me a long time to learn how much context matters, in our discourse and conversations, and so some topics are appropriate for FB or Twitter, and a mutually exclusive set of topics for LI discussion. I won't be the guy to initiate romantic connections anywhere, but come on, let's be honest: how many relationships have begun as a fling at a professional trade convention, networking happy hour, or employee retreat?
But because people that are single know this, they can in social media or linkedin create a "persona" that is only positive, something that is not really who they are, in order to be more attractive. If you are single and not the best person in the world, I guess you know it.. and you're going to use social media and online content to paint yourself in a positive manner. I am even afraid to think that when people talk of themselves online or their life.. a tad bit of it is just fake.
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On LinkedIn, people are often positive to a fault, and focus on business-oriented content, but it seems that they typically feel quite compelled to be open and honest, at least about their CV, because their past, current and future employers are all watching, and it's a cardinal sin to falsify your CV.
Now I've already heard about men making LI advances, and seen women who post about how repulsive this practice is; they're disgusted that men see them as something other than a girlboss. You might as well be sexually harassing them in their workplace when you DM someone on LI to ask them out for a drink, I suppose. So it would require circumspection and some careful negotiation before going in for the romance angle. But I don't see anything inherently wrong with it.
It has taken me a long time to learn how much context matters, in our discourse and conversations, and so some topics are appropriate for FB or Twitter, and a mutually exclusive set of topics for LI discussion. I won't be the guy to initiate romantic connections anywhere, but come on, let's be honest: how many relationships have begun as a fling at a professional trade convention, networking happy hour, or employee retreat?