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> So, “what do you do?” Just don’t. Train yourself to never ask this question. Probe deeper. “What is your day like?” is already ten times better.

Context is key here.

Hey! Author here. Would you mind giving an example?
Hey there! Loved your piece, really engaging stuff.

On context — When using openers at events, I reckon “What do you do?” is spot on for work or hobby related meetups. It's a quick way to suss out how deep to dive into a topic, depending on what the other person's into, be it their job or hobbies.

But, “What's your day like?” although a good chat opener, can drag on a bit, right? At a short meetup, I'd rather get to the point, especially if I end up stuck chatting longer than I'd like with someone who's a bit unpleasant.

My go to question in my work context for getting to know someone quite quickly is:

“What would you be doing today if you weren’t here with me?”

And I actually get some really interesting answers! Some people would be playing golf, or gardening, others would be spending the day with children, or travelling… and I like asking that question because it isn’t centred around work, some people will say “working” which will lead me to ask “oh yeah..what do you do for work?” But I only ask that if they bring work up.

I like that, will take a note for future conversations!