> For example, a bundle may provide 200 minutes of calling during a 7-day period for a discounted price. To avoid losing unused minutes, we learned that as people near the end of their bundle’s time period, some use available minutes to call back unusual numbers in their incoming call-log, which they had not answered.
This probably explains the reason for the accidental social ties.
I lived in a country where mobile phone calls were expensive relative to wages. Much of the time you'd receive a call that only rang once. The caller would hang up after only a single ring. This signalled they wanted to talk to you but didn't have enough "talk time" left. If the caller was a contractor or someone on your payroll, they would almost always employ this tactic to keep their costs down.
When I was a student (around 1998/99) I had to buy a mobile phone, but could not afford a subscription.
Fortunately we only pay for outgoing calls in my country, otherwise it would have been too expensive.
I bought a prepaid sim card, that had an expensive cost per minute (almost $1). I would call my parents landline once, as a signal to call me back.
It's one of the main reasons why SMS was the preferred communication methods between students, because calls were too expensive. This habit continued when we grew up, and now almost nobody calls each other. I guess the phone companies didn't think of that scenario...
I made a collect call (~several states away) home when I was a kid and didn't have a cell phone. I forgot all about that. I feel old now. I remember my dad had to accept and kept it short to reduce costs even though I'd been away for weeks.
I don't get it. If the collect call from A to B is accepted, B pays the cost of the call. In your scenario B instead calls A directly... and B still pays the cost. Where's the savings here?
(And there's a pretty clear downside to this. What if it's an actual emergency from a different phone than the standard. E.g. the only time I can remember answering a collect call, it was my sister calling from a foreign hospital after a serious accident. Trying to call back at a different number wouldn't have been great. I guess you could have a protocol involving multiple collect calls, and hope that there's no record that the first one was rejected.)
Back in the day ~23 years ago. A telco that had just launched started providing voice mail service. Normal outgoing call rates were about .5 usd per minute. The newly launched voice mail service was free. So university students found a new trick to call their friends, flash your friend (single ring signal to say that they don’t pick up their phone), hang up and call again, let it ring till it goes to voicemail, leave a long message, hang up and wait for the reply. Obviously it’s not full duplex and latency was high but what the e heck it’s free. The telco killed it within 2 days… and then we started having fun with all those smsc Center numbers from all over the world…
in some places this works even when the budget literally zero. that is without any money i can call someone, and let it ring until i get the message that i don't have enough money. but the receiver gets the ring and can call back. it makes sense, because it will encourage someone to spend money to make a call.
I forgot about it. Yeah. I had my first cell phone around 2000 and everyone was doing that. In my country outgoing calls were free, charges to the caller were only applied after receiver accepted (answered) the call.
I remember some of my friends being "famous" for doing that all the time for every single call, operating the mobile at like 5$/year. The whole thing had it own jargon.
Random connection died with the uptake of social media. I remember in the early 2000s, chat programs like ICQ, AIM, and MSN Messenger permitted random connections, and it was fairly common for strangers to make chat requests from a genuine motivation of curiosity. For me, those online connections led to real connections around the world. Nowadays perhaps this niche is filled by online gaming
This was indeed the case, but I recall that even in late 00s there was already a spam problem with this mechanism.
OTOH over the years (especially during covid lockdowns) I got a few messages from strangers on FB Messenger and Snapchat, and usually replied to them, and it was fun. However, it was always caused by some FB post/comment or Snapchat story that I posted before. Still, I guess if you have enough bored people, they will find a way to socialize no matter the medium.
Go on Facebook, enter a local group and interact with posts and become active in the community. After a while either people will contact you or people will be nice towards you contacting them.
The internet is too vast and the people are too interchangable, i have beed banned for stupid reasons in a few comunities.
I think a lot of people knows how easy is to be banned from reddit from certain subreddits for example for...no reason?
I personally think that permanent bans should not be a thing if not for really specific, grave and repeatet reasons. timed bans (even really long ones) i think are way more effective for incentivize anyone to change behaviour (creating a new account after begin banned is the preferred solution to a perma ban)
I don’t ever recall being banned from anything anywhere. Although I’ve heard how some subs ban you if you’re part of some other specific sub, and that’s weird.
That being said, I don’t get the logic of wanting to be part of a community that actively doesn’t want you. If I’d get banned from anywhere, I’d just move on. But I am still 100% supportive of banning as some people have genuinely ruined previously fun communities.
>I don’t ever recall being banned from anything anywhere.
Depends on how many communities you contribute to and how much I guess
That being said, I don’t get the logic of wanting to be part of a community that actively doesn’t want you.
Bans are not a vote from the comunity, is often an individual or a bot that does the ban
>If I’d get banned from anywhere, I’d just move on. But I am still 100% supportive of banning
Ban=new account
Suspension=wait it out and effectively get a punishment
It seems to be basically designed to make netiquette hard (more charitably : they designed it by assuming that people would give up on netiquette, which does seem to happen as a community gets larger).
It's one of the reasons I'm boycotting it now, but also being wary of too similar looking alternatives like Lemmy.
Just like family and friendship groups, Facebook groups are silos like local areas, hobbies, political leanings etc. ICQ requests really were surprising connections
Yes, I’m especially wary of unknown callers if they share the first 6 digits of my phone number. I don’t think I have ever received a legitimate phone call from one.
The whole one digit away thing could easily be a tactic a scammer uses.
Seems like a bad strategy if people are conditioned to distrust it.
In rural areas of the US, ALL of the phone numbers (at least until somewhat recently ) would share the same first 6 digits. Even now there are very few possible exchange prefixes in my area, though a lot of people's mobile phones are tied to another exchange prefix (phones not purchased locally/owner moved to the area and kept their old number)
I get the occasional call or message from numbers with the same area code and exchange as my number, and they're universally spam. If I saw one that was one number off mine I wouldn't think "oh, somebody's having fun, I'll answer / text back", I'd think "huh they're bothering to fake more digits now."
At that point, any reply back from the original sender just proves them to be legitimate (ie. able to receive messages on the originator phone number, so not spoofing it).
> However, women informed us unequivocally that they (women) do not create these types of connections, largely because men often control women’s use of phones (Summers et al. 2020).
This might explain why scambots routinely try this approach on messaging apps (Telegram/Whatsapp/you name it). As in, send an absolutely out-of-the blue message like a table reservation, wait for the predictable you-got-the-wrong-number reply and use that as an inroad to strike a conversation.
To me it always seemed like such a dumb attempt to lure people in, but perhaps other cultures might honestly read this as a genuine social relation.
I started to get a lot of simple ”Hello!” and that’s it, from unknown numbers on WhatsApp. I block without replying, but I can see how a lot of people would reply returning the greeting and asking who they are.
> As in, send an absolutely out-of-the blue message like a table reservation, wait for the predictable you-got-the-wrong-number reply and use that as an inroad to strike a conversation.
I thought that was “active number farming”. If so, a human replying is the end goal.
If you go to r/scams or r/scambait you can see their full script. It's sometimes funny, but apparently a lot of these scammers are being held literally captive in a foreign country, and apparently some of them have had their kidney taken. They are held until they manage to recover their "ransom" amount through these scams.
My current goto response (which anecdotally seems to work) is to empathize with them and call out their situation for what it is. At the very least if their supervisors find I'm trying to support (radicalize) them they'll take my number off the list. Something like "I know you're a scammer and I hope you're safe, I hear ya'll are often enslaved"
*this is a pet peeve. it could easily be a typo, but there is a large portion of people that believe the proper contraction is ya'll for some strange reason.
Connecting through a wrong number is relatively straightforward, but involves multiple steps. First, an individual dials a number incorrectly. This may result from writing a number down incorrectly to begin with, or simply mis-keying a number in the phone, each of which can stem from low levels of literacy, as noted by our respondents. Furthermore, the likelihood of these errors may be increased by the common practice of using a friend’s phone when one’s battery is dead. Second, the receiving party answers the phone in a specific language, signaling to the caller something about the receiver’s identity. Third, the error is quickly identified. Fourth, the parties either end the call swiftly or they do not. In some instances, individuals may chat for a while, especially (but not exclusively) if the receiver answers in Maa. Maasai social institutions can help members, who may be far from each other geographically, find common ground and mark their social position relative to each other.
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During our interviews, participants regularly received calls and nearly always answered the call, generally stepping away from the group until the call was over. This happened dozens of times over many meetings. And on a few occasions, the individual returned to the group and announced that the call was a wrong number.
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During one meeting, a respondent received a wrong number call from another Maasai he had never met, and over a short conversation learned that their fathers were brothers. It was an astonishingly timely example of what we had been discussing. (That cousins would not have known about each other is not necessarily unusual in a society where polygynous families can be very large, and extended families exponentially so.)
This is great. The "Results - qualitative results" section is particularly worth reading
Something like this happened to a roommate of mine back in the day. A female ended up accidentally calling him, and he took it as an opportunity to flirt with her. They ended up dating for several months.
One of the most surreal moments of my life was walking in the bush in Tanzania near a village, two maasais passed by on a motorbike, stopped, took out a mobile phone from the folds of their red garment, took a picture of me without saying a word, and left.
At the time, smartphones were not common and I was somewhat surprised that all maasais had cellphones (non-smartphones, usually). But of course I now understand that they're essential for a society that doesn't have any other form of connection (no landlines, so fast adoption of mobile, and also poor roads and no postal service).
And of course, it must have been much more surreal for them to see a random white young man walking alone in the middle of nowhere near their village.
Everyone needs a phone for M-PESA (electronic money transfers are huge in E. Africa). In Kenya, I met people with multiple phones-- a phone for normal calling/texting on a cheaper provider, and one with Safaricom just for M-PESA (Safaricom exclusive there [at least, at the time]).
My son and I never saw other muzungu, outside of tourist areas, while traveling overland by matatu/dala dala/minibus and probox across E. Africa / the horn (other muzungu seemed to all be traveling via organized tours-- or, at least, never by public transit like we were). Lots of villagers wanted photos with us when we stopped. It is an odd feeling to be the center of attention.
Most of our interaction with Maasai was just across the border from Tanzania inside Kenya in villages surrounding the Maasai Mara. Everyone we met was super nice. Although that was our experience pretty much everywhere in Africa except some large cities (which we tried to avoid anyway).
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I lived in a country where mobile phone calls were expensive relative to wages. Much of the time you'd receive a call that only rang once. The caller would hang up after only a single ring. This signalled they wanted to talk to you but didn't have enough "talk time" left. If the caller was a contractor or someone on your payroll, they would almost always employ this tactic to keep their costs down.
Fortunately we only pay for outgoing calls in my country, otherwise it would have been too expensive.
I bought a prepaid sim card, that had an expensive cost per minute (almost $1). I would call my parents landline once, as a signal to call me back.
It's one of the main reasons why SMS was the preferred communication methods between students, because calls were too expensive. This habit continued when we grew up, and now almost nobody calls each other. I guess the phone companies didn't think of that scenario...
(And there's a pretty clear downside to this. What if it's an actual emergency from a different phone than the standard. E.g. the only time I can remember answering a collect call, it was my sister calling from a foreign hospital after a serious accident. Trying to call back at a different number wouldn't have been great. I guess you could have a protocol involving multiple collect calls, and hope that there's no record that the first one was rejected.)
The B-A call back rate might be $0.20/min because it's just a normal call, not subject to the above fees.
There's the savings.
I remember some of my friends being "famous" for doing that all the time for every single call, operating the mobile at like 5$/year. The whole thing had it own jargon.
OTOH over the years (especially during covid lockdowns) I got a few messages from strangers on FB Messenger and Snapchat, and usually replied to them, and it was fun. However, it was always caused by some FB post/comment or Snapchat story that I posted before. Still, I guess if you have enough bored people, they will find a way to socialize no matter the medium.
Go on Facebook, enter a local group and interact with posts and become active in the community. After a while either people will contact you or people will be nice towards you contacting them.
The internet is too vast and the people are too interchangable, i have beed banned for stupid reasons in a few comunities.
I think a lot of people knows how easy is to be banned from reddit from certain subreddits for example for...no reason?
I personally think that permanent bans should not be a thing if not for really specific, grave and repeatet reasons. timed bans (even really long ones) i think are way more effective for incentivize anyone to change behaviour (creating a new account after begin banned is the preferred solution to a perma ban)
We lost a lot of humanity in the process.
That being said, I don’t get the logic of wanting to be part of a community that actively doesn’t want you. If I’d get banned from anywhere, I’d just move on. But I am still 100% supportive of banning as some people have genuinely ruined previously fun communities.
Depends on how many communities you contribute to and how much I guess
That being said, I don’t get the logic of wanting to be part of a community that actively doesn’t want you. Bans are not a vote from the comunity, is often an individual or a bot that does the ban
>If I’d get banned from anywhere, I’d just move on. But I am still 100% supportive of banning
Ban=new account
Suspension=wait it out and effectively get a punishment
It seems to be basically designed to make netiquette hard (more charitably : they designed it by assuming that people would give up on netiquette, which does seem to happen as a community gets larger).
It's one of the reasons I'm boycotting it now, but also being wary of too similar looking alternatives like Lemmy.
I gave it a try, texted $(my_number + 1) and said "hi, you're my phone number neighbor, our numbers are very similar. What's up?"
Their reply: "who are you and how did you get my number?"
Sadly she turned me down when I asked her out.
In Python, one would merely do:
Just plain and simple, really.The whole one digit away thing could easily be a tactic a scammer uses.
In rural areas of the US, ALL of the phone numbers (at least until somewhat recently ) would share the same first 6 digits. Even now there are very few possible exchange prefixes in my area, though a lot of people's mobile phones are tied to another exchange prefix (phones not purchased locally/owner moved to the area and kept their old number)
Most people live where they grew up. Those people aren't conditioned to distrust it. They're also probably underrepresented on HN.
They said "hi, you're my phone number neighbor, our numbers are very similar. What's up?"
My reply: "who are you and how did you get my number?"
> Working in 10 rural communities in Tanzania, we conducted 16 group interviews with men about ...
> Nine separate interviews with groups of women revealed that women do not create WNCs
Wow.
1. Women tend to have stronger/closer "RNCs," or actual face-to-face communities.
2. Women have a good reason to be more wary of connecting with strangers under unexpected circumstances than men do.
> However, women informed us unequivocally that they (women) do not create these types of connections, largely because men often control women’s use of phones (Summers et al. 2020).
To me it always seemed like such a dumb attempt to lure people in, but perhaps other cultures might honestly read this as a genuine social relation.
I thought that was “active number farming”. If so, a human replying is the end goal.
Here's an NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2023/12/17/world/asia/my...
what is this word that is being contracted here?
*this is a pet peeve. it could easily be a typo, but there is a large portion of people that believe the proper contraction is ya'll for some strange reason.
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During our interviews, participants regularly received calls and nearly always answered the call, generally stepping away from the group until the call was over. This happened dozens of times over many meetings. And on a few occasions, the individual returned to the group and announced that the call was a wrong number.
...
During one meeting, a respondent received a wrong number call from another Maasai he had never met, and over a short conversation learned that their fathers were brothers. It was an astonishingly timely example of what we had been discussing. (That cousins would not have known about each other is not necessarily unusual in a society where polygynous families can be very large, and extended families exponentially so.)
This is great. The "Results - qualitative results" section is particularly worth reading
At the time, smartphones were not common and I was somewhat surprised that all maasais had cellphones (non-smartphones, usually). But of course I now understand that they're essential for a society that doesn't have any other form of connection (no landlines, so fast adoption of mobile, and also poor roads and no postal service).
And of course, it must have been much more surreal for them to see a random white young man walking alone in the middle of nowhere near their village.
My son and I never saw other muzungu, outside of tourist areas, while traveling overland by matatu/dala dala/minibus and probox across E. Africa / the horn (other muzungu seemed to all be traveling via organized tours-- or, at least, never by public transit like we were). Lots of villagers wanted photos with us when we stopped. It is an odd feeling to be the center of attention.
Most of our interaction with Maasai was just across the border from Tanzania inside Kenya in villages surrounding the Maasai Mara. Everyone we met was super nice. Although that was our experience pretty much everywhere in Africa except some large cities (which we tried to avoid anyway).