Ask HN: Feeling quite disheartened about job search, any advice?

82 points by dispirited ↗ HN
Yeah, so I'm really feeling the negative side of the remote job market right now...can't help but feel pretty beat down. My savings are running out, and though I've tried lowering my expectations (like down to what I was earning when I first started as an engineer), I'm still getting no bites. TopTal is a race to, and scuffle at, the bottom, and I've probably spent more than a month on take-home assignments only to get demoralizing replies like "We liked your solution, but actually we decided not to offer this role". I have 8 YoE (mostly web apps) and am kind of facing a crisis of if I need to uproot my life and move. I don't have high living expenses, so I'm not at all expecting a big tech salary, but even still with low expectations I'm not getting many replies. My personal network hasn't been able to help either. I'm in the EU FWIW.

Any words of encouragement or advice or comfort? Feeling a bit down today.

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Why do you want to work in tech so bad? Just get a different type of job and code on the side.
Why do you want to be a <insert job you're passionate about>, just do it as a hobby spend ~8 hours a day doing something you hate.
Hell, what if you’re not even passionate about tech, but you trained for it and became a pro? Like imagine telling an out of work electrician that they should exit the industry and just do it as a hobby.
If your an out of work anything, why not consider other careers? Work is work and if nobody's paying for it, is it really work?
Probably because of spending 4+ years of school training for it, tens of thousands or even more on said schooling, and a decade or more of your life after honing those skills on the job? It’s not an easy thing for all of us to just throw away.
Boo hoo. Sorry you got scammed. But the sooner you wake up and join the rest of reality the better.
Quite a scam if it results in a decade plus long career lol. But ok, what job do you think an out of work developer should switch to?
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no actually, it's because with a family to support, i can't afford to start over training for a new job and living on a junior level salary.
I think that jives with the theme of sunk costs. I guess it's not socially acceptable anymore to sell the kids to science.
not quite. sunk cost implies that the cost, despite not creating any returns, is to high to throw it away.

sure, if i have no job, and i am broke, then almost anything else will do. however, switching into a new line of work is only feasible if it does not require years before i can earn enough to feed my family. as long as there is a chance at finding a job with my current skills, that pays enough, taking on such a risk doesn't make sense, unless i can actually afford doing so. in any other case my energy is better spent looking for jobs doing what i already know, where i can earn enough.

I guess the unknown is how much the market for tech jobs has dried up - will you always be able to find one? Whenever I see families in line at a food bank, I always wonder what happened that led them to that situation. I will say that employment in tech has felt like an ever-accelerating treadmill of skills that seem more akin to fashion than real technical progress; I don't think I can keep on that treadmill forever.
the unknown is how much the market for tech jobs has dried up

yes, that is the real challenge. the best thing to do would probably be to learn something new, while looking for jobs for your current experience. but balancing that can be tricky, especially if learning something new involves some kind of commitment to a training institution.

It sounds bad, but it is actually very pampered to belive one has a right to work with something that one is passionate about.
> it is actually very pampered to belive one has a right to work with something that one is passionate about.

Everybody has the right to seek work that they are passionate about and they should do so even if it's tough. What would the work look like if nobody would be passionate about it? Maybe you have spent too much time in bad positions?

It's not about the type of work you are doing. You can be passionate about work, in general. You know? Value punctuality, discipline, putting in a hard days work, and knowing that you're contributing to something greater is enough for most people.
> It's not about the type of work you are doing

Did I say that it is?

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So dramatic. You don't have to hate it. Just do something you can put up with. And it's rewarding contributing to society in a way that other people value. This is how 99% of people view work.
Für mich, Softwareentwicklung ist die eine Arbeitsstelle, wo meine c. B1 Deutsch ist (normalerweise) kein Problem.

The original poster was "in the EU", just like I am. It's entirely plausible that for them, like for me, language is a barrier to other jobs besides tech.

I have 25 YoE and talking to walls too. My only suggestion is to ask everyone to review your resume. If that doesn't work, start lying. The last time I was looking for work, I applied to over 600 positions. I've been off work 2 weeks and I'm nearing 200.

Came across this the other day, good resources hidden in links: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1IUUwdEw0RjTftvJv3LTA-7XI... (such as this: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1a_l8V-R7i5UOJiCV_QUqK167...)

I'm curious what subset of tech you're applying for, and what your region and salary expectation are. Speaking as someone with 20+ YOE experience myself.
I'm past IC (which I did for 15 years) and onto director/head/vp of eng, though I can be hands-on. In Canada, applying for full remote gigs. I've made a point this time not to come out with a salary expectation and instead ask them to make an offer. I'm not even getting through for Engineering Manager positions which are significantly lower on the experience scale.
Right, that definitely makes it much harder.
Don't lie, that just degrades signalling for everyone else.
When you're running out of savings, everyone else can get f*cked.
Signaling is already shit with mighty high requirements which are BS like 'need 5 years of experience in the field' for a junior position.

Everyone got bills to pay, can't blame anyone for lying. If you put ridiculously high expectations, this is what you get. Go full ham on little white lies. Exaggerate like they exaggerate about how fun the environment is to work in. If it were truly a superb place, the position was already filled to begin with.

From there, look for something else. The best thing to do (and I hate it) is start searching while being employed. Doesn't matter which job. Just do whatever and state you're overqualified (but try not to trash talk your current position). That way, you get some of your self-esteem back, you'll have less stress.

> That way, you get some of your self-esteem back, you'll have less stress.

Seriously this is something you have to start figuring out. Nobody can get refused hundreds of times and not get into self-doubt. Once out of a few referrals, I actually take the time to write back to whoever refused, even if it's a dead mailbox, just so I can tell to myself hey buddy, look at how I can do this job. I take their offer line by line and tell them why I am the best to do it. Come to think of it, I should do that for cover letters.

The reason the requirements are so high is because everyone is lying. The solution isn't to lie more, it's to stop lying altogether and punish defectors. For example, putting people who say, "go full ham on little white lies," on a do-not-hire list.
I wrote white lies, then I wrote about exaggerating, and I said I cannot blame anyone for lying. You're on about lying. There is a difference. White lies are commonly made every day, while flat out lying is more rare. I'm not a proponent of big lies because they're easily found out, and possibly against the law. But little white lies? People get away with that all the time.

If you want to go against the flow and change the world, sure, be honest all the time. Unfortunately, my experience is that on short-term (with regards to the issue at hand) you're better off with white lies. Yes, because 'everyone does it'. Do I like that? No, I don't, but it is what it is.

I don't think "everyone's doing it" or "it's costly to go against the flow" makes something right, just painful. We can acknowledge something is wrong without deciding it's worth the pain to fight.
Lots and lots and lots of people are already lying. Hard to compete with that.

[Edit]

A quant analyst working at some firm was told to steal Bernie Madoff's lunch. When he realized Bernie was 100% accurate on his predictions and it was obviously bullshit, he told his bosses, and filed four appeals with the SEC, but no one would listen:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No_One_Would_Listen

I had a 21 year old neighbor who (as a research project) tailored an outlandishly fake resume for a job offer with many fake years of experience, many fake letters of recommendation and fake phone numbers from friends who would praise him into the sky. While he would have fitted perfectly (they said) he didn't get the job because the other applicant had more experience and was younger. He was baffled someone lied even more.
When you don't have connections, lying is the best advice to get the good jobs. I just lie about anything I know I can learn on the job. No experience with Vue but know React? No problem, I'm a Vue expert. No experience with with C# but know Java? No problem, I know C# by heart.

Once I get pass HR and get to talk to an actual engineer I can reevaluate my lies and drive the interview into the areas I'm actually experienced with.

Also, interviewing is a game. Even if I'm not looking for a new job I just do it to practice and for fun. It feels pretty good to reject an offer and know your worth.

i didn't exactly lie when i claimed that the few hacks i did in php some years ago meant that i could work on a php project. i got hired, and found that most on my team were junior devs whose code i ended up improving multiple times, despite me never having worked with laravel before (which turned out to be very nice to work with).

my next side project will be something using react, so i can add that to my CV.

then i can say i have more than a decade of experience in web development, and i am familiar with react.

of course, if they specifically want someone who has 3 years of react experience, then i am out. best i can claim is that i have worked on similar projects before and try to convince them that that experience is transferable.

When I am in situations like this, I try to focus on the process, not the outcome.

Find joy in applying for new jobs, learning about system design and algorithms, or doing practice interviews.

If you follow the process, you will find that job.

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On a side note, I would encourage you to not lower your pay or communicate you will accept lower pay, because its a signal to employers that you're desperate, no one wants you, and they too should be cautious to hire you. As one of my old favorite managers once told me, "when I gave you that offer, I wanted you to walk in on your first day smiling"

>As one of my old favorite managers once told me, "when I gave you that offer, I wanted you to walk in on your first day smiling"

Is there more context to this? Did the manager want you to walk in smiling even though a low ball offer was accepted, or want you to walk in smiling because you felt you got a good offer you are happy with?

This was my second job. I went from making $55,000 per year to $70,000.

I think he wanted me to feel good with the offer that they gave me. I really enjoyed working with him along with my raise by leaving my previous job.

Thank you for your words, I'm definitely trying to reframe this way and rekindle some interest in algorithms/design.

And yeah, I haven't obviously made that signal, but I have definitely applied for "lesser" companies that I wouldn't have otherwise.

> On a side note, I would encourage you to not lower your pay or communicate you will accept lower pay, because its a signal to employers that you're desperate, no one wants you, and they too should be cautious to hire you. As one of my old favorite managers once told me, "when I gave you that offer, I wanted you to walk in on your first day smiling"

While this is often true: (1) some employers really do want the cheapest labour — they're not people you want to work for for other reasons, but they will hire you, and if you're short of money, some is better than one

(2) It's unclear what the market rates are. I'm also job hunting*, and I've seen people confidently claim the "going rate" for my experience level is anywhere from €75k to €114k. My experience with pay has always been getting huge rises followed by people shocked by how small the number is.

* If anyone's interested in hiring me: iOS senior, Berlin, been doing iOS since the first iPod with retina display came out

> have 8 YoE (mostly web apps)

This sounds like a red flag for me.

What’s wrong with working on web apps?
Because real developers only work on game engines /s
Depends, but I'd agree. If you can do only JavaScript/TypeScript and frameworks related to those languages then I can understand having issues finding work.

Quite frankly, if you want to work as a developer right now then go add Java or C# to the list of language you know. A quick check on the local job listing site shows all Java and C#, and a single Rails developer, job posted. The Java and C# are frequently not for a single position, but multiple.

In my experience the companies that are currently hiring either expect you to be able to do some web app (front-end) work, or they have a smaller team of front-end developers supporting a large team of back-end developers.

One major issue I've seem with developers who focus to hard on web apps is that their understanding of infrastructure, deployment and configuration management leaves a lot to be desired. Not saying that that is the case universally, but it is less rare to encounter a Java developer who can't navigate database and web-servers.

This was true 20 years ago

Frontend (and mobile too) is pretty complex these days and a backend developer won't be able to do much there.

Similarly, full stack JS engineers doing node.js and react tend to have a good grasp of infra. When I interview I do a fang style system design interview and most candidates do well. The idea of "frontend engineers" doing a bit of css and jquery is largely gone.

Then, we can discuss whether the complexity is warranted, but that's another matter.

10 years ago banks were hiring contractors at top rate to fix their crappy java applications nobody wanted to touch, today they hire engineers to deal with their angular and react mess.

Have you tried any indirect hunting tactics? Going to a tech meet-up and seeing who's hiring? Talking to people in the sector can also put your mind at ease when you relate to people with similar problems.

Might also be worth looking at University job boards if there's any Uni's in your town. I worked an academia job part time because it was all I could find, but I learned a lot and the work felt great compared to most office jobs. Might be a good stop gap for you, as they tend to be fixed term contracts I think.

Get your CV/resume reviewed by friends/former colleagues or hell even here on HN. I have seen some ... let's say "wacky" CVs.

It feels like though the market is somewhat in the doldrums now - I have no direct experience of current conditions but at my BigCo (deliberately not naming) hiring is basically stopped, even for backfill/attrition. Seems like companies are kinda spooked at the moment and not really hiring, and letting headcount naturally shrink.

Have you considered contract work? If companies are not hiring FTEs, they may still be looking for temporary contract work as that is lower risk for them.

Good luck.

And I'll add that sometimes contracts lead to permanent jobs.
How about physical office jobs in your area? Have you applied to those? Remote is tough these days but willing to butt in the seat for 8 hours with a 2 hours commute might put food on your plate and buy you time.
I'm afraid that's my current takeaway of the situation as well. Not sure if that is really the case though. It would be nice to hear about different experiences.

Apparently, after remote was "the new normal" and "worked extremely well", now nobody wants it anymore for ... reasons?

Remote working extremely well is one of the reasons I was laid off from a previous job - they moved it to a cheaper country.
I think it was only the new normal in certain sectors/countries for a period. Now I see mostly hybrid and after 3 years remote I now have the expectation to go in 1 or 2 days a week. Would at least look at this initially, then after you get in you can push for less.
This would be my recommendation too. The global talent market for remote developers is extremely competitive. The days of failed offshoring seems to have passed, it's now much easier to build excellent remote teams but it is driving down salaries.
The market did get tougher. It's not you. That means that you have to put considerably more effort, or a different kind of effort, to land a job.

Think about landing the job as a numbers game. There are a bunch of steps, connected into a pipeline. Roughly, it's 1. find offers 2. apply 3. prescreen 4. interviews 5. offer

At each step of the pipeline, you will have fewer and fewer offers that will remain. Your goal is to bring one through the whole pipeline.

Think about the pass rate. Say you got 3 offers, but two were bad, and you accepted one. That's 33% pass rate.

You got invited for interviews at 20 firms, and three ended in offers. That's a 15% pass rate.

You were sent 30 pre-screening questionnaires, and got 20 interview invites. 66% pass rate.

You applied to 100 jobs, and got 30 pre-screening questionnaires. 30% pass rate.

These numbers are made up. You can work on any step of the pipeline and try to do things differently to see if it improves your pass rate.

In your case, are you not getting enough interviews? Or are you getting tons of interviews but are not getting any offers (or are not getting invited to a 2nd interview).

If it's the first, maybe you need to devote attention to your resume, cover letter, LinkedIn profile.

If it's the latter, maybe better interview prep or coaching will help.

It's a numbers game. You have to keep trying, but also tweak the steps along the way.

If you have any concrete questions or would like some help, my contact info is in my profile.

Agreed - my single biggest win for recruiters to show up in my inbox is to google search linkedin for the top result for the job role I am targeting, and then change my profile (in an honest way) to ape that as much as possible, pass rate is about top and bottom of funnel.
This approach is logical and straightforward. The main flaw is that it treats all job opportunities equally. Life is not numbers, and the job you have or find will demand a significant portion of your life.

This means that you can spend more effort on getting the job that fits you the best and none or less effort for other opportunities.

No matter how logical and straightforward an approach is, human implementations of an approach are never completely logical and straightforward.

Whether implicit or explicit, humans will short-change or sabotage job applications they don't want.

This is what I do. Since your resume is your point of entry, if you're not hooking anything then it's easy to say the issue is that you didn't manage to grab the attention/interest of whoever filtered those resumes. I change my resume every week now, unless I got good results from a previous version. No luck so far.
I agree entirely, it's important to remember you're not alone in the struggle and it is 100% not personal. I started logging the jobs I've applied for and how they're going with a slightly modified version of the Notion template[0] to track what titles and companies I get best the responses from to help track the numbers.

[0] https://www.notion.so/templates/job-applications

Crypto firms are hiring like crazy right now for software engineering positions. Whatever you think about the space, its a solid paycheck until something else comes along.
I suppose it's relative, there were a lot of layoffs in 2023 and I'm not sure they would be looking for so many web developers?
Note that a lot of scammers pretend to offer crypto jobs. Two of my Slack/Discord channels had to kick a bunch of scammers off.
I'm not in Europe, but at least in India, I hear a lot of news of layoffs.

I left the field but my friends tell me the market is brutal.

So maybe it's not you.

I feel you. I've been there a couple of months ago. Luckily it turned around and I got two offers in one week after months of nothing. I have 10 years of fullstack experience and some tech lead experience. The job market feels hard now. Few years ago it took me a few weeks to fill my calendar with interviews...
Hey, I'm in the Netherlands. We don't hire remotely, so you'd need to move here if you're not here already. I don't know if I can help, but my company is doing well. Feel free to email me for more info.
If anyone needs help with their resume - I built rezi and will be happy to give lifetime upgraded accounts at no cost
I checked the page and it seemed really cool, would like to give it a try!
Hey sorry for the late reply - just email me at hello@rezi.io
Rezi looks awesome and I love pages with personality ("Total Users (this is annoying to update)"). Giving this a try now.

Update: I've been moving my resume over and I love how well made the website is, even little things like selecting a state and having the cities localized. This is really cool!

That’s very gracious of you. Thanks.

How do HNers take advantage of your offer?

Hey sorry for the late reply - just email me at hello@rezi.io
Or you could pretend this is a forum for discussion and not yiur advertising space and answer the questions directly rather than spamming your email.
Im happy to talk about anything
Then go back and answer the questions to which you copy and paste- spammed your email all over this thread.
Your tone is unnecessarily confrontational to Jacob. He's only trying to help job seekers.

FWIW, I emailed him and he replied within a few hours on what I needed to do to redeem his offer.

Buy the pro plan first, then it gets upgraded to lifetime?
Hey sorry for the late reply - just email me at hello@rezi.io
i'd love to have one!
Hey sorry for the late reply - just email me at hello@rezi.io
Looks great! I’d love to try.
Hi, I would love to try. Same position as the OP, but other side of the world.
Where in Europe are you, are you applying to job in your country? Are you applying to jobs where you are a native speaker?
If you haven't already, set up a profile on upwork. The barrier to entry is a lot lower on short term projects, so you are more likely to find some work to keep your finances from depleting too quickly.

It will also give you a boost of confidence, an opportunity to build social proof about your work, and it may even end up scoring you a longer term engagement.

Good luck!

I tried that the other day. Says my email address exists when I try to sign up. Then it says it doesn't when I try to log in / reset password.
If you haven't already, perhaps try applying for non-engineering positions with adequate pay and of such nature that your SWE experience is useful. I think soft skills / industry specific knowledge will become only more valuable on the long run, as AI will eventually reduce work required for writing basic CRUD apps.
If I may ask: are you in a remote location?

Some employers claim to be remote-first but favor employees who are close to one of their physical offices.

Move to USA/Canada.
I don't know about Canada, but moving to the US for an EU citizen is very hard. H1B is a lottery and needs sponsorship. Transfer visas are easier to get if you work for a US company, but you can be sent home at any time if you lose your job.
you do realise that you can't just hop on a plane and choose to live in another country?
Don't feel bad about taking time to give yourself more energy in the long run. Go for a walk or jog. Do something you enjoy to help recharge your batteries.

If you plan to continue spending time on personal projects or CV, maybe change your scenery and go to a nice cafe or similar. Maybe coworking spaces or new environments will unlock opportunities to network in ways you haven't thought of.

Keep your mind focused on the end goal and consider each step a learning opportunity.

Also, take this time to do things you might not have had the time to do before: learn a new programming language or tech stack or write that blog post you've been sitting on; you never know what doors this type of thing could open for you.

Best of luck!

throwaway.

we stopped hiring remote workers after experiencing massive amounts of employment fraud (multiple jobs, lying about who they were) and extremely low quality candidates despite good offers

I've vouched (voted to remove from flagged) this comment.

With that said, what was the typical salary for one of those positions?

We do get a lot of fake applications but they're fairly easy to filter.

Employment fraud can't be avoided, monitoring performance is hard and the economy is harsh enough people feel justified pulling multiple jobs.

Two reasons why this probably happened. 1) you paid too little, and 2) you probably had people in-office too so the remote employees were second class workers. The solution is simple: pay above market rates and create a truly remote culture.
Doesn't matter. Do u think frauds will not apply to 2 jobs because one pays well ? Hiring remote is a lot harder and requires a lot more trust on both sides. Employers are finding that if they have the supply locally, they can choose not to do full remote. Right now, it is an employer market so they can do this.
Nah, I've heard of people doing 150k$ x2 which is a lot better than 150k$.

If they can keep up both of their jobs and the contract allows it, I don't see the problem.

The reality is that a lot of jobs don't require that much time and low performing people can go unnoticed for years.

I don't know where you are in the EU but some places have a lot of jobs and its hard to hire people. I would consider doing this because you never know how it will turn out - you might end up getting a job overseas but spending months at home working remotely every year once they get to trust you.

Other people have said its a numbers game and they're right. You have to apply and again and somehow keep your spirits up. I hate it when I'm finding a job - I always feel like shit and that I'm worthless. Then I get something and I feel worthwhile again - it's all in one's own head and there's a skill I need to get better at about managing those feelings.

I think the key is to be slightly arrogant in your own eyes. Believe in yourself for no reason at all. "I know python but I'm not a great expert" BZZT....WRONG ANSWER "I know java" BING!!! RIGHT ANSWER. There's an element of projecting a confident and go-getter attitude. You can learn whatever you don't know, you can fix what you lack it's not a problem.

Another issue is that people are looking for different things and you can reword your CV to hook them. I've lost offers because I didn't sell myself on the right aspects of my experience before. You can learn something topical and put that on your CV if you find out that it's a hot item in your general field. e.g. if you do webapps then do you know react or is there something else that's a ticklist item with recruiters and companies?

I think it's also easier to get jobs with smaller companies - they've less budget and less staff and are probably more desperate. If you're not fullstack then do some basic fullstack example site and teach yourself enough to be just about useful.

I was jobhunting for most of 2023 and only had an offer in October. The struggle is real, just keep doing it.
Lower your expectations with regards to finding a remote position. I know you came here for comfort, but it seems to me that you are better served by hard truths. Working remotely, you are competing with the whole world. People in lower-income countries will be cheaper and not necessarily worse than you. Use your location as an advantage.
Do not sound "desperate" like this in your job interviews (no offense) because an employer will not hire you to solve your problems, but to solve his problems. And do not have a "begging attitude" because you offer your services (skills). Your eventual employer is your client (client of your competence).

> but even still with low expectations I'm not getting many replies.

Do not sell your skills cheap. If you have low expectations, seek for less qualified jobs while applying for what you feel you are meant for.

Many people went through more or less tough a situation. So do not panic. It is ok to go from failure to failure until the final success.

Don't give up! The job market is tough, but I'm sure there are jobs out there that would be a good fit for you. For example, check LinkedIn for job postings. It's just much harder to land a job these days, but I think it's temporary until companies realize they need to hire again.

Some tips: Reach out to recruiters who have contacted you in the past. Sign up for online CV databases. Use your network and contact former colleagues to see if their companies are hiring. Work on a side project that excites you and makes you proud to change your mindset, or take an online course. Try to get excited about the challenge instead of thinking about giving up. I just watched a YCombinator video which, among other things, talks about not giving up too soon: https://youtu.be/al-15mMAS18.

Also, try to get feedback when you're rejected. Are you showing genuine interest in the job? Do you ask insightful questions, and do you submit take-home assignments without bugs?