Nothing wrong with equal rights, with having a career, etc.. However, some feminist voices are focused less on promoting women and more on tearing down men. Surprise: misandry is not attractive to most men.

Maybe this is more related to modern culture than to feminism, but what I notice nowadays is that there's a lot of asymmetry in the conversation about sex. Everybody understands toxic masculinity, but is it acceptable to discuss toxic femininity? Is it acceptable to discuss "female privilege"? As soon as you mention it, an internet psychologist jumps out of nowhere to invalidate your identity and experience.

"Feminism" is an overly broad term used to discuss many things - a lot of it depending upon where you grew up. In my neck of the woods, "feminism" meant women having an identity outside of their family, typically manifested in a career. It was not about eschewing the family altogether. Feminism was about mom and dad being equals: sharing household duties and child-rearing responsibilities while pursuing their own careers and interests. That form of "feminism" has its own issues (you can't have everything, whether you're male or female) but it doesn't suffer from the issues being presented here.

> Feminism kept drumming into my head that financial independence was the ideal, but in practice it doesn't happen unless you are managing a hedge fund or are able to write best-selling novels.'

I feel like I missed the part where feminism promised everyone riches, or where not having kids made you poorer than the alternative.