I think a 1-1 is highly valuable when there is a specific issue but weekly 1-1s are usually not; if you have a specific issue you want a 1-1 immediately you don't want to wait a week for it. One week you might need a lot from your manager, you might not need anything for two months in some cases.
I had one exceptionally bad manager who used 1-1s as a weapon to gaslight developers. When we compared our notes it was clear he would tell one thing to one person and one thing to another person. I started on Paxil, finished the project, and got out. More commonly it is an unproductive meeting that's not harmful but not the best use of everyone's time.
Being in a team is about shared reality. You don't want to waste people's time in excessive meetings, but you do want enough collective communication such that everybody in a team has a sense of the overall situation and feels like they're part of something bigger than themselves.
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[ 2.4 ms ] story [ 20.5 ms ] threadI had one exceptionally bad manager who used 1-1s as a weapon to gaslight developers. When we compared our notes it was clear he would tell one thing to one person and one thing to another person. I started on Paxil, finished the project, and got out. More commonly it is an unproductive meeting that's not harmful but not the best use of everyone's time.
Being in a team is about shared reality. You don't want to waste people's time in excessive meetings, but you do want enough collective communication such that everybody in a team has a sense of the overall situation and feels like they're part of something bigger than themselves.
Have the balls to share your opinion with the team in public.
They will do everything for you.