Personally I cant ever remember a time where I thought that far ahead.
Maybe I was one of the last "lucky ones" that did my teens and twenties when 'dating' was less official and its was closer to just, I like spending time with you.
If money is tight, having a live-in partner is a cost saving. It doesn't have to be a romantic partner, though there are advantages to that.
In other words... I suspect that there is more to your sons not dating than the challenges of raising a family. And that's perfectly fine; not everybody has to pair off romantically.
If they do want a family, but without a romantic pairing... that's probably not a good idea. If they're hoping for a partner for the sole purpose of breeding without romantic attachment, they're going to find few takers no matter how much money they make.
Dating and relationships can be harmful, messy, and painful.
In an ever increasingly connected population, and over sharing being the norm, long-term evidence of mistakes and minor indiscretions (read: not advocating anything harmful) could haunt a person for life.
Work, friends, financial and other lifestyle decisions. All tend to have risks to ruin yourself and your life permanently.
I think that relationships are crucial for the quality of living and not seeking depth in those may be more detrimental than most things I mentioned above.
Especially, the today's 'connected' societies which often give false premise of socializing and promote ideas of isolating yourself from deeper relationships.
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[ 2.1 ms ] story [ 28.4 ms ] threadIt is impossible for 2 typical wage earners to pair off and start a family.
Maybe I was one of the last "lucky ones" that did my teens and twenties when 'dating' was less official and its was closer to just, I like spending time with you.
If money is tight, having a live-in partner is a cost saving. It doesn't have to be a romantic partner, though there are advantages to that.
In other words... I suspect that there is more to your sons not dating than the challenges of raising a family. And that's perfectly fine; not everybody has to pair off romantically.
If they do want a family, but without a romantic pairing... that's probably not a good idea. If they're hoping for a partner for the sole purpose of breeding without romantic attachment, they're going to find few takers no matter how much money they make.
In an ever increasingly connected population, and over sharing being the norm, long-term evidence of mistakes and minor indiscretions (read: not advocating anything harmful) could haunt a person for life.
Sometimes the only way to win, is to not play.
I think that relationships are crucial for the quality of living and not seeking depth in those may be more detrimental than most things I mentioned above.
Especially, the today's 'connected' societies which often give false premise of socializing and promote ideas of isolating yourself from deeper relationships.
Amazing that the author tip toed around that part of it.
Hey, not all floor-mattress folk are degenerates.