As someone who is not in the world of surrogacy: how much control does someone typically have over a surrogate during the pregnancy? Also what are you supposed to do in the event a surrogate has irreparable harm like losing a uterus or death?
So I read the whole story...this Bi character sounds like every bad Silicon Valley yuppie stereotype rolled into one, with a big dose of legit mental illness. The lady sounded extremely manic. Don't know if it is just rage bait, but sure worked that way.
I've made plenty of remarks already but this got me:
> [Bi's husband] blamed the hospital, not Smith, but told me that the litigation is “her grieving process.” He tried to stay out of the legal stuff so that Bi couldn’t blame him too.
How utterly fucking sociopathic do you have to be to sue (and not just sue, she's angling to try to have the surrogate charged with murder) as part of your grieving process. Fuck the single mom trying to help you, you don't care, as a multimillionaire VC.
Even her husband is scared, to the point he's on record as saying he doesn't want his wife blaming him for the surrogacy loss? There are a multitude of issues here.
> Next, Bi iMessaged a photo of Leon’s corpse to Smith’s 7-year-old son’s iPad.
Oh, this kind of fucking sociopath.
> Bi isn’t anti-surrogacy—in fact, she frequently advises other investors who are pursuing it and sends me links to startup after startup
Coming up next, the next unicorn, funded by this VC to help control every moment of your surrogate's life.
> The couple hired a second surrogate to carry a fetus for them, this one a girl who’s now 11 months old. Bi characterized that pregnancy as easy and smooth to Nietfeld. In fact, the surrogate, Chelsea Sanabria, had gestational diabetes and both placenta previa and placenta accreta. During delivery, she hemorrhaged, losing 5.4 litres of blood. She needed an emergency hysterectomy to literally save her life. Imagine how little you have to care about another person to characterize that as ‘easy.’
Among all the incredibly depressing and shitty stories about late-stage capitalist consumer culture I've heard, this has to be one of the most depressing and shittiest.
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[ 3.4 ms ] story [ 25.5 ms ] thread> [Bi's husband] blamed the hospital, not Smith, but told me that the litigation is “her grieving process.” He tried to stay out of the legal stuff so that Bi couldn’t blame him too.
How utterly fucking sociopathic do you have to be to sue (and not just sue, she's angling to try to have the surrogate charged with murder) as part of your grieving process. Fuck the single mom trying to help you, you don't care, as a multimillionaire VC.
Even her husband is scared, to the point he's on record as saying he doesn't want his wife blaming him for the surrogacy loss? There are a multitude of issues here.
> Next, Bi iMessaged a photo of Leon’s corpse to Smith’s 7-year-old son’s iPad.
Oh, this kind of fucking sociopath.
> Bi isn’t anti-surrogacy—in fact, she frequently advises other investors who are pursuing it and sends me links to startup after startup
Coming up next, the next unicorn, funded by this VC to help control every moment of your surrogate's life.
This is a really good read on this story: https://www.fridaythings.com/recent-posts/wired-surrogacy-ci...
> The couple hired a second surrogate to carry a fetus for them, this one a girl who’s now 11 months old. Bi characterized that pregnancy as easy and smooth to Nietfeld. In fact, the surrogate, Chelsea Sanabria, had gestational diabetes and both placenta previa and placenta accreta. During delivery, she hemorrhaged, losing 5.4 litres of blood. She needed an emergency hysterectomy to literally save her life. Imagine how little you have to care about another person to characterize that as ‘easy.’
It's like mixing teams chat work culture with pregnancy. Just a giant bizarre wtf.