I don't understand the obsession a lot of people seem to have with demanding that their significant other can do the same line of work (or even have the same hobby), like in #32 and 33:
> People who have home server 32. Wish * Linux (required)!
> People who let me play with the home server 33. (Required)
Can someone explain that to me? I hear that sentiment a lot, but almost exclusively from engineers and programmers.
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On the other hand I'm kind of pleased to find one thing among the list that I consider perhaps the important qualification, albeit worded a bit oddly (not sure how it reads in the native language though):
> [#27] Who have mastered one or more hobbies outside of work
I don't think an SO has to do or like the same things as me, though similar domestic likes help (ie, like to cook). But I think this point, that you care about something, anything really, is very important. Though I guess I need to go one further than that even. You have to make things.
You could care about and make poetry, or papercraft, or sandcastles, or haskell libraries or ballet or gardens or anything.
But just caring about something and making things seem so wildly important to me. I wish I could better articulate why.
> Someone who is OK not having heating in the winter [Note: residential central heating/cooling is essentially nonexistent in Japan, but a kotatsu[0] is a must for surviving Japanese winters]
> Has at least 20 friends with at least a 1 year old relationship that aren't from work or work-related contacts (Facebook counts)
> 外国人と気さくに20分以上話せる人（日本語でもOK）
> Can readily talk with foreigner for at least 20 minutes (in Japanese is OK)
> ソーシャルゲーム（GREE、Mobage）に対して嫌悪感がない人
> Doesn't have unpleasant feelings with respect to social games (Gree, Mobage) [Note: these games are really shitty]
> WindowsよりもMacまたはLinuxが好きな人
> Someone who likes Mac and Linux more than Windows
Given the fact that she's in her late 30s and admits that she's plump, these are pretty harsh demands in Japan, a country that has rather traditional views on gender and gender roles.
This actually seems "okay" to me. Yes, it's a very demanding profile considering her age and physical appearance, but she doesn't mention anything regarding academic pedigree, profession, or salary (which is what 99% of these women ask for right away). All her requests are w.r.t. personality, character, hobbies, etc.
It's actually kind of refreshing to see a post of this kind w/o the typical 5,000,000+ JPY/YR requirement.
Yes, that was rather surprising to me. No requests in that department, but let's be honest: 99% of people who fit her requirements are going to be able to fulfill the usual 学歴/年収 requirements as well. After all, most people with this sort of technical knowledge will be gainfully employed in the IT industry.
Yes, I have to agree: this is a creep filter, basically. Showing that you have strong relationships both maintained from your past relationships as well as currently, is incredibly important for those things that matter in the long run to anyone who wants a family: being a part of a strong community, showing that you care about your relationships enough to nurture them and sustain them, etc. There are some goofy things on this list, but this strikes me as evidence of maturity, however awkwardly expressed.
Right, I understand the underlying motive, but the tone of the entire post just had me in stitches. Besides, one of the first things to keep in mind while forming a long-term romantic relationship is that you will frequently have to compromise. Writing a list like this and posting it on GitHub doesn't give guys the impression that this is a woman willing to compromise.
How is that perfect? With the exception of the home server and OS preferences, the rest seem pretty reasonable requests (if strangely specific) for a well-rounded, grounded person.
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> People who have home server 32. Wish * Linux (required)!
> People who let me play with the home server 33. (Required)
Can someone explain that to me? I hear that sentiment a lot, but almost exclusively from engineers and programmers.
--------------
On the other hand I'm kind of pleased to find one thing among the list that I consider perhaps the important qualification, albeit worded a bit oddly (not sure how it reads in the native language though):
> [#27] Who have mastered one or more hobbies outside of work
I don't think an SO has to do or like the same things as me, though similar domestic likes help (ie, like to cook). But I think this point, that you care about something, anything really, is very important. Though I guess I need to go one further than that even. You have to make things.
You could care about and make poetry, or papercraft, or sandcastles, or haskell libraries or ballet or gardens or anything.
But just caring about something and making things seem so wildly important to me. I wish I could better articulate why.
> 冬の間は暖房をつけなくても平気な人
> Someone who is OK not having heating in the winter [Note: residential central heating/cooling is essentially nonexistent in Japan, but a kotatsu[0] is a must for surviving Japanese winters]
> 中学、高校、大学時代の友人と現在も交流が続いている人が５人以上いる人 （Facebookを含む）
> Still maintains contact with at least 5 friends from middle school, high school and college (Facebook counts)
> 職場並びに仕事関係者以外で1年以上付き合いのある友人が20人以上いる人（Facebookを含む）
> Has at least 20 friends with at least a 1 year old relationship that aren't from work or work-related contacts (Facebook counts)
> 外国人と気さくに20分以上話せる人（日本語でもOK）
> Can readily talk with foreigner for at least 20 minutes (in Japanese is OK)
> ソーシャルゲーム（GREE、Mobage）に対して嫌悪感がない人
> Doesn't have unpleasant feelings with respect to social games (Gree, Mobage) [Note: these games are really shitty]
> WindowsよりもMacまたはLinuxが好きな人
> Someone who likes Mac and Linux more than Windows
Given the fact that she's in her late 30s and admits that she's plump, these are pretty harsh demands in Japan, a country that has rather traditional views on gender and gender roles.
0: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kotatsu
It's actually kind of refreshing to see a post of this kind w/o the typical 5,000,000+ JPY/YR requirement.
I don't know about you, but I wouldn't consider a Facebook relationship to be "strong".
If she accepts it, consider that compromising, so you can compromise thanks to git!
Now that would be a good story to share at the wedding.
http://translate.google.com/translate?hl=en&sl=ja&tl...
Basically a URL pointing to the raw text of a github file to get translated. Maybe someone on the Google Translate team reads HN?
2. Doesn't turn into an ass when drunk (required)
3. Still in contact with at least five friends from (either?) Junior high school, senior high school or university (on Facebook is OK).
4. At least 20 friends you have known for at least a year that are non-work related (eg you don't work at the same place, on Facebook is OK).
5. Able to hold a 30 minute conversation with someone from your neighborhood (young or old).
6. Enjoys playing with little kids (pre-elementary age)
7. Likes vegetables and natto
8. Can hold a conversation with a foreign person for at least 20 minutes (in Japanese is OK)
9. Doesn't blame others when there is a problem
10. Can plan out leisure activites (like a trip, or doing something you enjoy).
11. Doesn't get jealous of rich, beautiful, talented, or famous people. (required)
12. Can compare oneself to another without getting a superiority complex.
and the list goes on... I will translate the rest when I have time (need to be at a meeting...5 minutes ago. Oops!)
32. You have a home server (required. Linux preferred!)
33. You'll let me play with your home server (required)
34. You have an upload to Github (required)
Basically, she wants a perfect man. GL!
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