Ask HN: How are you all staying sane?

As for me I feel the AI fear. Just a few months ago, narrative that AI won't replace programmers, made a lot of sense, and still somewhat does.

But after spending a few weeks totally vibe coding my new project, which is technically advanced, which for sure would be very hard to do on my own, I felt the pressure of what happens in the future with my career.

The only thing keeping me sane is hope, that even if AI takes SE jobs, it makes us a potentially strong founder candidates, we know how to code, how the good architecture should look like and have amazing tool, to iterate very quickly. Although the fact that rapid development is not enough to succeed is another thing.

the beach. mantras. tapasya.

"Chaos isn't a pit, chaos is a ladder."

Focus on what you can control. Detach from social media. Get outside. Spend time with the people in your life who matter. We live in an information age where we know everything immediately, but it's a blessing and a curse.

>AI

I'm apathetic. It's there, it's a tool.

>international conflicts

I am fortunate enough to not live in the countries mentioned. I am close to Ukraine so this one is sort-of important to me in terms that I don't want Russia to win, but at the same time there's no point in following the news closely. If something big happens I will most definitively hear about it whether I'd like it or not.

>The US / Europe

Nothing I can do about any of that so no reason to get emotional. The most I can do as an European is to vote. Anything else is entirely out of my control unless I'd dedicate my entire free time and career to change things and I am completely uninterested in doing that.

>the stock market

Invest in index funds and forget it exists. If even that's too much for you then you then just put the money in the deposit. Interacting with the stock market is entirely optional.

>tech sucks

Always sucked. If you don't believe me feel free to go back to any underpowered machine of your choice and use it as a daily driver for a while. Dealing with any tasks on an old PC with a single core processor and 5400 rpm hard drive is pure agony compared to what we have right now.

>How are you all staying sane?

Stop being terminally online and go do something you actually enjoy. Most of the stuff you mentioned doesn't even actually affect you in the slightest.

The world at large always sucks. Most enjoyable things in life do not come out of worrying about the world but from things close to you, your family, your friends, your community. Focus more on the things you can actually have an influence on than everything that's out of your control.

real answer is touching grass

My biggest problem right now is thanks to Claude I'm making much faster progress on my passion project and I'm working in a maniac state almost, but then I remind myself that it's probably meaningless because if things progress as they have, anyone can just copy what I've built, and if we get to AGI all bets are off anyway. Balancing these two moods is tough. Lots of sleepless nights lately. Thankfully I have a large financial cushion to fall back on, but then again the market could tank 50% this year and then even that wouldn't be much of a consolation. Can't be in cash either, opportunity cost too large.

I think we are all collectively coasting on a wave of lagging behind the current technology. Yes the new models have been exceptionally strong. But I think it's just because developers are exposed to the ecosystem more that we fear its impact more. In reality most white collar work is about one or two generations of AI models away at most from being easily replaced. Basically anything that doesn't involve human contact. Like I'm sorry but a lot of jobs in billing or middle management or form processing are not more difficult to replace than managing a whole ass several million LoC legacy application with 8 layers of architecture. As soon as AI can reliably navigate these quantities of context and memory, it's over for a lot of professions as we know them.

I keep myself sane by one, as others have said, realizing that developers will still very likely have a better understanding of how to use AI to create stable and maintainable software; There's more to software development than just coding.

Second, I am increasingly becoming aware that I'm more than my white-collar output, which I feel like many devs struggle with specifically since programming is also many devs personal hobby. It's a bit depressing when you have an idea for a side project to solve a personal problem and Opus can shit it out in 5 minutes. But I've also realized it frees up a lot of time. I can realize a lot of those small automations that were piling up on my backlog now. Ideas that I dreamed up but never had the time to personally implement. I can write more. I can read more small blogs by real humans with real opinions. I'm learning more about networking and selfhosting, topics I never had much time for because I spent my little free time on coding projects. And I will probably also get back into game development since that's where creativity and expression, as opposed to implementation, really shines, and that's something that I don't see AI taking away from us very soon.

As for the economical impact, well, lol lmao we'll have to cross that bridge when we get there. I just think that personally by the time I myself am affected by this problem, we have a global crisis anyway so it's not really like I can personally prepare for it.

My 2c:

1) Reflect daily, and inspect your feelings. Most of the negative sentiments and positive sentiments of AI arise from how they impact your identity. ("I'm a great programmer", "I build complicated systems easily". Doing an RCA on your thoughts is like debugging.

2) List down things you can control, and you cannot control. "I cannot stop the launch of the new model." .. "I control my usage of these models" .. "My family needs me to do this, and I can" .. "I can do this in my team".

3) Fully accept both of above. It's a process.

4) Finally, you can then see what are the new identities and new things you can do in this disrupted new world, and you can begin to focus on those.

I think these also model the stages of dealing with trauma, because both require acceptance to truly figure out the next steps in a positive way.

This reads like a Jeopardy answer for "What is stoicism?"

I feel very similar. I'm not sure if it's all the issues you listed, or just being at a specific point in my life and career, or a combination of both. Nothing is enjoyable to me anymore, and I find there is nothing I am looking forward to. There seems to be so much evidence for the "everything is getting worse" line of thinking, food prices, housing prices, wealth distribution, the job market. I think all the commentors noting "it doesn't affect you, go talk a walk" are really missing the point. On one hand I feel privileged and lucky with what I have materially but on the other, a really deep feeling of despair that is getting harder to hide day to day.

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Go hiking.

And drop the "the". It`s cleaner.

I'm not, just rolling with it.

All the issues you mention are about uncertainty.

Uncertainty is one of the largest perceived threats by the human brain, it’s normal you feel it like a threat, it can even cause you anxiety and force you to take severe and unnecessary decisions. If that’s the case talk to a mental health professional because it is not an issue.

However if mental health is not an issue, try some of the many techniques that are there on how to handle uncertainty psychologically, you may start with stoicism (a modern book is fine) and with distribution of risk only of the threats that are an actual problem to you and you have any little of control over them

It's the same as it has always been, the only difference is that you are being bombarded with these issues because you are terminally online and use social media while previously you were blissfully ignorant. The solution is to touch grass and stop worrying about things outside of your control.

Personally I just adopt an attitude of utter nihilism and fatalism. I remind myself regularly that I'm going to die someday, like a mantra. Everything I think or care about won't ultimately matter. The only rational choice is to try and make the most of today.

Stay sober and mostly away from news.

I believe we (humankind) have been transitioning to a phase of what I call "time compression." Everything is happening too fast compared to say 40-50 years ago. You can attribute it to many things (tech in particular), but primarily it's the fact that everyone has a terminal in their hands where they can access information, people, news, etc. at a whim. It's affecting both our mental health and our collective social fabric. I think humans were not meant to be overwhelmed this way; our mental capacity hasn't increased, but the stimuli have increased by orders of magnitude.

I don't have a solution to this problem. But one thing I've been trying is to immerse myself in a hobby I enjoy, and ignore most of the noise around me. I closed most of my social network accounts 9 years ago, and it has improved my mental health significantly. I still read the news, but I skim the headlines and go back to what I was doing. Yes, it does affect me, but I try to minimize its impact and focus on things that compensate their effect.

There's no silver bullet. Just know that you're not alone. Unfortunately time compression is here to stay (and it will probably get worse), and those of us who fight it back will hopefully stay sane.

I am apathetic to everything because there is nothing I can do about any of that. I am a speck of dust on a cog of a machine. There is absolutely no point of worrying about any of this.

> No one can predict anything.

Nobody ever could. Accept this reality and everything will be fine.

Feels more like things are chaotic and uncertain to me rather than explicitly negative.

eg still think there is a fair bit of upside to be had from AI even if it does make me wary about job situation on a 5-10 year scale.

It sure as hell won’t be boring the next 10 years that’s for sure. And that to me is a positive on itself.

Define sane.