Ask HN: How do you go to sleep quickly?
I would like to go to sleep much more quickly than I currently do. I often lie awake in bed for an hour or two before falling asleep. I typically get in bed at a reasonable and consistent time (almost always before 10:30pm, often before 10:00). I would like to be asleep by 10:00pm and wake up by 5:30am. When I do fall asleep quickly, I have no problem waking up without an alarm at a reasonable time.
Short of taking drugs to assist in falling asleep, do you have any suggestions for how to fall asleep more quickly? What has worked for you?
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I am 28 so I might add that you might want to adjust such a process according to your age and responsibilities. Hell you might not like to party like I do. If that's the case, substitute the partying for reading a good book, working on your startup, testing to see how waterboarding and CIA sleep depravation works, or just having a crapload of coffee.
Also, I know you specifically mentioned no drugs, BUT it might be easier to take a Benadryl at 6pm and use that to wake up early the next day. You will feel a bit drudgey the next day but that's fixed with the first cuppa-o-joe of the day.
Hope I helped :)
PS: I know my methods aren't the healthiest, but they do work for me and I keep in shape with good nutrition and exercise, so that's that.
That being said, if you've got a two year old I'd think that your sleep schedule will mostly be customized with some daily exercise, avoiding bright screens at night, and supplementing with some melatonin. If you do, I'd advise to try lower doses of melatonin, as lots of times lower doses work better.
So there's the 'common' suggestions of avoiding caffeine in the afternoons / evenings and trying to 'switch off' half an hour or so before going to bed (as in, turn off the computer, put down the cell phone, dim the lights and maybe read a book).
I know you said you wanted to avoid drugs, but does that include all 'chemicals'? Melatonin is great for helping with sleep, although I find it helps more with 'keeping me asleep' than 'putting me to sleep'.
Do you have a TV or computer in your bedroom? If so, get rid of it. I don't care if it's not on when you fall asleep, you have to get rid of it. I don't know why, but for my wife and I, getting rid of the TV from the bedroom had an immediate effect. And we weren't the type to stay up late watching it just because it was there.
Have you tried meditation at all? For a long time, I did a fair amount of meditation and that definitely helps me to fall asleep... just basically running through the relaxation practice. For an even longer time (when I was in high school) I used to listen to self-hypnosis tapes. Again, just from repetition I can pretty much put myself to sleep by running through one of those in my head.
Having said all that, here's one trick I learned from a very unlikely place: some random guy on Big Brother in Australia a number of years ago :) Lay down and in your head imagine drawing the number '150' in the sand. Do it slowly and think about what you're doing... if you pay close attention, you can almost see every grain of sand moving as you do it. Once you finish '150' imagine doing '149', '148' and so on.
For me, at least, it's all about (a) trying to keep your mind off the happenings of the day, and (b) doing something that you do all the time and that you associate with sleep.
If I lay down and can start on the 'numbers in the sand' thing straight away, I can be asleep by '145', because my entire body understands the drill :)
Anyway, hope that helps!
We do have a TV in the bedroom, but it literally has not been turned on in months, so that's a non-issue.
I know of Melatonin, but I've got no trouble staying asleep, just falling asleep. Do you (or anyone else) know if it's supposed to be helpful for falling asleep?
Melatonin is supposed to help you fall asleep, from what I understand. Personally, it sometimes helps that stage, and sometimes it doesn't at all. I would definitely try it at least.
Good luck with it. It must be a relief just having that (sudden?) clarity that "this isn't right". I'm currently going through the same thing with concentration / focus... it's good to realise that you can actually do something about it!
Keep a notebook by your bed to capture any remaining thoughts at the end of the day. This will release you from the need to try and remember them overnight.
Orange blossom water, which you can find in Arabic grocery stores, is used to flavor deserts, and is traditionally used in some Mediterranean countries as a relaxing tea ("cafe blanc": "white coffee" though it's actually colorless), and, in a dose of a drop or two added to a milk bottle, to help children fall sleep. Drink two or three tablespoons of orange blossom water in a cup of warm water and you will soon feel a heavy shroud of sleepiness descending upon you. You'd better be near your bed when you finish that cup. The effect seems to work no more than twenty minutes or less, so it's perfect to help you fall asleep, without the risk of having to fight off a drugged feeling hours later should you have to get up and be alert.
This in combination with taking a shower to drop body temperature and then sitting in a comfortable warm and dark room for half an hour just before sleeping.
What makes 10pm a reasonable time?
Why does going to bed at a consistent time matter?
What are you doing while lying in bed before falling asleep?
There are practical reasons for arising at the same time, i.e. getting to work on time. The practicality of going to bed on a regular schedule is at a remove. Even an ideal schedule cannot prevent peaks and valleys, that's just the way our bodies and minds are.
My reason for asking is to avoid guessing. If you are laying in bed for two hours ruminating over the fact that you aren't sleeping, some approaches will be more healthy than others.
I want to go to sleep quickly to minimize "wasted" time.
I've found that I function best when I average at least 7 hours of sleep, so asleep by 7 would allow me to get up before 6 and feel well. I want to get up before 6, because when I do get up early, I enjoy the quiet time in the morning before the day ramps up (including my young son waking up and requiring attention).
Consistency is important mainly because I need/want 7 hours of sleep, and I want to get up before 6 so that I have some time in the morning as previously mentioned.
Usually if I'm still awake in bed for a while, I'm thinking. About any of thousands of things...
1. Turn off the TV. 2. Turn on some white noise, there are apps, mp3s, etc. Nature sounds work too. 3. Stretch. This doesnt have to be any hardcore yoga regimen. My back tends to be tense by the time I'm done working so its a good time to listen to your body and work on areas so your body is relaxed. Do this until you do feel relaxed. Sometimes its 10 minutes, other times its 30 minutes. Whichever way, it beats tossing and turning in bed for hours on end. 4. Follow up with a meditation session. Again, no need to follow any regimen here. Just sit, in the dark, collect your thoughts and at a certain point, your mind will be cleared. Its amazing what sitting in a dark, quiet environment for 5~10 minutes will do.
There are a ton of resources about relaxation techniques, find one that works for you. And if you dont want to worry about meditation styles, just sit in the dark and relax your mind or just let it wander. You'll want to learn about meditation as you get comfortable with it.
I know this may sound like some "hippie crap" to some but you'll see how important meditation is. Especially if you've been following HN for a while.
Whichever way, cut the caffeine intake, stop the late night tv sessions (I'm always guilty of this one), and relax.
Good luck.
I listen to an audiobook for 15 or 30 minutes when I get into bed. Gets my mind off everything and allows me to relax and fall asleep. Sometimes I really get into the story which can be another problem. But that is rare.