Just because people are already doing some sort of negative and disrespectful thing, that doesn't make it alright to build a tool to actively encourage people to continue doing it.
To put it succinctly: a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell.
It's disrespectful of the trust that your partner places in you by engaging in what is fundamentally a private interaction to share it publicly without their permission.
Actually this is a natural consequence of a society strangled by church views on morality.
When can we give up the idea that sex, for no other reason than gratification, lust and desire is in any way bad?
When can we get over the idea that women don't want sex? That they shouldn't be allowed to want sex? That they should feel sorry for wanting to have sex?
If you accept that women should have the same rights as men, it should follow that they should be the one to choose when, how, where and whom to sleep with -- and how often.
But of course, if you don't, if you believe that women are somehow inferior to men in matters of judgement, then your comment makes perfect sense.
This one is an app at this point; not a business, but we will be looking at doing different things. Currently, instead of liking a friend's "play" or hookup, you can buy them a beer from a local microbrewery to get delivered to their door!
We are looking into making it gender-neutral, because outside of it being targeted at guys, we totally think this is something girls would love to use too!
I agree with you completely. The problem is that I don't think the behavior you're encouraging solves that.
Talking about hookups is almost always about objectification: it's encouraging people to talk openly about relationships, yes, but relationships between people and objects of sexual gratification rather than between actual mature adults.
I always find it fascinating how the prevailing christian attitudes about sex have spread so well to the entire population, even as that same population is less and less christian.
In this case, you are implying that mature adults sex lives should not include one night stands with people they have no emotional attachment to. Why?
Is this a fucking joke? Who needs this? This is not only classless, but from a purely objective standpoint, who would actually use this thing? With your target demographic in mind, it seems to me like it will turn into the greasiest, skeeziest, cesspool on the entire internet in no time.
I think if you have something that is "Show HN" there should be more to see than just a landing page. I'd like to see how you built it, what it looks like, something more than just "enter your email address and we'll notify you when it's available."
Do NOT make this community about persecution -- I see no reason to list his Facebook profile in this thread other than to harass -- even if he has it listed in his profile.
Well.. you got the comments section stirred up with just a landing page and an idea. Good job.
Ignoring the moral issue of this.. can't this be replicated by making a private group on Facebook? Your friends are already on Facebook.. and the girls probably are too!
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[ 6.7 ms ] story [ 135 ms ] threadIt's disrespectful of the trust that your partner places in you by engaging in what is fundamentally a private interaction to share it publicly without their permission.
When can we give up the idea that sex, for no other reason than gratification, lust and desire is in any way bad?
When can we get over the idea that women don't want sex? That they shouldn't be allowed to want sex? That they should feel sorry for wanting to have sex?
If you accept that women should have the same rights as men, it should follow that they should be the one to choose when, how, where and whom to sleep with -- and how often.
But of course, if you don't, if you believe that women are somehow inferior to men in matters of judgement, then your comment makes perfect sense.
That is not an argument I can support, though.
Leave.
Leave.
Talking about hookups is almost always about objectification: it's encouraging people to talk openly about relationships, yes, but relationships between people and objects of sexual gratification rather than between actual mature adults.
In this case, you are implying that mature adults sex lives should not include one night stands with people they have no emotional attachment to. Why?
(yes, I know they changed the definition. I pretend it never happened!)
right?
tisk tisk pennApps...
...bro.
Let me just say, David, that you're a cretin. You're why my female friends don't want shit to do with geek culture. You're poison in the well.
Lots of people (guys and girls) already discuss this info with their close friends so this is just taking that conversation online.
I think that linking his Facebook in an aggressive comment isn't appropriate.
Ignoring the moral issue of this.. can't this be replicated by making a private group on Facebook? Your friends are already on Facebook.. and the girls probably are too!