Ask HN: Maybe not the best place to seek life advice but I trust you guys

If you can program, then you can probably get paid to program. Make a list of every person you know: friends/acquaintances, family, old coworkers, Internet connections, etc. Ask each one if they have any programming/web development work you could do or if they know someone who might. You are concerned you won't be able to work, and I bet you will have some difficulty learning how to sustainably apply yourself to someone else's problem for days or weeks at a time. You're just going to have to stick to it. I recommend finding a client or a job that has you working at their office if possible, or finding a new cafe/restaurant/coworking space from which to work when you do get work.

What I'm suggesting isn't easy to do, but it is possible and requires nothing that you currently lack.

Have you tried freelancing? Or maybe a remote position? What about working on a side project porn related that will generate some income for you?

I am 28 with a job (not a career) and I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up. I taught myself HTML, CSS, PHP, I am now TRYING to teach myself Python.

You sound like you just want to give up. You have to keep going man. Best of luck.

Python is not a bad place to start expanding your knowledge wider. Google uses it for a reason. It's a good time to wake up and inject your life with new purpose. Emotional pain is a wake up call to begin a new life.

you're at an important point: you realize where you stand. from my experience, that's good. accept that, remember who you are.

now go do something. ask for a job. don't get too focussed on github, domains or social media. find someone that needs something you could do and start there. don't be picky. try it for at least three weeks and if it sucks balls, find something new. don't quit before you've found something you believe is better. rinse and repeat.

good luck!

Stop complaining. Go to some local dev/tech meetups. Do some freelance work and/or hack on opensource projects. Work on your self esteem. Be more confident.

Maybe, despite living at your parents, you were the best time she had... who cares anyway, YOU are focusing on the bad stuff, look at what you have not what you don't have.

Christian, I am going to be blunt with you. All of us giving advise is not going to help you. You are going to feel good about for a day or two - you asked for advice and that's the first step to solve problems. But you won't be taking any action. You are there thinking I am trying to solve my problems, but you aren't. (been there, done that)

The only way you can change is to change yourself - discipline yourself. Change your routine. Change your diet.

1) Why don't you have more friends? 2) Why don't you have an idea about 'working'? Have you never worked before? Why? 3) Why think about a girl who judges you based on your current situation rather than the person you are?

I am not sure if I should apologize, but if I were beside you, I would ask you something similar to 'shake' your current thought process.

Fellow HNers: I am genuinely curious to know - what's the relation between living between parents and failure? Why are people living with their parents associated with failure? What if I work a decent job and earn well, but live with my parents?

In the 'east' - mostly asia, it's not looked down upon if you live with your parents. From what I hear from friends, it's similar in Russia and parts of eastern Europe too.

Wow. I used to be like you. I probably still am. Only that I don't have the luxury of living in Europe.

I can only offer one piece of really generic advice, because that generic advice actually worked out for me: Go out and network! User groups, meetups, forums, whatever. Just put yourself out there, online and offline, and try and score that first project.

Sounds like you may have a underactive thyroid (Hypothyroidism), do you have any of the following symptoms, have they persisted for more than 2 weeks ?

fatigue, exhaustion, feeling run down and sluggish, depression, difficulty concentrating, brain fog, unexplained or excessive weight gain, dry, coarse and/or itchy skin, dry, coarse and/or thinning hair, feeling cold, especially in the extremities, constipation, muscle cramps,

Your doctor can give you a very simple blood test to see if your thyroid is underactive. I would suggest seeing a doctor.

---- http://thyroid.about.com/cs/basics_starthere/a/symptoms.htm

I participate in a weekly (online) startup founders meeting. Everyone there talks about business and networks. If you want, you can drop by and talk to industry people. You might get a job out of it. Who knows...

If you are interested, just shoot me an email.

Porn can create/maintain different thinking patterns, underhabituate you for normal real-life cues. By withdrawing and resensitizing your dopamine circuits you might jumpstart your motivation, getting more fun and getting out of the rut. Shouldn't expect a miracle but may worth a try.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

good luck!

Oh, man. You live in EU, can visit Rome or London on weekends, and only 24, and already know some Python, whooa... I really envy you.