Ask HN: You're the smartest people I know. I am struggling and need advice.

There are no magic pills to get over this, and I speak from experience, but the first step for me was to stop being too ambitious. The next step was to set very very small tasks, one at a time. Resist making a list of all the tasks to complete the goal, just list the first and smallest task that comes to mind. Then do it and iterate.

Lastly, you don't seem to be happy with the subjects you are taking, is there any other areas that gets you properly interested - don't just do the science stuff because you think it's what to do.

I would second offdrey referral to https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5378462

1. Simplify: Cut the fat out of your life... unnecessary complications, bills, negative people, automate everything, etc. Less is more.

2. Focus: Go skydiving (or equiv near-death experience) occasionally, it will put all your problems into perspective immediately (as tiny).

3. Perspective: Travel, for the same reasons.

4. Strategy: * Do one thing-you-don't-want-to a day. * Doesn't sound like much, does it? Well, that's 7 boring things done per week and they add up quickly. If that still isn't enough, see #1.

5. Get pro. help if you are still depressed, but you may not need to after the above.

Extra cred: Dale Carnegie's book about enjoying your life is a fun read.

That you think this is one positive step toward your idea of "life...what it could be". A lot of 24 year olds do not have such aspirations. So just aspiring to something is helpful.

"I seriously struggle with motivation to do just about anything. I have a midterm tomorrow in Dynamics (a mech engr course), and I have pretty much neglected the class entirely, and I am most certainly going to fail it, and I'll have to withdraw. This isn't surprising, because I've been in this situation many, many times before."

You were discussing how you think people on HN are smart. I think people on HN are limited. Not only do I think that, I am right, people on HN are limited. Including myself. Gnothi seauton. Know your limitations. Why do even the best coders say people shouldn't put more than, say, seven objects or variables in a function? The truth is, many functions would be better with a couple of dozen variables in them. Why do the best coders not do this? Because they are limited. They can only keep seven or eight objects in their head at once, they can't keep track of two hundred objects in their head at once. So they write code that their limited brains can understand. Bad coders write long functions with hundreds of variables, to where they can't keep the whole function in their head any more, and their code fails. Good coders write functions that their tiny 1.5kg, 1 cubic decimeter brains can handle.

You said you know you're going to fail the course you mention. Did you know before you started you would? I don't know the answer, but it seems like you did, or you should have. So why take the course? Why set yourself up to fail? You talk about motivation - nothing is more DE-motivating than setting yourself up to fail like that. Or trying to get that great Apple job you're not yet qualified for.

Just like big code has to be "broken up" into small functions, you have to "break up" your big goals. Set small, realistic, achievable goals and go from step to step. If you can't achieve these new goals, then obviously they're not small, realistic and/or achievable enough, so make them smaller, more realistic and more achievale.

Nothing is more demotivating than this cycle of "going for the gold" and failing every time. Things go incremently. There are setbacks, maybe small, achievable, realistic goal #4 will have some setback. So just deal with it and go on. If you can only concentrate for five minutes, your goal should be to concentrate for five minutes and thirty seconds. And go from there. Iterative and incremental are popular philosophies here.

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sounds cheesy but these are sometimes very insightful. It likely will not tell you anything new, usually just makes the obvious clear.

You sound like you're struggling to live somebody else's life. There is nothing wrong with ADD or having a messy bedroom. This only means that you live more inside your head than in the present here and now. This means you're a highly intuitive individual, which could give you a serious edge. This could also be the cause of your depression. Depression can be caused by over thinking worst possible scenarios (that do not exist in reality) which leads to catastrophic thinking. Come back to reality, reality is not that bad, face it! Get to know yourself better and make sure you become a specialist at knowing yourself, this will avoid setting yourself up for failure. There is a tremendous force inside you that you must learn to master by knowing yourself or else it'll play against you. Only life experience will make you better at this. You've taken the first step by identifying it and seeking for help. Here a little inspirational video for you, good luck! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jpe-LKn-4gM

I was in the same place as yours 4 years back. I am out of college now with a full-time job and almost out of debt. Here's what had worked for me. It might not work for you.

You have real world skills like building a web app and have a part time job. I had none.

I was down with 6 courses with F grades and no idea what to do with my life. I was about to quit college. I knew I was going somewhere wrong with the notion of world I had.

I took a Vipassana course. The courses are of 10 days duration, independent of religious stuff and free of charge to all those who wish to do so. Here the link : http://www.dhamma.org/. It is like a gym for the mind. The more you do it, the more you increase your focus, willpower and awareness. It becomes easier to deal with problems in life with a strong mind. It also forces you to look at life directly rather than deluding yourself with self pity or fantasies.

It was hard for me to realize that : 1) I am dissatisfied only when I am not getting something that I want. 2) There is a price to pay for everything I want.

For me at that moment, the most important thing was to pass out of college since I had taken a loan to study there. I was really interested to know, what I was doing different than the guys who were the toppers with all 'A's.

One of the toppers told me, he really did 3 things : 1) Attended every class and took notes of almost everything. 2) Tried to understand everything told by the Professor during the lecture or the same day itself, paraphrashing the notes if required. 3) Teach other students the stuff before the exams. (Most important since we retain 90% of the stuff we teach or apply straight away in case of programming)

I almost remember the day he told me this stuff. But did I implement it straight away? No I just could not. I could not come out of my old habits straight away. That semester I flunked in almost all of the courses.

But the next semester I decided to implement all the three from Day One. The first two were quite easy. I was really concerned about the last part.

I had reservations who would try to understand stuff from me. But I think I was repeating "Theory of Computation", just before the exams some student asked me to help with something. I asked him to come sometime in the night. I explained concepts to an audience of nine students who were taking the course. I passed that course easily.

The last two semesters were very easy after forming those habits and I easily passed all the previously flunked courses as well. I even had time to be a part of a band and teach Java programming to a group of fellow students.

I would not say the whole journey was easy. Forming new habits are difficult and it needs a lot of motivation. Regular Vipassana meditation helped. My mom helped me with all kinds of support - financial as well as emotional. Sometimes when I was really down, I reminded myself that she believed in me and no matter what happened I was going to be brave enough to survive college.

Again this is my story but it is you who has to try new stuff and habits to yourself to go from "where you are" to "where you want to be". It is your habits who make you are. You can change those habits. Other people have done so. So can you.

All the best from my side. Would really like to see you stuff making HN frontpage.

Shoot me an email about anything.

-- Fellow HNer