Generalizing over bad personal experiences with no mention of positive experiences? Check.
Grandiose sense of entitlement? Check.
Complete failure to make any kind of insightful commentary that might transcend her own personal experience? Check.
From the form and content of this writing, its impossible to tell whether :
A) The author is making legitimate observations about personal experiences that don't extend to anyone else.
B) The author is making legitimate observations about problems in the SF dating scene that would bear out for a significant amount of people in SF.
C) The author is as socially maladjusted as the guys she's complaining about, and is therefore the source of her poor social experiences.
D) The author is fabricating a polemic piece to try and garner attention online (a lot of the anecdotes seem too convenient to the narrative, and the whole piece looks suspiciously like what one might engineer to deliberately divide opinion/spark controversy)
Go ahead and skip to the postlude, if you're grossed out by the part in front. And yes, the first few sections are really gross.
> is it possible that San Francisco is not so bad because it has a lot of geeks and marrieds and gays and male cougars, but because it has so many of us.
My take on this is that above all, in a land of opportunity, you have to keep your options open. This is from my experience, not from reading the article. You meet someone, and neither person is really interested in investing in the relationship. If the other person isn't interested, then that's that. If the other person is interested, then you can probably do better. And it's ten times worse if you meet someone through a dating website.
You'll meet someone, and the relationship has everything going for it. You like each other. But there's a voice in the back of your head telling you that this is just one potential relationship out of thousands of eligible singles in the area.
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[ 0.21 ms ] story [ 25.7 ms ] threadUhm. Not quite.
Grandiose sense of entitlement? Check.
Complete failure to make any kind of insightful commentary that might transcend her own personal experience? Check.
From the form and content of this writing, its impossible to tell whether :
A) The author is making legitimate observations about personal experiences that don't extend to anyone else.
B) The author is making legitimate observations about problems in the SF dating scene that would bear out for a significant amount of people in SF.
C) The author is as socially maladjusted as the guys she's complaining about, and is therefore the source of her poor social experiences.
D) The author is fabricating a polemic piece to try and garner attention online (a lot of the anecdotes seem too convenient to the narrative, and the whole piece looks suspiciously like what one might engineer to deliberately divide opinion/spark controversy)
> is it possible that San Francisco is not so bad because it has a lot of geeks and marrieds and gays and male cougars, but because it has so many of us.
My take on this is that above all, in a land of opportunity, you have to keep your options open. This is from my experience, not from reading the article. You meet someone, and neither person is really interested in investing in the relationship. If the other person isn't interested, then that's that. If the other person is interested, then you can probably do better. And it's ten times worse if you meet someone through a dating website.
You'll meet someone, and the relationship has everything going for it. You like each other. But there's a voice in the back of your head telling you that this is just one potential relationship out of thousands of eligible singles in the area.