There is a difference between being humble and forcing yourself to be humble because it's a noble thing to do.
Big difference.
Same difference as between being and doing.
Being is born from within, doing is a result of it.
Be-ers are writing books about what they "do" because do-ers are buying them en-masse thinking they can repeat doing-ness and succeed.
When they fail - they think they need to get a list of "better" things to "do" to succeed.
Be humble. But start with cleaning up inner garbage that drives you to think that "doing" humble things is the same as being humble. It is not.
Realizing it is the first step toward being.
I do however think that there is a group of people that have seen early success based purely out of just being smart enough to achieve certain things, and as a result, over relied on that.
I recall reading in a short treatise on the great virtues that politeness is how we acquire virtue; the only way we can learn to be humble is through acting humbly. But acting humbly out of politeness lets us break that circular dependency; we can then learn to see the value of humility and will naturally change to fit the way we're acting.
The way you act to others is not secondary. It really does matter that people exercise self-control and try to act humbly, since that's better to other people. A 'genuine' dick is a dick and not somehow better than someone who is acting like a human through effort.
You may be perfectly clean of inner garbage, and a genuine be-er rather than an imitative do-er. Or since you are almost bragging about this to others who you think to instruct, you may have succumbed to pride just as much as someone who feels good about being humble. It's another layer of the same thing.
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[ 3.5 ms ] story [ 26.2 ms ] threadBe humble. But start with cleaning up inner garbage that drives you to think that "doing" humble things is the same as being humble. It is not. Realizing it is the first step toward being.
Yourself.
The rest is secondary.
I do however think that there is a group of people that have seen early success based purely out of just being smart enough to achieve certain things, and as a result, over relied on that.
You may be perfectly clean of inner garbage, and a genuine be-er rather than an imitative do-er. Or since you are almost bragging about this to others who you think to instruct, you may have succumbed to pride just as much as someone who feels good about being humble. It's another layer of the same thing.